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Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 3:11:04 AM

openmindedslave

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We all had that moment where we knew this was our postion in life.That one person who introduced us to being dominated or allowed us to dominated them?
It may not have been with all the toys or even planned out ahead of time, but today you can look back to that encounter with such admiration and beauty?

Tell us about your First Time?

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 3:35:50 AM

camille65

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Well I'm not sure if I can say how old (okay.. how young) I was but it was definitely below the legal age. I sorta kinda knew about D/s from reading books and I recognised that I fit into the 's'.
It was all mixed up in my head, a swirling mess of kinky sex, submission and confusion. 'Girls' shouldn't be this way, feel this way or want this way. Girls were supposed to be strong & capable because the previous generation of women had worked so hard for that to be reality. Girls were supposed to excel and surpass the old boundaries. None of that fit for me and it was a time of painful struggle against my instincts.

It was also the time of casual sex. Way before the spector of AIDS loomed over everyone, when the greatest risk was pregnancy. Not an easy time to be seeking for someone to lead me. It was confusing because it was supposed to be a sort of freedom with sexuality being equal between guys/girls and I felt anything but equal. I would have sex with guys because they wanted to, not always (or often) because I wanted to but I did not know how to set boundaries when someone wanted something from me. I felt guilty for saying no, so I would say yes. Hmm I think I'm rambling lol.

Sooo I met this guy, he was older than me by 5 years which put him into the 'grown-up' catagory. Like most of them I said yes when I would rather have said please wait, or even no. Unlike most of them he actually recognised what I was doing and why I was struggling. Instead of taking my 'yes' he waited. No one had ever waited, no one had ever stopped before and it was both really nice and really weird.
He set the pace at s-l-o-w with the result of me actually begging for n-o-w. He made me antsy with need but he still kept things on the same level. When he felt that enough progress had been made he decided the time was right. He got a motel room and I met him there. After I went into the room I noticed handcuffs and a flogger. Heh scary stuff at that time. I was told to lay on my stomach so he could rub my back and legs. He secured me spread eagle then

Sorry for rambling. Stopping now.

So he was my first and he did a great job of dominating me in a way that kept me feeling safe. Did it suddenly get warm in here?

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 3:57:42 AM

Phin

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although there are no innocents in this story names are being changed to protect the wicked.

"You what to go to Dirge Factory tonight?"

I knew Amy from the local music scene, so I thought it was a band, "Sure."

"Alright then meet me at my place at 9 tonight."

It was around 6, I needed to shower, shave, etc and she lived an hour away, so I went ahead and picked out my Heavy Metal clothes. Bright red rayon shirt adorned with black skulls, and black pants. The phone rings, "Hello?"

"You do know what Dirge Factory is, right?"

"Its a band, right?"

"Um, no. its a fetish club, will your wife be ok with you going?" I explained the open marriage that I was in and said that all was good.

fast foreward through all the boring bits...

Amy, another metalhead friend of hers, and I walk through the door and I and the other guy stop in our tracks. nearly everyone in the club is wearing leather, PVC, lace, and they are playing goth music. We both look back at the door when Amy grabs us and pulls us deeper into this alien atmosphere. She took us streight to the bar and bought us both drinks, the promply disapeared.

We more or less hang together for a while, feeling quite uncomfortable. We float into the dungeon room, people are being beaten, electocuted (violet wand, but I didnt know it at the time) and others were sitting around watching. We walked around a bit more, end up in a leanthy LOTR conversation among other things.

About 2 hours after Amy disapeared she shows back up, and grabs us by the arm. "You been back here yet?" and pulled us into the dungeon. The other guy gets strapped to the cross, and Amy hits him a few times and he gets down. She looks me dead in the eye, "Now you." I just stand there looking perplexed. "So why the hell havent you got your shirt off yet?" came a voice behind me. I take the shirt off and she starts uses leather cuffs to secure me to the cross. It only took a few strokes of the flogger and I was hooked.

