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Being unowned - 9/26/2007 12:39:22 PM   
juelles


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Status: offline 		i am doing a bit of 'research' and looking for any advice, websites, etc. on how to succeed the waiting game and not make foolish choices, while growing, learning, and being an unowned sub/slave, whether be it new or experienced.

Anyone?
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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 12:48:35 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		In my opinion you will make choices that you may feel are foolish or that you may regret, it's all apart of learning. i'm still making foolish choices even now while searching. Though i can not really give you any specific websites, but my word of advice is to be patient and you will find your one.
    Best of luck

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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 2:03:49 PM   
hisannabelle


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From: Tallahassee, FL, USA
Status: offline 		greetings juelles,

if you are seeking a long-term relationship, treat it as you would other long-term relationships with regards to trying not to make foolish choices. la's six-month rule (don't make any serious commitments for six months) is always a good rule of thumb. be careful about articulating your wants and needs, and if you do get involved, make sure that you are with someone who knows you are new and is capable of handling that.

respectfully,
annabelle.


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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 3:01:11 PM   
DCroommate


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Status: offline 		Hi,
Try to find some local groups, events, trainings, conferences.  You said you are experienced so not sure what you feel you need.  Conferences are alway pretty good.  If none are local see if you can get to some out of the area. Black Rose in DC is a pretty big one. 

Make a list of skills you would like to learn (formal dinners, boot blacking, massage ) and seek out places to learn those.

good luck

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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 3:14:58 PM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Living life is education.  It teaches as you learn.
You cannot learn for yourself vicariously... you only learn what it means for others.

 
the.dark.

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love isnt gazing into each others eyes - it's looking forward in the same direction

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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 5:42:22 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Bridge Jones' Diary?

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Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 8:46:07 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Bridge Jones' Diary?
I love that movie and its sequel!!!!..Tempting

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You must make tracks into the unknown~~Thoreau

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RE: Being unowned - 9/26/2007 9:20:47 PM   
peppermint


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Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		You may wish to read this article written by jade of Castlerealm about self taught submission and subbing without a Dominant.  It's an interesting article about self improvement.

http://castlerealm.com/library/sucess.shtml

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RE: Being unowned - 9/27/2007 1:39:18 PM   
SubmissiveGael


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Joined: 7/1/2007
Status: offline 		I am looking and learning too...

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RE: Being unowned - 9/27/2007 2:20:27 PM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		being in a 12 step program i have found that it has worked wonders to apply spiritual principles i have learned there in all area's of my life...so i totally recomend them to anyone wanting to better themselves...clean up their side of the street so to speak...and this website is a good starting place http://www.12stepsforeverybody.org/12_Step_Questions.html
after that...learning skills for things that interest you...bootblacking is something that interests me...learning from others in the community is the best way to learn...reading will only get me so far...doing on my own will work but it can be done much more effectively if i have help...like going to school for a hands on skill vs teaching your self a hands on skill...they are out there wanting to teach...take them up on the offer....


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One thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve. ~Albert Schweitzer

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RE: Being unowned - 9/27/2007 2:45:31 PM   
SunNMoon


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Bridge Jones' Diary?
I love that movie and its sequel!!!!..Tempting


The books are really good too!!!

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RE: Being unowned - 9/27/2007 6:35:43 PM   
Celeste43


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Joined: 2/4/2006
From: NYS
Status: offline 		Become the best person you can be. Learn things that interest you. Eventually you'll be happy and satisfied in and of yourself and at that point you'll attract other people who are at peace with themselves and who are successful people interested in being with other successful people.

You might learn top leather care and wind up with a dom who won't wear leather. You could learn to brew excellent coffee and meet a man who only drinks tea. You could practice walking two steps behind people and find yourself with someone who wants you next to him. Specific training has to do with learning specific things that he wants, not 9 out of 10 doms.

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RE: Being unowned - 9/28/2007 10:50:22 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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From: San Francisco, CA
Status: offline 		Date.  Have fun.  Enjoy your life every single day.   enjoy what is in it. Learn.  Evolve.  Live.  Keep your head on your shoulders.  Thinking of it as "waiting" is a perception of a holding pattern.  ANd that way of thinking about it wouldn't work for me.

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Is it not most transformative, most earthshaking, to pierce the veils of self-deception and illusion, and crack the eggshell of ignorance, to most intimately encounter oneself? Lama Surya Das

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