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confused - 7/21/2005 11:09:15 AM

Valhalla69

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Hi all,i am hoping you can give me your opinion on something as subs/slaves.

Having recently read a very graphic journal of a sub on this site,and liked what i read,my question is do i put on my profile that the kind of sub i am looking for is like the one i read about who basicaly was a piece of meat for her Master and his friends to use?

If i do that will i A) put people off and b) have people thinking i am some kind of weirdo.

I know as far as the lifestyle goes its down to personal prefrence as to what you practice.

I would appreciate peoples opinions on this.

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 11:13:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Valhalla69

Hi all,i am hoping you can give me your opinion on something as subs/slaves.

Having recently read a very graphic journal of a sub on this site,and liked what i read,my question is do i put on my profile that the kind of sub i am looking for is like the one i read about who basicaly was a piece of meat for her Master and his friends to use?

If i do that will i A) put people off and b) have people thinking i am some kind of weirdo.

I know as far as the lifestyle goes its down to personal prefrence as to what you practice.

I would appreciate peoples opinions on this.

So if you are serious about wanting what that person posted in their journal and you don't state it clearly, are you going to just say "oops" when they meet you and think you are some kind of weirdo? I don't get it. If it's going to be what you want, why sugar coat it. More importantly, try to separate fantasy from reality.

Do you think you should water down your desires so you don't alienate women up front, and instead try to get them to do it after you meet them?

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 11:13:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: Valhalla69

If i do that will i A) put people off and b) have people thinking i am some kind of weirdo.

I know as far as the lifestyle goes its down to personal prefrence as to what you practice.

I would appreciate peoples opinions on this.

As opposed to putting it here?

The answer to both of your questions is yes.

The answer is also that there are plenty who will be attracted to it and think that's exactly the kind of weirdo they want.

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 11:19:23 AM

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Someones "weirdness" is another persons fantasy. Its better to state up front what you want then wade through everyone that doesnt fit your requirements. Its better to tell the truth upfront and attract those who have the same fantasy... than to hide it for fear of alienating the people who wouldnt want that life anyway.

Good luck with your search

nena

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 11:23:11 AM

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Hello There,
I would definitely in some way mention it for sure if that's what you're ideally looking for.
It will save you weeding out sub's who would not comply with your desired approach or finding yourself severely attracted to a sub who would alter your desired goal by her reluctance, and not getting what you want in the end at all.
You also may get better responses from ladies (like me) who desire that in a relationship.
Something like - Would prefer a sub that doesn't mind being loaned out from time to time, or something like that.
I think any of the BDSM relationships can be ones that label us as weirdo’s when considered by the closed minded people who don't accept our approach. I say find your kink, relish it, and realize you're far from the first one with those thoughts and desires.
Sincerely,

sub suzanne

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 11:53:35 AM

Valhalla69

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Thanks so far to anyone who has replied and your right,which is why i have just changed my profile and once its approved i would appreciate any comments on it as i was as honest i could be and just told it the way it is and i hope this will help me find what i am lookign for :)

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RE: confused - 7/21/2005 3:38:09 PM

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Checked your new profile, and while I know this isn't the type of relationship I personally would want, I do think you managed to word it about as delicately as possible. And your journal entries definitely help to show you've actually spent some time thinking about the lifestyle and aren't just running on the fantasy stuff we've all seen in bad porn...

It would have been easy to go over the top with something like this.

Kudos, well done.

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