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what is my mistake!!! - 7/21/2005 6:26:05 PM

alex100

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first of all i am seeking answer from mistresses..

here is my story. i am asian just moved to USA. i am a slave from the beginning. i am not fantacy seeker and i dont consider myself lier. i am truly seeking for a mistress. i thought i could find one as i spend so much time and hard work for that. but actually i am not finding one. i am trying to figureout why? here is some reason i think i may have to think-

1. my english is bad. i frequently make spelling error i guess. i think mistress just find my letter boring or not intersting.

2. i didn't write anything in my profile. cause i think my bad english will turn them off.

3. american mistress don't like asian slave. or not confident about their performance.

4. there is nothing wrong to be asian. it is just i dont look impressive in the pic.

5. as i am new i dont know how to convince a american lady. my apporach is not right.

every time i write any mistress i read her profile. try to ask very polite way. tell about my limits(actually very few). i also tell i am not just craving for sex.. i can be a maid also without any physical relations. i always tell then true..about my age, taste, like, dislike.

then why i am not getting one? is it common for all slave that they really have to wait very long time before find one. i know 75% slave is fake. but many have mistress.. but i am true and dont have one.. this is painful..

i am searching for my mistake??? any mistress can give me some advice?

alex

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/21/2005 7:42:57 PM

UtopianRanger

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The language barrier is indeed a tough one. I'd just tell ya to stick with it and don't give up, it's just a matter of time.

Solicit some help. Whether it be here or elsewhere, find someone to help you with putting your profile together.

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5. as i am new i dont know how to convince a american lady. my apporach is not rig
ht.

This is just a quick fix : Watch the movie ''Hitch'' about ten times ; All Americans, Women included, can relate to ''Big Willie'' LOL!

Hang in there and Good luck.

- The Ranger

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/21/2005 8:49:09 PM

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You will definitely do better if you write something on your profile aside from your extensive interest list, which would keep someone like me away. The English you will improve over time even if after the Dominas write to you and tell you how badly your profile is written (or what is wrong with your english).
http://www.collarchat.com/Femdoms_can%27t_find_a_decent_male_partner/m_129442/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/24%2F7%2F365%2Dslavery%3A_possible/m_128411/tm.htm
I hope reading the threads above are helpful for you since there is a lot of good advice there.
Good luck, and welcome to the boards. M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 7/22/2005 8:02:24 PM >

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/21/2005 10:43:18 PM

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I am not a mistress, but I do agree with M's suggestions:

If you put something about yourself in your profile, a potential domina will have some inkling of what you are like. It gives her incentive to write to you, or take an interest in you. But as M cautioned, try not to simply repeat your BDSM interests.

Her other suggestion, to read the messages in these forums is a good one. I know several people who live in non-English speaking countries and they frequent similar forums simply to practice reading and writing English as most people use it. And hey, you can learn other stuff too!

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/22/2005 7:58:03 PM

MsPurrmeow

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Alex,

With great care and concern, I suggest that you write more in your profile. Write something as long as this Original Post. The more you write, the more it is obvious that you have more to you than a few misspelled words. If you write very little, there is very little data from which to make a decision. Write something very long, very descriptive and intelligent. Looking at your profile, I would not have bothered to look twice, whereas, when I read your posts in the Message Boards, you have a lot of good things to say. Remember that if you increase the amount of positive information, you decrease the value of the little things that might bother a person.

Good Luck. Be patient. Share more of yourself, and be fearless about explaining what you are and what you want. Truth and courage are very attractive.

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/22/2005 9:48:57 PM

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In addition to what the other ladies have said, I think you should mention where in Asia you are from, and what language you speak. You could find someone who you can converse with in your native language, or who might be willing to learn a little of it.

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 7/26/2005 11:39:59 PM

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You need to write something in your profile, first of all. The person is going to find out that you're not totally fluent in English the first time you write to them. Explain on your profile that English is a second language. Not bothering at all means that most will pass you over without thinking twice.

Second, you need to list what part of Ohio. I have a friend there who just finished seeking a sub, and any who didn't bother to list at least a general area didn't rate her consideration.. I know Ohio has tons of small towns and you may feel odd pinpointing yourself too closely, but you can always list your county, such as Jefferson County, Ohio or Ashtabula County Ohio.

I'm going to give you some links I've posted a few times recently.
First of all my most recent blog on why newbies have trouble finding partners:
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog&Mytoken=20050726233509
then some Domme courtship sites:
http://www.femalesincontrol.com/courtship.htm
http://gloria-brame.com/domidea/dompoe.htm
and finally, a link that tells you what a munch is:
http://www.soj.org/articles/A%20Beginners%20Guide%20to%20BDSM%20Munches.htm
After you read about munches, Google the name of your nearest large city and the word munch. You should find one to attend. If you'd bothered to put your general area I'd have tried to match you up with a local munch. Espeically with your problems writing, you'll probably do better in a real time setting.

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RE: what is my mistake!!! - 8/1/2005 2:27:28 PM

alex100

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thank you very much for all the reply and the help. after read all of your reply, i have a feeling that i will find a mistress. may be i just need patience. i will put profile soon. someone send me a message and wanted to help me to edit for my spelling and other error. i really appreaciate all the help.

now i have a new problem. i was using my scul computer to chat, but the admin. banned the webpage.. i can't access collarme.com anymore. i have to wait for a month and buy my own computer and hope i will again can talk.(i still can access collarchat.com).

thank you again

alex

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