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Delayed Punishment - 7/21/2005 2:04:39 PM

littleone35

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hi i was wondering if anyone else experirnced this. With my late Master if i earned punishment (which was not often) he would not deliever it right away. He would wait until we had been scening for a while then deliever it. I was wondering if all Master are like this or just my late one.

littleone

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/21/2005 2:21:03 PM

sub4hire

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quote:

He would wait until we had been scening for a while then deliever it. I was wondering if all Master are like this or just my late one.

As rare as punishment goes in our household. Punishment is punishment. It isn't defined within a scene.

Have to ask, was it clear it was punishment? Scenes are usually fun for us. That sounds like it would make the scene just go bad?

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/21/2005 2:44:58 PM

littleone35

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sorry i should have been clearer it was not as part of the scene he would stop after we had been scening a whle and then deliever it. He said it was because he could make me fell good after he had to punish me but i think it was just his kink.

littleone

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/21/2005 3:04:11 PM

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since a Master/Dom/ee is if they are true and real to their submissives remaines under control at all times, then if one delays that punishment action to either gain control of their emotions or to heighten the senses of the intended reciptiant, immidiate or delayed doesn't matter to me as long as it's controled in whatever manner or form given, that is to include those with well worn knees not having to remain on them past the limit of reasonability..(smile)

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 2:13:00 AM

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Yeesh, don't even get me started on delayed punishment. God waiting for it is so much worse! I was told I was due a punishment back in February for failing a task and *lowers head* lying and had to wait a full month before I would see my Master again (we were too busy). On the night I was supposed to meet him for the punishment (which was going to be the worst I ever got) he calls and and tells me we can't do it that night. (I didn't know what the punishment was BTW). A few days later he ended our "formal relationship" but said that should we ever get back together I'd still have that punishment due. Well, we got back together over the summer and he says he hasn't forgotten it, he just likes drawing it out and making me worry. I'm to the point where I WANT to be caned senseless (not that he's going to... I still don't know what's coming) just to get it over and done with. Agh I'm going crazy!!!! lol delayed punishments suck big time!

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 2:56:45 AM

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Being that Pet and I are in a LDR for the moment, I sometimes have to put punishments off for a bit. Also, at family reunions or just out in plain public she sometimes dose things that earns her a spanking and such. But I can't punish her right then and there.

Unfortuantly, I sometimes forget that I was going to punish my pet meaning that she got away with something

What's even more sad is that after much time as went by, she reminds me that she got away with being bratty and ask about whatever happened to that spanking to be even more of a brat. Talk about a double wammie of letting your guard down.

I can't wait till we start living together. I'm pretty good at remembering when the time span is only the drive home

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 6:34:32 AM

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Hello There,
My Master has not had a reason in my 4 months with him to have to punish me for real yet (THANK GOD). If I've been a little too talkative or he thinks I'm not focused enough he's pinched the crap out of my nipple right then.
I have talked to many other sub's at Black Rose functions who've said they would never challenge certain Dom's or try to get out of their bondage, as they will do exactly what you've said. For example they were doing a presentation on mummification and one of the subs he'd used as his model has been a girl that not only cusses the Dom out the whole time she's in a scene with one, but she always try’s to get out of any bondage. When this Dom wrapped her up she could have easily gotten out but didn't move a muscle. After the presentation was over I ask her why she didn't try to get out like she always does. She said that particular Dom would just act like everything was fine and he was not offended, but she knew he'd make her pay dearly later, and usually when she least expected it.
So my answer is yes, I think Dom's do hold punishment till an appropriate time presents itself. Besides if you acted up say in a grocery store or something I think it would be an inappropriate place to fully give out a punishment.

I know when my kids got into trouble I also would send them to their room to think about what they did all evening before I gave them the punishment.
It gave me time to get over being upset, and the opportunity to think of a punishment to fit the crime. They would have much rather just gotten it over with, then to have to wait. It left them very nervous and anxious thinking about what I was going to do.
So I think not only does delayed punishment give the time for the punisher to calm down, give them tine to decide on what punishment to use, give them the element of surprise, but also does a good mind f**k to the person who knows it's coming and has no idea when.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 6:57:01 AM

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quote:

I was wondering if all Master are like this or just my late one.

if this slave is to be punished, it is up to Master the circumstances that go along with it----where, when, method and duration--this slave has been punished in public, in private, immediately and delayed. either way, this slave is grateful for the correction, and especially glad when it is over.

