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RE: first training session!! - 9/27/2007 10:46:29 AM

musikman1

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I just had my first training session, and it was more exciting and fulfilling than anything I could possibly have imagined. My Mistress and I spent some time online exchanging mail on where my interests matched hers (in other words, why should She decide to spend her valuable time with me?), a BDSM checklist, sample scenes, HARD LIMITS, etc.

As it turned out, I had many compatible interests to what my Mistress would see as her favorites (forced feminization, smoking fetish, role-reversal, humiliation). My Mistress is a three hour drive from home, but it's well worth the time.

I have my second session this evening, and I'm counting the hours!

mm1

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RE: first training session!! - 9/27/2007 2:15:41 PM

justnewsub

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muskiman1, i have to agree the build up to go play again is *almost* as good as being there... the anticipation.... yummy! i have never felt so fullfilled and happy, my confidence has even grown, it's amazing how good you can feel when you stop lying to yourself and give in to the urges that are perfectly natural!!

I wish you the best

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RE: first training session!! - 10/16/2007 2:46:48 PM

musikman1

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Hey!

Thanks for the note justnewsub. I'm 50yo, and a VERY newbie to "real scene" play, whereas I've been fantasizing and reading about it for literally decades! To my Domme's credit, when i submit a "wish list" or "sample scene" to Her, She has the expertise and experience to know the difference between what my "mind" thinks is a great time, and what a human body is actually able to take!

Probably like a lot of subs, my fantasies tend toward the ultimate drama: (Being the sub, tied down and forced to orally service all 75 guests at the party) vs. what a real human can take before exhaustion (probably 50 or so would be plenty - grin).

She has moderated my scenes, and CORRECTLY SO, which has made the training much more effective for me..

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RE: first training session!! - 10/17/2007 2:29:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: justnewsub

i didn't know the difference between playing and training... now i am wondering.... i feel like i'm doing everything ass backwards... so wanting to learn and be taken under someone wing... i am scared now that i may have done something wrong..... ...... i have been thinking alot today about everything.... i like what he has taught me so far and he seems ligit, but maybe i went in too fast and blind..... was i taken advantage of????? HELP

Chill, baby girl. Relax and have fun with it all. There is no right or wrong way to do anything really if it feels good to you and your Dom and it's not harming either of you. If you are scening and you/he wants to call it training, go ahead. If you are in training and want to call it playing, go ahead. Don't get all hung up on terminology coz everybody's definition of the same word will be different. You and your Dom do whatever you both like and feel safe with, with or without a collar, in or out of a scene. Above all, have fun with it...the whole reason we're here. Hugs to ya.

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RE: first training session!! - 10/17/2007 10:24:19 AM

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i thought i would just put an update on here... things have gone great between me and my Dom... i agree it is all in the terminology....

i call it training because i am so new and i am learning what i like or don't like, and where my limits exactly are. every time i am with my Dom it is fun and exciting, the thrill of not knowing what will happen next and the pleasure of finding out what he had planned....

i think when i first posted this thread i was in a bit of a "culture shock" i read so much on watching out for on-line preditors and stuff, but have found to really listen to my gut instinct.... and to see how i really feel about things...

thanks again to all who have posted