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ORIGINAL: seeksfemslave

dear seeks,
I don't believe you will find many converts here, despite your proselytizing. It may not be for you, but imposition of chastity is a time honored way of causing intense arousal, deep feelings of submission and ultimately a satisfying little spurt. Then the cycle can start over. Males that I have been involved with find it addicting and really don't want to go back to "freedom".
Smythe

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smythe
dear seeks,
Anyone who calls me "old chap" is OK in my book.
Now, keep your hands where I can see them, and we will see how things look to you in a week or two :) Smythe

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I have been attracted to this idea for a while, I like the idea of being kept by someone, forbidden sexual release, etc.  Especially if I am to be used for her sexual pleasure.  But I was attracted mostly to the power exchange of it all.  I had an experience recently with a woman who never allowed me any release, and after a while I realized that this is a sexual fetish.  It is not just another way to express my submission to her, it is actually extremely erotic to be completely denied in this way.  In fact, it makes it so I am turned on all the time.  I wonder, how can chastity be sexual?  It seems like a bit of a contradiction. 

You're right in that giving control of your orgasms can be a very submissive, yet arousing act.  Be careful who you give that control to and how she exercizes it.  If not done properly it can have long term consequences for you which I doubt you'd consider desirable. 

After being taught not to have an orgasm for extended periods of time, or to hold back and not ejaculate, until given permission by your Mistress (if she even gives you permission at all), eventually you may find it difficult to have an orgasm at all.  Many male subs don't speak of this problem for obvious reasons, but believe me when I say that it happens after being conditioned in the manner that some Dommes are known to train their subs to perform to please them.  That kind of training and mental conditioning is not easy to undo after it's been imbedded in a man's subconscious for a long enough period of time.

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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I wonder, how can chastity be sexual?  It seems like a bit of a contradiction. 

Because ejaculation is not all there is to sex.

Think of chastity as very extended foreplay, even extreme foreplay, and I think you eliminate the contradiction.

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I have been attracted to this idea for a while, I like the idea of being kept by someone, forbidden sexual release, etc.  Especially if I am to be used for her sexual pleasure.  But I was attracted mostly to the power exchange of it all.  I had an experience recently with a woman who never allowed me any release, and after a while I realized that this is a sexual fetish.  It is not just another way to express my submission to her, it is actually extremely erotic to be completely denied in this way.  In fact, it makes it so I am turned on all the time.  I wonder, how can chastity be sexual?  It seems like a bit of a contradiction. 

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ORIGINAL: subartist

Thanks for the warning, although I think I will be able to tell if I'm doing any damage to my body, and would then rethink the situation.  But I think I can go a long way before I get anywhere near that point...

Just to clarify, what I'm speaking of, it's not about doing physical damage to your body.  Instead it's about doing damage to your mind!  Chastity and denial, in various forms, can become a form of psychological programming that's difficult to undo, eventually either preventing or making it very difficult for men who've been subject to such training to be able to ejaculate when stimulated normally.  It's not a case where they're not physically capabable of it, but instead one where they're phsychologically not able to give theirselves permission.

The concept is similar to what one thinks of in regard to Pavlov's dogs.  It works very much the same on a male where chastity is used long term as a means of control.  Eventually the programming makes it difficult for him to ejaculate even when given permission to do so as that's how deep and effective the programming can work; despite the intense arousal and desire he may have to explode, releasing what's been building inside him after being denied the opportunity to ejaculate for an extended period of time.

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ORIGINAL: footsubdenver

I do have a question, would the use of a cock cage for long periods like month or two cause atrophy to the cock muscles? That weakness to the muscles can prevent erections. Any thoughts?

footsubDenver

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ORIGINAL: subartist

I'll keep your warnings in mind, but I still hope to be locked up in one of these devices one day...  I find it to be so stimulating to be controlled and denied in this way.  If my Mistress will wish it of course, I can have a change of heart depending on what is required of me.

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

The "contradiction" you mentioned is one of the things that make it so exciting. The fact that she is controlling your ability to have an orgasm is very arousing, yet she denies your relief. This continues your sexual arousal, and in fact increases it because the control she has over you is arousing in its own right. This makes your desire and need for orgasm even greater, and yet part of you doesn't want the relief of orgasm, because it's so exciting to be controlled and denied. It's a feedback loop of incredible power.

I think one of the most exciting and powerful things a domme can do to a man is to control his orgasm, and always keep him guessing about whether she's going to allow him relief. The uncertainty will keep him on edge, always hoping, never knowing what's in store for him this time. If he has no hope of relief, his interest may waver. If he doesn't know, his attention and dependence on her grows, and her control increases.

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ORIGINAL: Absolutemaster

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/warn1231.htm

Just thought I'd share...