Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress



Message


Jinger -> Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 7:24:58 PM)

First off: I think sometimes that submissive men ask questions simply to get an arousing reaction. You know the ones, "Hey, out of curiousity how many of you would make me lick your feet?" I just want to say that, no, this is not one of those questions. But I'm worried that it will appear that way.

I'm thrilled by smothering. I swell at the thought of facesitting. I pine for queening. But at the same time I am ridden with guilt over the idea of actually approaching anyone with the idea of toying around with it. I am ashamed because, I feel as though smothering is the product of the most blunt of male fantasies and objectification. I mean, it's an ass...on your face. It's a pair of breasts...on your face! And that concept just doesn't fly with me in terms of talking to any woman seriously about it.

There's also the fact that, well...how much pleasure can a woman get out of sitting on someone's face? I've that there are various stimulating areas that I nose can arouse...but I'm talking about the whole experience. How much fun can it be when the most feedback you get is a muffled noise? How much fun could it really be knowing that the person your smothering is more interested in being shoved into your various crevasses than say...looking you in the eye...or simply appreciating your whole body by other means?
(these questions thus far are all rhetorical)

Ultimately I've realized that my fetish is more a reflection of my interests (I have done some snooping with the search) than that of the Dommes. And in the long run, at least in terms of serving a Mistress I'd hate to think my time would be spent serving my interests and not hers. Or worse yet, that smothering as a reward is something that shames me.

So my question is...am I crazy? Or is there something behind smothering for Dommes that I'm not aware of?

I really don't know if I'll ever be able to get over my guilt, but it'd be nice to be aware of conflicting perspectives.




undergroundsea -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 7:42:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Jinger
First off: I think sometimes that submissive men ask questions simply to get an arousing reaction. You know the ones, "Hey, out of curiousity how many of you would make me lick your feet?"


Excuse me but I might ask that question towards academic reasons. For instance, I might be trying to collect statistics about how many dommes enjoy a foot fetish and accordingly defining my courting strategy.

;-)

quote:

There's also the fact that, well...how much pleasure can a woman get out of sitting on someone's face? I've that there are various stimulating areas that I nose can arouse...but I'm talking about the whole experience. How much fun can it be when the most feedback you get is a muffled noise?


If those noises are the types of noise one might make while playing a trumpet (or, you know, like the motor or farting sounds you make on someone's belly), the vibrations might have some value.

Seriously, I think sometimes what men like is discounted all too readily simply because a man likes it. Because of societal conditioning and because of what some men do, I think women are protective against being used sexually, which is perhaps relevant to this point.

If we examine why you like queening, I expect one reason is that it expresses dominant and submissive roles. And there are women who enjoy dominance as men enjoy submission. If they align with respect to how they respectively express dominance and submission, all is well. There are women who enjoy the dominance conveyed by queening or might like the dominance conveyed by queening once the idea is suggested to them if the protectiveness does not come into play. The protectiveness is more likely to come into play if the range of interaction with them is too focused on sex.

Cheers,

Sea




BadJezebel -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 8:04:16 PM)

Are you kidding? 

I'm sure that MANY women LOVE queening.  Personally, I like smothering until they start wiggling really hard..... but they really really REALLY have to earn it  ;)  --- and that takes a while.

As far as the objectification....  I'm really interested most in my perspective.  I love it, that's what matters. 




MamaDomme -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 8:11:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BadJezebel
Personally, I like smothering until they start wiggling really hard.....


I just hate having to get up so fast when they STOP wiggling!  ;)




BadJezebel -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 8:14:26 PM)

Go slow, enjoy it, they won't die 




unforegvn -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 8:28:09 PM)

So my question is...am I crazy? Or is there something behind smothering for Dommes that I'm not aware of?

No you are not crazy and yes there is something that a Domme gets out of Queening , it is called Dominance.

Don't worry the constant squirming beneath is an indication you are under our ass; inhaling our scent -  your desire is unattainable, yet, you hope we will acheive orgasm and gush sweet nectar all over your face.




Jinger -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 9:11:23 PM)

quote:

your desire is unattainable, yet, you hope we will acheive orgasm and gush sweet nectar all over your face.


They GUSH?
...blimey...




MzticStormz -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 10:34:59 PM)

I couldn't agree more with all the wiggling comments.. but add that bit of fear that is flickering through their minds .. the begging they do with their eyes and the flashes of panic.. when they are unsure if you are going to let them take a breath ... Yummy!  Yes the control is divine.


Mz Stormz




BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 10:51:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BadJezebel

Go slow, enjoy it, they won't die 

But it is usually a good idea to get up once they have lost consciousness (eg: once they have stopped wiggling)..  A sub with brain damage just isn't as much fun to play with anymore...




goddessblaze -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/25/2007 11:13:43 PM)

Thats why I know CPR and have a 02 bottle at my house...lol If they stop wiggling when you get off their little brains will reset and they will start breathing again.. Oh yeah and I have thoses amonia strips to wave in front of their noses..




