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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 3:45:02 PM   
patwi


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Status: offline 		I hate being naked, other than when in bed. I am out of shape and frankly even when alone - I hate seeing myself unclothed. Rolls, jiggles, dimples. Bleh. seeing it makes me feel even worse *laughs*

My husband would, I'm sure, want me nude all the time. But, when the clothes go off, so do the lights.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 3:56:29 PM   
Obedientlydia


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Status: offline 		i am one who loves to be naked when i am alone...in fact...i am naked now :)

HOWEVER, it is always hard for me to get to a level of comfort to be naked in front of my partner.  I am not ugly but nor am i Miss America.  i have found that i am way more critical of myself than anyone else could ever be.  And since BDSM has become a part of my life it has become a bit easier.  In a vanilla relationship i always felt like i was fighting to keep my partner interested and attracted to my body, but in BDSM the connection is much, much deeper for me.  i don't feel the pressure to worry so much about whether my partner appreciates my body.  Now i feel He is just as lucky to have me as i am Him (including all my faults!) as my submission is not given easily nor to just anyone.  It's so much harder to find the right partner in BDSM.  When i do come to the point of being naked in front of Him i have built the trust and know that He is interested in every aspect of me.  i find if He enjoys seeing me naked then i enjoy being naked for Him.

The above is my opinion and my opinion only and as such counts as jack crap :)

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 3:57:29 PM   
EmpassionedRogue


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Status: offline 		i prefer nakedness.... wheather/temperatures permitted.   im modest enough, but...dont have any shame in that regard.  not even the softest silk feels better as direct skin against skin.  doesnt mean ild go out in public that way, in an accepted area.  not with anyone near at any rate...with the notable acception of someone ive an intimate relationship with (IE..no-one) i am to self concious.
i ware my work uniform .... sooo much more then any "street clothing"  due to this.  if i have more then boxers on when home, is unusal.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 3:58:06 PM   
sammiebabygirl


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Status: offline 		i don't have a mate, but i do see people and attend parties. i have no issues being naked and prefer it. i consider myself to be a nudist and an exhibitionist. Basically, i wear clothing for other people's comfort or weather related situations.
 
But, i was not always like that. i just posted about this in another forum on the topic of body image.
 
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1308066/mpage_2/tm.htm#1309117
 
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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 4:30:25 PM   
szobras


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Status: offline 		Good to see you too Allie,
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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 4:42:36 PM   
Kellendra


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Status: offline 		I have my days....lol.....
I do enjoy being naked.....am I comfortable with it? not always no (I know that makes almost NO sense)but that is part of the fun of it. Having really long hair can also be a great thing sometimes.


"as my submission is not given easily nor to just anyone.  It's so much harder to find the right partner in BDSM.  When i do come to the point of being naked in front of Him i have built the trust and know that He is interested in every aspect of me.  i find if He enjoys seeing me naked then i enjoy being naked for Him"

That is so beautifully put dia....it almost brought tears to my eyes. 

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 4:45:08 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I grew up in a clothing optional gay beach community. I have no modesty. However I don't like snail trails on my furniture, so I would rather lounge around on the bed if in the nude.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 4:54:08 PM   
Cyntilating


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Status: offline 		gravity truly is a wicked (sadistic)bitch!
 ..but heck, I look pretty darn good hanging upside down!
groan..
 
no, I really don't like being naked around other people..
by myself, in certain circumstances, yes it feels great..
 
Never had a choice or an option around Master tho' ....
"Get naked cyn and get use to it! " : )
The first time was excruciating for me...I was so scared ( feels like a strange thing for me  to say now) but I was afraid.  I remember wanting my body to look perfect for him ( and I felt far from perfect ).Suddenly all my flaws felt like they had big neon signs attached to them!                        But,  from the get-go> I was not allowed to use any derogatory terms to describe myself...nor was I allowed to doubt that I was/am truly beautiful & sensual ...and desired by him.  
I think that has to do with one of the few times Master ever had to punish me...( I broke his rule about that...DIDNT do it again tho'  )..
 
I can relate to your comments Candy...and the anxiety youre expressing takes me back to when I felt the same.

It does get easier..
now its almost UNnatural to be dressed around him..
and I truly can say that he taught me to "see" myself (and my body)as he sees me/it.... 
I had to make myself step out of the way and trust his words about that...
and trust in what he sees when he looks at me...
I don't wanna be dramatic...but it really did change my sense of self-esteem...as well as my life..