Alot of people talk about knowing that they were born for this by the time they are 14-15. I was clueless untill that night. Unfortunately that was the only time that I have been able to scene with Amy. I think of her often, and I first I concerned that it was in an obsession kind of way, but now I realize that it is the fact that she introduced me to WIITWD, and when I think about this, and that is quite often, I think of her.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 5:42:52 AM

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If you're talking about kink play, then I wanted to be tied up and ravished for years. But domination? That's The Man. I am a judgmental person, and unless I am damn sure that somebody else is as competent and capable of running things as I am, they don't get the chance.

We had a friends/playmates/lovers relationship for some months before I really trusted him not to change his ways under stress.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 7:14:43 AM

LATEXBABY64

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

If you're talking about kink play, then I wanted to be tied up and ravished for years. But domination? That's The Man. I am a judgmental person, and unless I am damn sure that somebody else is as competent and capable of running things as I am, they don't get the chance.

We had a friends/playmates/lovers relationship for some months before I really trusted him not to change his ways under stress.

well said in the bold part I totally agree with this. Every ones a actor they read all the books manuals and classes but never get it

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 7:23:22 AM

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I was tying my sister up to wooden rocking chairs with jump ropes when I was 7. I couldn't make it inescapable then, no matter how I tried. I sure as hell can now *S*. Why was I tying her up was the question. I had no idea why I liked it so much. I simply did. I liked having someone at my mercy.

Fast forward to about 16 when I started finding my way into sex albeit bad sex. I wanted more, I wanted different, I wanted exciting and enticing. Missionary with some guy in his bed wasn't it. I kept doing different things til I figured it out. Different things were done to me, which at the time weren't things I enjoyed. I've adapted and learned what parts are cool and what parts weren't and now use them to my full advantage.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 7:29:57 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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i don't look at my first dom with happy, fond memories ...in fact i don't wish to recall how he took advantage of a naive submissive who was totally clueless.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 8:00:18 AM

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Looking back now but at the time I did not get why I reacted the way I did. The situation was one of a much older woman totally seducing me, extremely sexually dominating and objectifying me. For days afterwards each time we did something I could not understand why I was so happy and turned on from the experience that I was taught was very wrong. I spent four plus years trying to recreate situations like this until I became friendly with a couple while in college that introduced me into this life. It is with them that I found what I was really about and this life I was meant for.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 8:10:23 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I was lucky, my mentor was a college neighbor. She had 2 slaves working for her at that point, and one day they were over doing her chores and she asked me to babysit them. I knew about her lifestyle and while I didnt actually understand it, I thought it ws pretty cool. So I agreed, I mean all I was supposed to do was sit around and make sure the 2 hot guys she had working in her room got all the dusting, laundry and vacuuming done. How could I go wrong?
She instructed them to serve me from the time they finished their chores to when she returned from doing her paperwork across campus. That was my first experience with submissive men in service. I was given a back massage, a pedicure and manicure, and they dusted my room and took care of my laundry as well. It was a very soft introduction, but it worked as she had wanted. I enjoyed it enough to pursue farther.
The sex experiences didnt come until way later. This was the very first time I was dominant to someone else, knowingly, and enjoyed it.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 8:58:43 AM

KnightofMists

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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

We all had that moment where we knew this was our postion in life.

This would be true ... if it wasn't true.... sometimes our postion in life is not defined by a single moment... but the accumulation of many moments. It is also in some cases irrelevant the order these moments are accumulated... it just the accumulation very much like putting a puzzle together piece by piece. The whole picture (our postion in life) is not complete until the last piece is put in.... but... regardless the order you put the pieces of the puzzle together.. it still ends up being the same picture.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 9:17:10 AM

Prinsexx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: openmindedslave

We all had that moment where we knew this was our postion in life.That one person who introduced us to being dominated or allowed us to dominated them?
It may not have been with all the toys or even planned out ahead of time, but today you can look back to that encounter with such admiration and beauty?

Tell us about your First Time?

Far far too young....as I child I remember, amongst other vivid memories, at least five other kids playing doctors and nurses and i was always the patient, spreadeagled, knees bent.......
medical remains my favourite fantasy and anything appraoching make- shift implements my biggest turn on just so long as I am the one being examined.......

