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jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 1:13:37 PM   
subscapejunkee


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it's been a long time coming, but i've finally found my perfect dom. We only see each other 2-3 times a week and I find that I really bottom out (no pun intended) if we go more than two days without getting together. it feels like i'm coming off a drug -- i'm so  listless and blue. I have a very active social life outside the relationship -- tons of friends, great career, lots of fulfilling outside interests, so it's not like he's my everything. I honestly think I'm dealing with withdrawal from the endorphins. Is this possible? Has anyone experienced this? Is there anything I can do to counter the highs so I don't get so low?
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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 1:16:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subscapejunkee

forgive me if this topic has been addressed -- i'm new here.

it's been a long time coming, but i've finally found my perfect dom. We only see each other 2-3 times a week and I find that I really bottom out (no pun intended) if we go more than two days without getting together. it feels like i'm coming off a drug -- i'm so  listless and blue. I have a very active social life outside the relationship -- tons of friends, great career, lots of fulfilling outside interests, so it's not like he's my everything. I honestly think I'm dealing with withdrawal from the endorphins. Is this possible? Has anyone experienced this? Is there anything I can do to counter the highs so I don't get so low?

Hmmmm...I'd give my left tit to have YOUR problem....


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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 1:17:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is possible and I do experience the same thing on occasion, especially when Himself goes on a road trip and I'm alone for a week or two. Have you tried chocolate? That seems to help somewhat, at least with me.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 1:23:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Chocolate is the cure for all ailments!

I have experienced what I think are endorphin withdrawal as well. Yesterday after a very intense play session I comment to my dom that it is funny how I crave the pain before hand, hate it while it's happening, and am all calm and happy afterwards. A few days later I'm ready for some more!!

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 2:38:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!

Aside from that.....what if he sets up some sort of structure or plan of service for you for the days you cannot be together. Something that you do because he has instructed you to and will underline your service to him, keeping him in your life even when he can't be physically.... just an idea off the top of my head.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 2:42:25 PM   
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CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!

Aside from that.....what if he sets up some sort of structure or plan of service for you for the days you cannot be together. Something that you do because he has instructed you to and will underline your service to him, keeping him in your life even when he can't be physically.... just an idea off the top of my head.

Thats a very good idea...I feel like common consideration goes a very long way in a relationship.


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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 4:04:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Search out the term sub drop. During a good session you use up all kinds of great brain chemicals, endorphins etc. And then it takes a while till they build up again.

Chocolate is really helpful. So is sleeping, rehydrating, eating protein and fruit (I find), and an orgasm.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 5:07:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I also would give breatheasone's left tit to have your problem...lol.  (I can't spare any of my own, thank you)  

It almost sounds, like Celeste says, that you are having experience with subdrop.  After the wonderful chemicals and endorphins stop bouncing around your brain, there is withdrawal.  It can be immediately afterward or may come later that day or the next or the next.  It can last anywhere from 2 seconds to 2 days or longer.  Where you are seeing your Master that often, it is quite possible that you are going through subdrop almost the whole time without him.  Never mind normal withdrawal from being away from your Master, you've now got endorphins chewing at your brain.  Chocolate, masturbation, vigorous exercise, extended laughter (try comedy films)....all release endorphins in varying degrees and may help with subdrop.  Having someone you can talk with openly also helps.  Coming home from an intense scene always made me want to run around and scream and laugh and cry and just be goofy...something only a bestest friend may put up with.  They will also be there with the tea and shoulder when the drop hits.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 5:15:11 PM   
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I also would give breatheasone's left tit to have your problem...lol.  (I can't spare any of my own, thank you)  

It almost sounds, like Celeste says, that you are having experience with subdrop.  After the wonderful chemicals and endorphins stop bouncing around your brain, there is withdrawal.  It can be immediately afterward or may come later that day or the next or the next.  It can last anywhere from 2 seconds to 2 days or longer.  Where you are seeing your Master that often, it is quite possible that you are going through subdrop almost the whole time without him.  Never mind normal withdrawal from being away from your Master, you've now got endorphins chewing at your brain.  Chocolate, masturbation, vigorous exercise, extended laughter (try comedy films)....all release endorphins in varying degrees and may help with subdrop.  Having someone you can talk with openly also helps.  Coming home from an intense scene always made me want to run around and scream and laugh and cry and just be goofy...something only a bestest friend may put up with.  They will also be there with the tea and shoulder when the drop hits.




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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/29/2007 6:43:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with the chocolate cure.  it has helped me immensely .

I've also found, that with time, the "drop" has lessened and evened out.  we see each other about as often as you and your dom do, but don't necessarily play every time.  (but, neither of us can go on for extended periods of time without )

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/30/2007 9:09:32 AM   
subscapejunkee


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Status: offline 		Thanks so much for all your helpful advice. I'm so grateful to have discovered this community of support. I am encouraged that sub drop may lessen with time.

I like your suggestion LaTigresse (Tigress was my name with my previous dom!) He will call me (always late in the night when he knows i'm asleep and most vulnerable) to reinforce my servitude and help me maintain the sustained state of arousal that he requires, and that helps a lot. Unfortunately, masturbation has become less effective for me. Whereas I used to masturbate every day, I only do it a couple times a week now and it's usually disappointing.

So chocolate and exercise it is. And one will counterbalance the other! Sounds like a great antidote. Thanks!

   

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/30/2007 9:21:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		He's deliberately screwing with your sleep cycles? Shudders with horror! Sleep deprivation, preventing proper deep sleep, is extremely bad for people. Even when you go back to sleep, you have to start again from the beginning with insufficient time to reach the late stage sleep cycles necessary for proper mental health.

Does he know what he's doing and is doing so anyway? Or is he clueless? Send him a link on sleep deprivation and long term effects. And read it for yourself.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/30/2007 9:42:02 AM   
subscapejunkee


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Status: offline 		ah, no. I relish those calls. It's typically only once a week. i hardly consider that sleep deprivation -- especially for a girl like me who sleeps so soundly.

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/30/2007 12:02:54 PM   
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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 9/30/2007 5:16:29 PM   
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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 10/1/2007 2:40:49 PM   
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what do you mean, InkedMaster?

The endorphin rush from getting tattoo'd, has been awhile since I've worked on my sleeves and am craving that rush again, course I could just get the iron-on ones!

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RE: jonesing for endorphins - 10/1/2007 2:54:04 PM   
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I would add that the chocolate fix is apparently best served with really good DARK chocolate.
 
Also, there are books available that may help you keep that wonderful, submissive feeling... 'SlaveCraft...' is one and is available (used even) on Amazon.  It's under the author Guy Baldwin... and there are others. 
 
The point is, perhaps doing something to improve your worth to him would make you feel better?  Is there something you can take home that would be of service to him that you could do and give back to him the next time you visit each other?
 
Just a thought,
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