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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 5:10:09 PM   
AEslaveM


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Status: offline 		Cyndi said it all for me, too!  HUGE, NEON purple signs pointing out the flaws...............but He looks at me with desire, and smiles....................that's enough for me..............

Besides the fact that i have no choice, that is....................i think that was my FIRST rule........clothes come off the minute i walk in the door............period.  He does allow me a shirt, open..........if i feel cold......but it comes off the minute He says............i don't like it much, but am more comfortable with it now, to the point of being uncomfortable at my place if He is here and i have clothes on.  He doesn't insist we follow the rules here, but i usually do, cause it just wouldn't be the same for me.........

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 5:15:19 PM   
breatheasone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: patwi

I hate being naked, other than when in bed. I am out of shape and frankly even when alone - I hate seeing myself unclothed. Rolls, jiggles, dimples. Bleh. seeing it makes me feel even worse *laughs*

My husband would, I'm sure, want me nude all the time. But, when the clothes go off, so do the lights.

Ahhh...the days of living as a vanilla mushroom(in the dark LOL) when naked. Had I known, I would have made being naked with lights on a hard limit! LOL

< Message edited by breatheasone -- 9/28/2007 5:53:25 PM >

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:02:22 PM   
TotalState


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Status: offline 		I enjoy being naked so much (especially with my sub around, who is naked as well) that I gave being a nudist some semi-serious thoughts.  I found that I don't always enjoy it, and mostly in private around the house. 

I associate being naked with being at ease.  Naturally, someone who does not have a happy body image (way too common amongst women, without any particular correlation with their beauty) will not enjoy being naked that much.


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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:14:53 PM   
Obedientlydia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kellendra

I have my days....lol.....
I do enjoy being naked.....am I comfortable with it? not always no (I know that makes almost NO sense)but that is part of the fun of it. Having really long hair can also be a great thing sometimes.


"as my submission is not given easily nor to just anyone.  It's so much harder to find the right partner in BDSM.  When i do come to the point of being naked in front of Him i have built the trust and know that He is interested in every aspect of me.  i find if He enjoys seeing me naked then i enjoy being naked for Him"

That is so beautifully put dia....it almost brought tears to my eyes. 



Thanks :)  It's how i feel.  Hoping to find the one that makes me feel that way again....

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:18:03 PM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		i remain fully clothed to save the villagers the trouble of lighting their torches,
trudging up the long winding path, and dragging me from the castle as my
creator screams, "He's not a monster, he's not a monster, he's my coat".

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:20:00 PM   
MistressDolly


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Status: offline 		At home, I prefer males to be nude. :)

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:24:24 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		I remember how I felt the 1st time I got naked in front of my Master. I literally took a deep breath(like you do before you jump in a pool) and just started taking my clothes off. It was awful. I remember my fists being balled up tight and HATING being displayed.....cringing at the thought of being looked at naked...with the lights on....Wishing so badly I'd hooked up with a Dom that was a plastic surgeon LOL. Ahhhh... but what do I know from anything.....I'm my own worst critic.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:25:56 PM   
BlackKnight


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Status: offline 		Love being naked! At home I walk around nude most of the time! Hell I live in suburbia, and if I'm nude, and I gotta feed the dogs, if it's dark out, I'll feed them in the raw.
Shit, I just got back in, and you made me realize, I gotta get naked. I stay nake, keep my slaves naked. I love it. Fine clothes have their place but alotstimes it's in the drawers/closet.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:33:35 PM   
onmykneesb4Him


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Status: offline 		i've always prefered to be naked, at home anyway. i enjoy taking my clothes off for Sir, i like to watch Him admire me. Nope, i'm certainly not perfect, but i'm done being critical of myself (besides, i'm not allowed to be). When i was a truly hot young thing i hated my body, like so many of us do. i'm irritated that i felt that way! i'm slowly learning to appreciate myself now.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 6:42:44 PM   
Sirandpet10


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Status: offline 		I love being naked. I love being naked in front of Sir too. It's sort of liberating, in a way. It feels amazing. I was hesitant at first, but after awhile, I got used to the idea and now I just love it.

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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 7:05:07 PM   
denika


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Status: offline 		I am naked when both Rob or Knight request it of me but I'm not a big fan of it. Mostly because of my own warped sense of body image, At times I truly wish I could see myself the way Rob does.   I have mirror issues. I have no problem with nudity, as long as it's not my own *s* It's the wobbly bits I don't want to scare people with


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RE: Nakedness..The Good, The Bad, The ugly - 9/28/2007 7:13:12 PM   
BlackKnight


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Status: offline 		You should be naked all the time!

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