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MstrDennynSlave -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/29/2007 8:51:05 PM)
Thank you to everyone who posted. I know I did the right thing. Master knows it too. He knew he had to go, but he had told me that he wasnt sure he wanted me to take him. I think he was afraid that he would die and I'd be all alone there to deal with it without any support. In the end my daughter went with us too. She told me I needed someone there with me. We packed up the grandbabies and took him. It isnt that he doesnt have any regard for his health, as he keeps all his Drs. appointments and follows their orders to the letter. I believe he was just plain scared. We had been talking only last week about when he dies. What he had done to make sure that I will be taken care of in the event of his death. This heart attack brought everrything to the forefront and scared him. He has forgiven me. Cause I told him I'd rather have him pissed at me than dead.

spanklette -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/29/2007 10:52:33 PM)
I'm glad things are working themselves out. It's very scary to be sick or to have a loved one ill. There's a sense of helplessness for everyone involved...expecially when you get to the hurry up and wait mode at the hospital. Sometimes common sense isn't the hardest thing to follow, especially when you're scared. Remember not to "I told you so" too much...[;)] And, make sure you help him keep up with his health care. I wish him a speedy recovery![:)]

sextoygirlNY -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 7:47:28 AM)
MstrDennynSlave, Your Master is angry, scared, hurt, and fear of his life. He just had a heart attack and you saved his life by pressing the issue. Right now he may take his anger out on you, but once he gets through it, and sees this, it will turn into a thank you. Sometimes Dominants don't like to admit to there slaves that they can be right. Its an insecurity where it may show them as being weak. Someday you will be thanked, you will be held and your Master will remember this moment...... You did so well, you did the right thing, and you ultimately saved your Masters life so there will be more times together. I wish your Master the best of luck recovering, many people around me have had similar heart problems and it does become a change of life completely after the attack. Your Master will now become a "heart patient" He will need all the support, love, and sometimes a few thick headed pokes to get through this. Take care wishes you well... sincerely melanie

MstrDennynSlave -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 8:19:25 AM)
Thank you everyone. He is always very good at taking care of himself and making sure I take care of myself, as I'm a diabetic. He was scared that he wouldnt be around for me. And worried about my being alone without him here to take care of me........lol. I told him that I was able to take care of myself before he became my master, and I could do so with him in the hospital.

LotusSong -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 8:21:53 AM)
If you are absolutely certain he is having one..call 911, and let THEM tell him he needs to go to the hospital.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 8:27:54 AM)
my opinion - he doesn't deserve the respect and title of master if he cannot be grateful for you being concerned about his health ...especially when you saved his life. if it was my Daddy and/or SO (gawd forbid), i would get them to the hospital immediately to show how much i care and love them. kudos to you for topping from the bottom when it really mattered the most hugs

winterlight -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 8:30:30 AM)
You did the right thing. My Dad after one heart attack drove past the ER and came home. It is called denial!! He knew he was having one. Ask Him this: if u were having the same symptoms. that u will just not go to the Hospital what would He do? If He's still grumpy about it ask Him if He prefered He be dead, u without a Master and looking for a new one.. Also did He want a dumb dora doormat that didn't call and He'd be dead..

Celeste43 -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 9:14:11 AM)
I'm glad he got there in time and has come to realize your wisdom. I'm in a rural community also but they say call the EMT anyway, apparently if you're brought in by ambulance you get treated faster instead of walking in and having to wait to be assessed for severity of problems.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 10:29:16 AM)
i am trying to put myself in his shoes and search for why he would need to be angry and immature about this....and yes fear of his mortaility play heavily i think.. but also why blame you? why is it not ok to be weak, sick, hurting or dying? ....waht he fears is vulnerability and intimacy i think...so many men are like that...espcially my generation or older (i am old) but that is really not ok in a partnership...try to explain to him that as much as you need him to be strong and stoic at times you also need him to be vulnerable....and fallible too.

