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flowspen -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 9:28:06 AM)

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flowspen,

*waves hi. You both have a year so maybe today is just a day of feeling a little discouraged?
 
You said that male Doms don't seem to mind? Well, I cannot help wondering if that means they want to get in her pants, so they are easier to approach in the beginning? Maybe because for many women their heart can get engaged as a natural course? I know that's a generality, can I help it if it's twue>?
 
Anway, Fly to LA and we'll sort it out Sugah! (giggles)
 
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
 
Have a great night with your lady,
Miss Irish
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i agree that the Doms or alot of them want sex until they mature and find out there is more to this lifestyle than free sex whenever you want.  i was feeling discuraged how did you know that?  LOL

i feel there is hope today i spoke with a friend/Dominant actually from the LA this morning and She gives me hope! 

i think a trip is in order :)

Thank You



flowspen -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 9:31:25 AM)

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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

flows,

As it's been repeated, it depends on the people involved, what they want, what all are comfortable with, etc.  -just like with any poly or even just friendly set of relationships.  It's always a matter of finding the right match and style.

I'm one who is willing to take on a married sub/slave depending on the situation and our goals in the relationship... and this has much to do with what I want in someone submissive to me in general and how my own marriage is arranged.

It just depends on if there is compatibility there, as with a single sub.  Some, like myself, have marriages where if a friend or other something needs me to turn to my spouse and say, "honey, have to go.  be back roughly X or I'll call you" and leave at a moment's notice then I (or he) can do so and there is no muss or fuss.  If a sub/slave had a similar marriage dynamic then they being married wouldn't be a serious issue for us.  So it really just depends...




i think you are right it is a personal preference for people.  i am trying to figure out how to write my profile on here to attract those that might be interested in something like this.  We have a target group of Dom Dom Couple / Poly househoolds as a great option.  it is funny because during this time we both have met Dominants who are into poly so there is some light now at least. 

Your arrangement sounds great mind if i steal a few of those idea's???



flowspen -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 9:32:55 AM)

Thank You and i agree i am hoping there is one that would like to benefit from my service.  :)



Phoenixandnika -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 9:43:44 AM)

I think it is possible, but it can be harder to find a dominant or submissive if your in another relationship. Those dynamics are not for everyone. They can and do work but they take work and alot of open and honest communication. I have had a male submissive in my collar previously who was married to someone else. She didn't interfer but she did stay informed. We simply had an agreement that there was no "sexual contact" because that was were as a married couple they drew the line. I would rather know up front that someone has a husband or wife than find out later. Later is an instant killer for me, there is no possiblity of it working out then.
 
I would also urge you not to get stuck on labels. My label for a submissive or slave may not be yours or the guys down the block --but it is MINE. Find someone that fits your definitions.

 
Blessed Be,
 
Nika



earthycouple -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 9:47:37 AM)

I personally have no problem with my (non living in) sub having a partner as long as that partner is fully aware of the dynamic between the sub and me. I've had that in the past and would do it again.  Now, when it comes to the long term, intensive, I want you for the rest of my life sorta deal....either the partner belongs to me also or I'm afraid it wouldn't work. 



flowspen -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 11:24:27 AM)

It is always great seeing you.. .  i like that way You can have the best in all situations then. 



MistressScarlot -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 11:44:34 AM)

To me, it's impossible to truly own one who also is owned by another. It just doesn't work; in the end, there are always choices rather than one choice. If you are being groomed to truly /serve/ me in every way, any time you spend serving another is time you're not devoting to me or to things that make my life better and easier.

If it's a sub/sub couple and they are both owned by the same Dominant, that's a different matter entirely. Then the Dominant would be the one to make clear their wishes, and you both would be working in tandem to fulfill them. There's no conflict of interest, as long as the Dom takes control and teaches you what they expect.





flowspen -> RE: Is it possible to be owned if? (9/25/2007 12:49:37 PM)

i value Your opinion and it does help me understand which was the purpose of the this entry.  At first people were just saying it isn't possible to me and i couldn't understand why.  Your example is perfect explanation as to why and i can understand it from that perspective.  it also helps me determine the types of people that it would work with.  Half the battle is identifying ones market of opportunity for happiness and this entry has helped me emensely in doing just that.

Thank You.. i use to live up in Philadelphia area a year ago before relocating down here.  How is up there these days?



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