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 7:30:48 AM

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What is the point of punishment if it is delayed? You dont punish a child a month after the dis-obeyment. How can a problem be corrected if punishment is not given swiftly??

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 7:46:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

What is the point of punishment if it is delayed? You dont punish a child a month after the dis-obeyment. How can a problem be corrected if punishment is not given swiftly??

The difference is in your question. We are adults here and almost always know when we are being bratty or are otherwise deserving of punishment. A child, due to age and experience may not know. For the adult, the delay prolongs the feeling of distress in knowing judgement day is coming.

For those into to it, sounds like a delicious way to reinforce.

My hats off to them.

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 7:58:11 AM

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Fair enough ill phrase it. If someone dis-obeys why will they not do it again? Sure the punishment will be more intense when it arrives but in the mean time its fun and games. Also if no punishment is given for one thing then the submissive will start dis-obeying other things.

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 7:58:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

hi i was wondering if anyone else experirnced this. With my late Master if i earned punishment (which was not often) he would not deliever it right away. He would wait until we had been scening for a while then deliever it. I was wondering if all Master are like this or just my late one.

littleone

Hello, I admit Im no expert and maybe talking out My a**, but the books Ive read all say you shouldnt delay a punishment because its not fair to have the sub/slave sit and stew. Obviously,you cant always punish there and then but the beeks say making them wait is unfair.

And unreasonable.

HalloweenWhite.

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/22/2005 12:26:46 PM

littleone35

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Also if no punishment is given for one thing then the submissive will start dis-obeying other things

Well in my case knowing the punishment was coming was enough to keep me in line. It gave me time to think about what i did wrong and my late Master knew it was the best way to keep me from doing that again. As for me i was not disobedient 99% of the time so was not a problem for me. Delayed punishment can be quite effective. like someone else said the best thing abour punishment is when its over

littleone

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/30/2005 7:43:02 PM

SweetSerendipity

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrHellsFury

since a Master/Dom/ee is if they are true and real to their submissives remaines under control at all times, then if one delays that punishment action to either gain control of their emotions or to heighten the senses of the intended reciptiant, immidiate or delayed doesn't matter to me as long as it's controled in whatever manner or form given, that is to include those with well worn knees not having to remain on them past the limit of reasonability..(smile)

In my case it is usually to heighten the senses. When I misbehave accidentally - I am usually reprimanded on the spot. If it is a temper thing or a wanting to test my limits thing...then he usually waits until I have forgotten, and am in a wonderful purring sweet mood, then comes the reminder of the behavior and the punishment.

For me, it is much more effective, and I do not go out of my way to get punished again...for a very long time. I cannot speak for Master, this is only how it appears to me.

Sweet Serendipity

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/31/2005 1:09:12 AM

subD4master

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My Master and I live apart.. so if I do wrong Master will tell me that I will be punished..time will go by ..We get together and I have forgotten about the punishment and HE will punish me for doing wrong. Master will remind me of why I'm being punished. I'msure if we were together 24-7 I would be punished right then and there.

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RE: Delayed Punishment - 7/31/2005 10:40:28 AM

tinkJH

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Corrections are given immediatly. Verbally if Master can either take me into the bedroom or another room, silently sometimes by just a look, or even he will IM me or Email me, Then tell me to go read it.

Punishments are generally delayed around here. They have to work around the children. But, Punishments usually are given the night of the day the punishment was earned. If I earn a punishment tuesday, I will get it tuesday night. However, I have had punishments extended or delayed till the following night - as sometimes the little one has the tendancy to wake up either before, or even in the middle of it. Then, I will recieve it, or the rest of the punishment the next night. And when a punishment is extended - it means it starts over. Even if I was given 15 of the 20 strikes I earned. I will get all 20 of them the next night if the punishment ended up being interupted. Luckily, that has only happen twice.

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