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came4U -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 2:40:54 AM)
ya, and boats store lots of great ropes, perhaps chains too. [;)]

Celeste43 -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 2:51:59 AM)
Why doesn't matter. What matters is that you discuss in the beginning if this is something he wants or doesn't want. I need a solid, monogamous relationship. If he said that was what he needed also, and then six months later decided he had the right to demand I have sex with others, he would have broken his word and my trust in him. He has the right, as do I, to identify an unmet need and talk about it. He does not, and neither do I, have the right to demand the other break a limit. As far as the other guy being a better lover, think again. Sex is mainly in the mind. If some guy shows up and you're told to get naked, he's getting into your body and not your mind. He won't know that biting your neck makes you all warm and fuzzy and that extended nipple play just irritates you no end. Without knowing a lot about you, and without you being excited to be with him, the sex will be lousy. Obviously women who enjoy anonymous sex will find this exciting, but if you aren't one of those women, you won't.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 7:07:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plspickme So what happens if he sends you out and you like this guy better? The Master loses. What if he is a better lover? How does that make the Master feel? It doesn't sound like the Master would have any control then. Quite frankly, if you're willing to jump ship just because you think this other guys dick feels better or because you like this guy after meeting him one time then you're doing your "Master" a favor. I know I would not want someone with such low commitment threshold. As for the original post: If he is sending you out to get fucked by someone else it must either make him happy to do so or he is test something. What it is he is testing I couldn't say.

HotFaerieMama -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 7:16:44 AM)
i have known from the start that He's going to use me as He sees fit and that includes chaining me to a post in the middle of a room while He and His friends have their way with me . why? because He can and He wants to and He also knows that this is what i want.

Redandtreasure -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 8:10:07 AM)
There are great side effects to a Top having a bottom being played with by others. Yes there is the power trip the Top is getting. But as you stated later on what happens if you meet a better Top or one that you like better. That’s when it comes down to love. You must respect your Top or you wouldn’t be playing with him but is he just a play partner? If he is then he will understand this and respect your want to move on. If you are in a relationship with him then you are bordering on cheating. Im sure that you have enough respect for your self and for him not to do that. The other thing you have to look at that was mentioned was age you never mentioned it. If he is older does he have ED? Is he physically strong enough to swing on you for long periods of time that you require? Is he on medication that causes him to have dizzy spells? Or anything of the kind? There are so many reasons but when it comes down to it here is a question for you. Have you talked to him about this and told him of your concern? Not everybody likes to play with others it can be degrading in the worse ways not just physically but mentally. Here is the man you trust and he is giving you away at times which in a way is saying I don’t want you for now. That must feel horrid after a while. Well this is just one persons views and means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Have fun and play safe

toservez -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 8:37:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: plspickme do some Master's want to share their sub/slaves with other men? i don't understand that. Is there any good that comes out of it? Because they just do? Why do some people insist on liking pony or pig play? I don't get it but they sure seem to get something out of it. If you don't want to be shared, hold out for a master who won't share you. I echo this sentiment and all other who also echoed it. What makes people like to inflict or receive pain, but yet we do not morally judge that in this life or on this message board. To each their own thing because it is in the minority and a common therefore “acceptable” hard limit we make a moral judgment on this play. As a slave who has been in relationships that has included being loaned out and been part of swinging communities there are probably a lot of reasons. Some men and women just flat out enjoy seeing their other have sex with another and therefore it is like a cuckold situation but reversed. There are websites after websites on men who enjoy their woman having sex with others and not just in a power exchange way. Also if you want a deeper meaning, and I do not mean this is a main reason, is in a severe power exchange relationship giving up one’s sexuality to another is extremely powerful and for a dominant to actually indulge their power in this for a submissive to deal and come to terms of truly giving up her decisions sexually can be very powerful and very intimate. It is a high level of you will do this for me type thing.

toservez -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 8:49:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plspickme So what happens if he sends you out and you like this guy better? The Master loses. What if he is a better lover? How does that make the Master feel? It doesn't sound like the Master would have any control then. The actual loaned out experience between the submissive and the person getting her can be fun, boring or just suck. Even with all these situations the main mind part is still I am doing this for my Master and not yippee I going to get fucked! Obviously this type of play is not for most based on how human beings have developed or from the replies on this topic on message boards. It obviously takes a level of security on this area for both people and has nothing to do with some big picture security thing. As far as what if the other is better, get real! If you think a woman loves or stays with a man based on if they are a better fuck then I suggest working on some unresolved issues. I am not sure I know any woman who does not prefer sex with a person they love enough, especially one you trust enough to loan you out, then some mechanical non emotionally involved fuck session.

AquaticSub -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 8:54:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: plspickme So what happens if he sends you out and you like this guy better? The Master loses. What if he is a better lover? How does that make the Master feel? It doesn't sound like the Master would have any control then. The owner is secure enough in your devotation and his ownership of you not to worry about it. I have a hard time seeing that as a bad thing.

VaWolf -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 10:57:45 AM)
Some do it as an excercise in their control over you. Some do it out of Pride in you. Some may do it to reinforce your position under them. I personally would not share my, pet with anyone else, male or female. She is mine. ::Evil Grin:: Just the way I like her.

plspickme -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 11:32:10 AM)
everyone had such wonderful responses. Thanks to all of You. My Master does not believe in sharing and i feel the same. We think a like on almost everything which is why i feel we are perfect for one another. i was just wondering how other people felt on the subject. i don't judge anyone i will just never understand it. As far as it being the greatest form of power and control. i disagree. My Master owns me mind body and soul and he knows that he doesn't ever ever have to test me or find ways for me to prove my loyalty and devotion to him. i show it to him every minute of every day as he does with me. In other words he doesn't need to play head games with me and nor i with him. We know what we have and we know how blessed we are to have it. i wish everyone the same kind of happiness.

hisannabelle -> RE: Why (9/25/2007 3:34:00 PM)
greetings plspickme, i am not sure if this was implied in your post...but i do want to add that it is not a matter of proving anything or a test of trust for everyone who does this, or anything along those lines, necessarily. and for some it CAN be the greatest form of power and control (it isn't for us, but it is certainly an important part of our relationship). everyone's mileage varies...there is no right, wrong, or standard way for sharing (or not sharing) to play out in a relationship, i think. at any rate, i think that as long as you are happy and your relationship works -for you- that is what matters :) i am really happy that the responses on this thread helped your confusion/curiosity. respectfully, annabelle.

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