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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 12:21:23 PM

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I rather agree with Prinny and the late Mr Keats concerning beauty. Love may be, but is not necessarily, synonamous . This begs some questions:- what is love, for one and what exactly is a slave for another.

One other thought is that the concept of slavery, as outlawed in 1833 ( at least in the United Kingdom of Great Britain ) is somewhat at odds with my understanding of "sugar daddy". Perhaps ther is some confusion here over the use of slaves to work sugar plantations ?

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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 1:33:06 PM

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please i will like to get Your own opinions in this. Can it be true, that a Dominant Master will be in love with the slave? i mean true love that runs in the nerves. if they do, has it not come to sugar daddy and pet relationship? is that still the BDSM relationship? this is very impotant to me, and i hope those who are really in bdsm understands the terms and the Orientations i have used here.

First, I wondered what would make a person think of these things in such exact terms... Than read your profile, saw you are hailing from Benin, and find that I may be tainted by online corruption stories, so that I really can't give you a good answer, except to wonder... M

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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 1:34:05 PM

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Yes he loves. Yes he's still in charge. In fact in our relationship love between us is essential. The bedrock of our relationship is emotional transparency. I am not constitutionally capable of becoming totally vulnerable to someone who is afraid of being vulnerable in return.

Now if what you're asking is if the play modifies once love enters into it? Yes and no. Some doms have difficulties being strict with someone they love, some sadists have difficulties hurting people they love. However if you know the person loving you and whom you love needs you to take the lead firmly, and needs pain play then you have to ask yourself how is it love if you deny them the things they need.

As far as the guy you're talking to? Ask him. If he says he can only hurt people he doesn't care about, and you need pain play and a monogamous relationship then you aren't compatible. If you're both open to playing with others just to get the play needs met, then go for it if everything else is fine.

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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 1:41:55 PM

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I know for a fact it's possible -- my Master and I are going to be married next year. :)

But I don't think it's necessarily a requirement to have what would be considered "true love" for each other in a D/s relationship. I do, however, believe that it's hard or maybe even impossible to make it work without some degree of affection and trust between the people involved.

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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 1:46:21 PM

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Yes, it is possible for a master to love his slave. It is even possible for a master to love more than one slave. There is no question that he loves Alandra and I very deeply and would be devastated without us. However, he has higher expectations of us both because we are so important to us.

Love may make it impossible for some to be in a M/s relationship, not it is not impossible for all.

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RE: possible? - 9/27/2007 4:15:19 PM

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I just want to say that "true love" does NOT mean respect. Plenty of people disrespect and flat out abuse the ones they claim to love truly.

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