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Assistance requested please - 9/23/2007 3:43:50 PM

abchipster

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Hello,

i have posted and replied to some other posts here. now i would like to ask a few questions and get some help regarding my situation.

i am a 55 year old submissive male, separated now for 3 years. after my separation, i decided to seek out my submissive side and begin to look for a Dominant partner. my marriage was a very vanilla one with no D/s at all. even though i served my ex-wife very well by doing housework, laundry, cooked all the melas, and ironed.

i knew i have been submissive all my life, having served young girls at a very ealry age, without realizing what it was all about. now that i look back on those experiences, i am certain that this is my destiny. fulfilling it is a whole other task. i do experience as a submissive.

please, if i may ask; please give me advice and asssistance on how one presents themselves and makes themselves available for others to meet and learn more about.

what venues are there to present myself?

i have always heard there is someone out there for everybody. being a good submissive, i know that patience is one of my strong points. in time i hope to find and meet that special person to take me, train me, mold me to Her pleasure.

thank you for any advice you may have.

sincerely,

abchipster

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RE: Assistance requested please - 9/23/2007 5:10:55 PM

MamaDomme

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You should continue to do the things you are already doing-- going to local clubs, munches, ect. You will meet someone.

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RE: Assistance requested please - 9/23/2007 5:13:47 PM

LaMistressa

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Find your local community and begin attending local events (munches or workshops as an example.) By meeting people in your area, you stand a better chance for people to find out more about you, and for you to meet people who share your interests.

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RE: Assistance requested please - 9/23/2007 9:02:43 PM

pixelslave

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abchipster,
I took a quick look at your profile and it left me feeling as though you didn't really know what you were looking for. If you're really looking for a relationship with a Domme, then I strongly suggest that's what you focus on in your profile here (obviously you're doing the right things in your local scene). Your profile also didn't tell me a lot about you as a person, your interests outside of BDSM, or what you felt you had to offer a dominant woman in a relationship. Instead it seemed to focus on your needs, instead of selling yourself or describing more specifically what you were really looking for in a relationship. For me, it seemed to send a lot of mixed signals that I suspect would be a turn-off to Dommes looking for a LTR with someone to make her own.

I hope you find this helpful and will take it in the spirit in which it's intended.

- pixel

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RE: Assistance requested please - 9/23/2007 11:42:55 PM

FullfigRIMaam

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quote:

i am a 55 year old submissive male, separated now for 3 years. after my separation, i decided to seek out my submissive side and begin to look for a Dominant partner.

You will probably have a whole lot better luck if you actually dissolve your marriage as opposed to simply being separated. Is there a reason you are still legally betrothed to a woman you've been apart from for 3years? M

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