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daddybabygirl2 -> wannabes (9/25/2007 2:13:58 AM)
do you think you should be able to name and shame bad dom/subs/

latexbarbiets -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 2:17:54 AM)
No this has been discussed tons and tons of times. Though with exceptions maybe for those that get very violent and extremely abusive of their subs, though usually local groups take care of those problems.

laurell3 -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 2:20:15 AM)
who decides who gets shamed?

MissMorrigan -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 2:28:26 AM)
No. What's one person's nightmare is another's idyll. It is never okay to use public boards as a tool to attack a person you feel has hurt you in some way, which is basically what such lists would boil down to and every disgruntled person would be listing names on a whim. Those with hidden agendas, the liars, those on a personal vendetta would have as much right to post as those who are genuinely affected by unscrupulous people. Over a year ago I was invited to join a website which listed details of subs dom/mes wanted to warn others about - I refused and made it clear I felt it unjustifiable, and nothing good could come from it. I also noticed, at the time, that the dom/mes in favour of it tended to be regular dramaqueens on the boards.

came4U -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 2:32:00 AM)
quote: who decides who gets shamed? You decide!...but keep it to yourself. IMO - Unless a person was violent (never happened to me personally), it is not my place to diss or out a man here because he was 1. a liar 2. a fraud 3. un-domly etc (whatever kind of possible falseness). Even assholes and players deserve love from 'someone'. Compare it to a conversation with your friends: 'Don't eat at that restraunt, their food sucks.' (maybe I like greasy, salty food though, maybe tingling extremities turn me on, maybe I like ugly cheap china, hey, the dishes seem clean, this restraunt has great muzak). 'Don't eat at that restraunt, their kitchen fails health inspection.' (eat at my own risk? will I find a cockroach? Will I get food poisoning? Can I ask the restraunt owner for a current health dept. rating certificate?). big difference. So, after discussions (or a meet) it doesn't work out with someone? Then YOU can avoid them, doesn't mean everyone should. I personally won't 'parent' total strangers into deciding who is worthy of speaking to another who I found unfit. I would mind my business after I had washed my hands of them. Edited to agree with MissMorrigan's words.

greyarcher315 -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 6:34:00 AM)
Also far to easy to abuse such power and use it to try to get back at some one you don't like.

ChicagoSwitchMal -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 6:37:10 AM)
who do I have to abuse to get shamed? Sounds hot but that might just be the switch in me.

Arpig -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 7:00:26 AM)
Nope

MrrPete -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 7:10:10 AM)
Absolutely not. Who are you to judgesomeone elses behaviour? There is a procedure to report "bad" behaviour on CM and there is always the delete and block feature available. The "bad" person may not be that way with everyone. Now that I've read your profile. That stuff happens and the only thing you should is move on and find someone else. When someone treats you badly COMMUNICATE Let them know you didn't like it. He might figure you're too high maintenance and move on himself. Just because you don't like a Dom's style is no reason to bad mouth him.

popeye1250 -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 7:29:34 AM)
No, it's all subjective. Just walk away.

UR2Badored -> RE: wannabes (9/25/2007 7:39:30 AM)
Nope, glad we cannot do that as it is subjective. Luckily, we can seem to identify the revengeful [sm=brush.gif]

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