LaMistressa -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 2:29:30 AM)

Great, I now have the old Jello song stuck in my head "see him wiggle, watch him jiggle..."!

Queening is great fun, and the control is wonderful. The view isn't bad either!




feralcat -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 5:49:57 AM)

yeah that jumping up always seems to come at the wrong time. But I do LOVE to hear that gasp for air...gets me all excited and ready for the next round!


I also like to use the tap out method...you know a few light taps on my thigh to let me know he needs to come up for air, a few more persistant taps to warn me air supply is low...and then those frequent, multitude of taps telling NOW MISTRESS PLEASE!!!!! Its after that point that the taps tend to die out...that is when I usually let up! [;)]

Feral




chiaThePet -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 8:07:35 AM)

mm

mm...mm

mm...mm...tap

mm...mm...tap...tap

mm...mm...tap...tap...wiggle

mm...mm...tap...tap...wiggle...wiggle

mm...mm...tap...tap...wiggle...wiggle...struggle

mm...mm...tap...tap...wiggle...wiggle...struggle...struggle

MM...MM...TAP...TAP...WIGGLE...WIGGLE...STRUGGLE...STRUGGLE

GET THE *#+"! OFF ME!

"Sometimes, all i need is the air that i breathe...and to love You"

chia* (the pet)




Lashra -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 8:28:20 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch
But it is usually a good idea to get up once they have lost consciousness (eg: once they have stopped wiggling)..  A sub with brain damage just isn't as much fun to play with anymore...

I dunno, Laura still seems to enjoy playing with George(the Prez) and he is about as brain damaged as they come...[;)] sorry I couldn't resist.

To the OP smothering is a fun activity and for a Domme it can be a power rush. I don't see why you are ashamed of your desire to do this, in fact for a submissive I would think anything the Domme wanted to do within the limits you two have set would be a joy for you to take part in.

~Lashra




MistressSassy66 -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 8:49:43 AM)

~FR~

The ones I find interested in face sitting(smothering) want to include licking (which is technically called Queening...I think.Not to be confused with Cream Pie eating...thats a whole other thing...sort of...) and I dont allow submissives to touch very darn often. 
I enjoy face sitting as a form of breath play nothing more.I like to wear a silky slip just so it feels good on their face.
One way to cut down on the wiggle part...tie them to a table and then saran wrap them up.No movement going on.
I have to say from personal experince thats one of the best ways to keep them from moving.

I dont think there is anything wrong with any of the above activities I listed.




BoiJen -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 9:44:05 AM)

I was once told the beauty of sfacesitting is that Her pleasure is more important than the air one breathes.

So I ask Her what She gets out of it...this is what She told me...

"I love it when you wiggle...and when you start tp try and push me off of you. It's like riding a bronco or something. It's super exciting to feel you try and breathe and you can't. I love feeling your chest thump! when you can't get air. I like feeling you strain and when I get up I love haring you suck in your breath...right up until I sit down again cutting you off. It's about the control."

Yeah I like it when She gets what She wants. And I like feeling that my energy is going to that. I had never gotten into facesitting before Her. And now I can't seem to keep my nose...or tounge...out of Her ass.

BTW yes sometimes they do gush and goddamned if you ever had a drowing fantasy this is heaven.

From the ass addicted boi




BoiJen -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 9:45:27 AM)

PS...just cuz we can't talk don't mean we can't hear...there's something terribly exciting about that sexy voice going "Not yet...not yet"




bootw0rshipJT -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 10:01:57 AM)

Big fan of smothering of all kinds. Particuarly enjoy facesitting and feet smother, but have got a little thing for the homsmother, especially when the hands doing it are incased in leather/pvc/latex gloves.




FullfigRIMaam -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/26/2007 10:41:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch
quote:

ORIGINAL: BadJezebel
Go slow, enjoy it, they won't die 

But it is usually a good idea to get up once they have lost consciousness (eg: once they have stopped wiggling)..  A sub with brain damage just isn't as much fun to play with anymore...
I agree smothering/queening are fun, but only if it doesn't end in brain damage to the smotheree, lol.    M




BadJezebel -> RE: Smothering, I have to know. (I could've said ASSk but I refrained) (9/27/2007 10:31:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

"I love it when you wiggle...and when you start tp try and push me off of you. It's like riding a bronco or something. It's super exciting to feel you try and breathe and you can't. I love feeling your chest thump! when you can't get air. I like feeling you strain and when I get up I love haring you suck in your breath...right up until I sit down again cutting you off. It's about the control."



What a great post!

Nice seeing you around, Boi




Page: [1]

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.078125