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 9:27:52 AM

breatheasone

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My 1st time was Dec of "05"

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 9:41:26 AM

amelliagrace

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Far far too young....as I child I remember, amongst other vivid memories, at least five other kids playing doctors and nurses and i was always the patient, spreadeagled, knees bent.......
medical remains my favourite fantasy and anything appraoching make- shift implements my biggest turn on just so long as I am the one being examined.......

I'm now possessed of an incredible urge to start a thread on "pervertables", so as not to derail an interesting discussion. *grin*

To everyone who has shared -
Thanks, this is really interesting.

-grace

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 10:10:58 AM

denika

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My position in life is one that changes and grows with me, so little defining moments occur continually.

I did have an amazing epiphany when I say play for the first time, and realised it wasn't just something I fantasized about,t here were others like me. When I saw Knight play alandra a whole new world opened up, that was in May of 2005

denika

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 10:15:00 AM

Lashra

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I was always Dominant even as a small child. I was 19 years old and had always thought about tying a man up during sex. One night my boyfriend was sound asleep and I took my pantyhose and tied him up. (this guy could sleep through a bomb going off) When he woke up I was on top of him playing with his nipples. He was shocked at first but then he got right into it and from then on I've never looked back.

~Lashra

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 11:17:44 AM

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No one introduced me to it. I realized I'm submissive right inside my own little wicked head! lol

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 11:56:26 AM

kittybri

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hmm my first time...for me my first time was with myself hehe...learned a lot about myself and what i liked. Explored the net and found out about this wonderful lifestyle and now crave it ever since.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 1:38:18 PM

SirCache

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I'm the oldest of 5 kids, and was the token babysitter when my folks went out. I liked the power over my siblings, making them clean things, 'respectin my authoritah', and so on. My folks always marvelled how clean things were when they got back and never really asked how I managed.

Sexually, I was... well, underage by a long shot ...and the very first girl I was with was so submissive. Everything I wanted to do she agreed to, every little perversion I wanted to explore she would dutifully carry out. Later I came to understand it better, but even back then she let me tie her down, humiliate her, and do things for me without question. I was very sad when she moved away from the neighborhood to the east coast, and honestly--I always wonder whatever became of her. Ah, fond nostalgia.

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 3:19:35 PM

obis

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Hanging out helping a hot Russian girl in college with some of her sculpture. She asks me to spank her, I say hell yes. Little did I know that apparently a lot of guys say no to that request!

Apparently she saw something in me that I hadn't been recognizing. Still took me years to wholly come to grips with it, but I knew withing seconds that I really, really enjoyed it :D

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RE: Who was your first? - 9/29/2007 3:26:07 PM

GregariousGreta

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Mine was rather recently, and it ended badly. Although I wouldn't really say badly, but it broke my heart. A boy named Philip that I played around with, and he never once told me he had a girlfriend. I found out myself, and I had to confront him about it. I forced myself to stop playing because I knew if I continued my emotion would get in the way, and I could easily hurt myself or him. It was an odd situation, and we're still really good friends. We hang out rather often, but there's always that air about us. The thick air of awkwardness that sort of makes our relationship strained to this day. It's all rather unfortunate, but I won't ever forget him and the things we did.

My fondest memory of our kinky little endeavors was once I was biting him all over, and I couldn't find a single bruise on him the days afterward because he heals like Wolverine(seriously, he has a disorder that makes his immune system hyperactive). I was talking to one our friends later, and he told me that he saw this horrendous bruise in the shape of a bite on his shoulder/collar bone area and was asking him about it. He just shrugged it off, but when I saw it I was estatic I had left such an impressive bruise. The same night I did the biting I started it in front of our friends to humiliate him. It was absolutely adoreable the way he was blushing and wrestling with me, and at one point he pitched a tent that I thought was so humorous. I threw a near by blanket on him and just kept wrestling with him underneath it. Fond memories, and they're sort of hard to remember at the same time for the fact of the before mentioned drama that went with it. I haven't met another person I felt so comfortable with when it comes to that sort of thing. I hoping I can, though.

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