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RE: When a Dom is new... - 7/25/2005 4:18:36 PM

dominmd

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Hate to say it, but I fit Kinkypupper's DaddyDom definition almost perfectly. And while I am not totally new to bdsm, I am, by many people's standards inexperienced. A lot of what I do, is from the gut. I do what feels right. If I don't feel right, I simply stop. And I do fall in love easily which is almost perfect since me loving someone allows me to not go too far to fast or too hard.

Being open and honest and communicating is anyone's best bet at success.

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RE: When a Dom is new... - 7/25/2005 8:54:18 PM

EvilTwin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominmd

Hate to say it, but I fit Kinkypupper's DaddyDom definition almost perfectly. And while I am not totally new to bdsm, I am, by many people's standards inexperienced. A lot of what I do, is from the gut. I do what feels right. If I don't feel right, I simply stop. And I do fall in love easily which is almost perfect since me loving someone allows me to not go too far to fast or too hard.

Being open and honest and communicating is anyone's best bet at success.

The DaddyDom description fits me as well.
I am still new to the lifestyle, only a few months into it.
Reading this description set the niche where I most comfortably fit. I know there is no need or reason to want to fit a specific set of "rules"... but as a novice it does help with the understanding of myself.

My submissive is helping me along. Telling me her needs, how different things fulfill her, doing her best to make sure I am properly taken care of.
When she has fully given herself over to me to guide and care for, I have no doubts that I will be ready to fully assume the role of her Dominant.
Communication in this isntance is key.
Let him know that this is what you want, this is who you are.
I Myself would not be interested in a person who is playing at this, as it is not a game to me... but what feels like a calling, a blossoming of true self.

If he is of the same mindset and personality you will be giving him the most amazing thing he has ever experianced.

I wish you both the best in your quest.

Jim

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RE: When a Dom is new... - 1/23/2006 6:01:52 PM

Mastermozilla

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What exactly is the definition of a daddydom and i'm new to the lifestyle

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RE: When a Dom is new... - 1/23/2006 11:05:32 PM

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What exactly is the definition of a daddydom and i'm new to the lifestyle

See, BabyDoms grow up to be DaddyDoms and then they have more little BabyDoms…

It's someone who has a paternal approach, strong but kindly, caring and protective. They aren't sadistic but can deliver a whopping whipping if necessary.

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RE: When a Dom is new... - 1/24/2006 6:06:32 PM

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My journey into the lifestyle started when I first tied up my baby sitter at the ripe old age of 5 years old and I never stopped. Then 34 years later I got a divorce and discover this lifestyle through the internet and munches. I have talked allot over the years were some go their experience from a partner who was into it and they were not and they taught them allot. Some had been taught by a submissive and some by a Dominate as long those doing the teaching and mentoring help them on their way. I have recommended some to attend munches and read books so they get help with their understanding in the lifestyle. You got to learn some were and you are doing the right thing for him but also include for him to seek out munches and event so he can attend workshops to get more experiences. Good luck. Hoosierscorpio we all got to start some were in this lifestyle and finding them with the knowledge is hard to come by.

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RE: When a Dom is new... - 1/28/2006 10:10:12 AM

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I am a new Dom but I have been in the Lifestyle a while and am pretty lucky to know some Doms and subs that I get to play with in a safe manner. Having been a sub for a long time I do understand a bit of where subbies are coming from (sometimes) and try to gauge what I am doing according to her reaction. It is getting easier to tell when she wants more or when it is time to cool down a little bit but the journey is exciting and I love it.

your dom is very lucky and I wish you both all the best.

Kinkily,
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RE: When a Dom is new... - 1/28/2006 1:23:56 PM

desoutter

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early on...

I am a metal worker and I met two woman at the local irish pub... They asked me if I could make a cage... 'sure I could' - how about a this and a that?
I had no Idea what they were talking about - at seventeen years old a puppy cage is for a puppy...

As it turns out - the oldest was a woman who owned a dungeon and the youngest was her dom in training (22 year old). I met them at their shop and began working on a few items they wanted assembled.
I made a few cages - a concentration pole - collars - and inexchange for my services I was given instruction on becoming a dom. As it turns out... I really enjoyed it. Having two woman as mentors and with my own personality, it was a great combination. They took great care to help me understand bondage / discipline / training. Everything was at my own pace... I found on more than one occasion... If something didnt quite fit my personality - I went on to other things... As time went on... and I think this is the important part - you begin to understand your skills / abilities / likes / dislikes and those of your 'sub' 'slave'. The key was "time".

Allow your future dom to explore and take all the time you need.
desoutter

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