TakenPet -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 2:22:31 PM)
I agree with all of you. You did the right thing. As a Dom/me or Master cares for your needs, wants, desire and ensures your safety, it is equally important for you to look out for his/hers. He was probably afraid and is using the "anger" as an excuse. Its hard to admit you need help sometimes and when it comes to life and death, you have to do what you feel is right in your heart. I agree whole heartedly with spanklette. You did what you felt you needed to do for his safety and in the end he will get over it and will probably thank you for it. You did well, it will work out in the end. Good work Take care of yourself

SubJordanTyler -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 2:27:33 PM)
I think when you are dealing with a medical emergency, the whole top/bottom, master/slave idea goes out the window. At that point, you just need to get that person help. Break the roles - do whatever you need to do to get that person help. You can always go back to your roles later on, which can't happen if they are dead.

Decimus -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 3:15:08 PM)
I fully agree with everyone here, despite the fact I am a sub, I know I wouldn't respect myself anymore and more than likely my domme would be most displeased with me if I didn't voice my opinion about her well being, she is in control and everyone knows that but sometimes for your own well being you are blinded and need a second set of eyes to watch out for you. Just my 2 cents. 4 if you make me charge.

KatyLied -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 4:46:57 PM)
Cardiac patients should be transported via ambulance, for the obvious reasons. Paramedics are equipped to assist and the ER will be prepared to receive a cardiac patient in distress. At the very least you should've contacted the ER before you left and told them you were enroute with a patient who may be having a heart attack. It makes a huge difference if they are prepared.

MstrDennynSlave -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 7:21:40 PM)
I got Master into the ER, they took his name, and immediately had him in a room. He did not look well at all, I told them he was having a heart attack. They didnt question my opinion at all. First thing they did was give him Nitroglycerin, not even 2 minutes after he was in the room. So the grand total time from the door to the room was 4 minutes. It has been said that this hospital is the best in this region for heart problems, and I believe it now. Master has told me he is very grateful for my taking him to the ER. Even though he was upset and mad at first. But he has frogiven me. Told me he was sorry for being so mad, but he was scared. I knew he was scared. He felt vulnerable. Thank you everyone for your posts and for your prayers.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 8:31:57 PM)
When you love and care for someone you do what you have to do. He might be angry now but maybe he will realize you were only looking out for his wellbeing. People can be stubborn but I personally want my Master around for a long time and will be persistent if I think he needs to go to the doctor or hospital. The same goes for me as well. Don't be upset because you wanted what was best for him.

nyrisa -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 11:22:50 PM)
There was a time, several years ago, when my husband badly needed to see a doctor. I mean, really badly, to the point of it being life threatening. He was just so involved with caring for his parents, who were ill at the time, that he just blew it off, and refused to go. I was just about at the end of my rope, knowing that he was getting worse. Finally, I packed my suitcases, and told him, he either saw the doctor NOW, or I was leaving. And I was totally serious. Even if it meant ending a marriage of over 20 years, I could not live with the memory of standing by and watching him die. When he saw how completely serious I was, it finally dawned on him how serious his condition was, and he saw the doctor, and got on treatment that now he admits did save his life. But it was a difficult time, and having to go to this extreme did a lot of damage to our trust, on both sides. He will always remember me standing at the door with my suitcases, and I will always remember feeling angry and lost that he had forced me to this point. Please, please, Doms and Masters, don't ever be stubborn to the point that your sub is forced to take control back. You can't imagine how hard that is, and how damaging it is.

breatheasone -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (9/30/2007 11:48:17 PM)
please excuse the hijack any Drs.or Nurses around that can e-mail me on the other side please....its important. Thank You in advance.

faithNZ -> RE: Making a Master/Mistress go to hospital (10/1/2007 12:20:45 AM)
He's not dead from a heart attack - that's a bonus in anyone's book. KatyLied was correct in mentioning that anyone having a possibly life threatening emergency should be transported by ambulance though - I speak from experience.

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