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DiurnalVampire -> ARGH (9/25/2007 4:54:58 PM)

OK, I am frusterated and I need to ask a stupid question.
AS everyone knows, Angel and I have been together for a year now. Things with him are fantastic, better than I had hoped.
Here's my issue.
Angel has no tolerance for pain, or anything else physical. Kitten used to give me my outlet for my sadistic side. He has been gone for a while now and I am starting to really crave some sort of outlet.

Does anyone else get this way?  I have had more time with Angel than since I got him. Things are going so fantastically, I almost feel bad not being content. However, Angel seems really into being cuckolded, and things have gotten even better after kitten than before. I think having a second might make things better, take my edge off and feed his cuckolding fantasy.

ARGH

Right now, I just want to play, but not just with anyone.

Am I going crazy, or do other people go through this? This is a first for me, honestly.  Angel is the first pet I have been this attached to,but also this limited with.

DV



LadyLynx -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 5:00:53 PM)

I am kind of in a similiar situation, only with no sub.  My sadistic side is screaming at me to get out.    Could you temporarily assuage your hunger at a play party? Are there any bottoms that you could borrow?  as for long term, hate to say it but the only thing to cure that is patience, and keep looking.  If I lived closer to you I would offer my behind to be beat on, as it has been a loooong while! but that is a moot point.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 5:06:33 PM)

Part of my problem is that I dont enjoy the play without some sort of connection to the playmate.  a play party wouldnt do it for me.  And as far as I know, there is no one in the area who is interested in what I am looking for.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 5:59:36 PM)

I'd say don't get a second- just find pain buddies.



SirCache -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 7:24:00 PM)

I'm in a bit of a similar predicament, and currently am using some online roleplaying with a couple friends to help take the edge off, and also to write some things out.  It isn't the same, it's flat and emotionless and lacks substance.  It at least takes some of the need out, though, until I find someone who is more compatible with it comes to pain.



DominaSmartass -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 9:37:40 PM)

I would offer you mine but we're a little far apart.  If you do ever come to philly to visit us though... Seriously though, find another "kitten." Sure you'll have to do some searching but you found a good one once and he had to leave for college or whatever but that doesn't mean there aren't more good ones out there waiting to be discovered. Being patient and not rushing into it with someone who's not right/serious will be the hard part. 



Kirata -> RE: ARGH (9/25/2007 10:41:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Angel is the first pet I have been this attached to,but also this limited with.


Attachment is Limitation.
 
K.
 
 



DiurnalVampire -> RE: ARGH (9/26/2007 3:23:33 PM)

Not at all, attachment isnt a limitation.  The limitations he has with regards to our activities have nothing to do with our attachment.  I am free to seek someone out to satisfy what he cannot. HOWEVER, the limitation I do have is that I personally dont enjoy beating on someone I dont connect with.  And If I am not going to enjoy it, why bother?



PsyVamp -> RE: ARGH (9/26/2007 4:12:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

HOWEVER, the limitation I do have is that I personally dont enjoy beating on someone I dont connect with.  And If I am not going to enjoy it, why bother?


Yes, to me that level of play needs familiarity.  I just can't bring myself to beat a perfect stranger.  I have to feel very comfortable with someone to get to that point.  Although, other things come naturally to me at a sooner point in time.
Must be from all that nagging my mother did --- do NOT hit your brother ---
*shudders, flashback*

I'm sorry you are without, I wish I could offer some sage advice, but all I can do is understand.

~Psy



AquaticSub -> RE: ARGH (9/26/2007 4:35:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

HOWEVER, the limitation I do have is that I personally dont enjoy beating on someone I dont connect with.  And If I am not going to enjoy it, why bother?


That makes a lot of sense to me. I'm allowed to sleep and have relationships with women but since I have only found potential fuck-buddies, I just haven't been interested. I am just no longer interested in no strings sex (at least not at this point in time). No strings make outs maybe. [;)]



Phoenix2raven -> RE: ARGH (9/26/2007 4:57:22 PM)

Yes I'm in the same type of situation. It gets very frustrating but I wouldn't trade what I have with raven for a pain slut. No your not going crazy I hope. lol The only thing that has worked for me is to create a different container so to speak. I just refuse to be limited to feeling unsatisfied because my sadistic side that wants to                          . So I just shifted my frustration to creating scenes that fit both of us at least until we find a third that can endure a lot of pain. Good luck
~Phoenix~ 



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