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Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/23/2005 8:51:32 PM

nonuts4thshoney

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Master and i are planning on having children in the near future. i am concerned about scenes and what is safe and what is not? Like would flogging on the back be ok or not? i am sure that a crop to my rear would be okay. is there anything that i definetly need to know as a pregnant sub?

Also, how does one balance out their lives being a new mother and a sub? Did you (as a sub/slave) have to put any part of your lifestyle on the sideburner?

i am very interested to hear what others have experienced during and after pregnancy.

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/23/2005 9:11:04 PM

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Not being a lady but knowing many people that were pregnant and being around for the entire cycle would it not be safer to end the punishments while pregnant? Child births stressful enough without having bdsm on top of it. Remember the stress the mother goes though the baby does also. You have to do whats in the best interest of the baby not the Dominant.

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/23/2005 9:20:21 PM

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Seeming as i'm not certified to give advice about what's safe or not, i'd suggest you ask your doctor. If you are not comfortable talking to a family physician, i'd advise you to find a KAP (kink aware professional) physician near you and pay 'em a visit. :) Better safe than sorry...

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/23/2005 9:58:41 PM

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My OB told me no sex period the last 2 months of my pregnancies, he specifically told me no heaving scening. No whips, no floggers, no chains ect. Yes, my OB and regular doctor were aware I was in the lifestyle. Why? Simple bruises , marks happen, situations arise. I figured I would make them aware just incase...lol

Pregancies have enough risk factor without adding more. Let me ask you this, if you are pregant and have a scene. During or after that scene you miscarry. Could you or your Dom live with the what ifs involved in that scenerio? Would you be prepared for that posibility?Perhaps its being parniod, perhaps its being safe.I am sure many have played while pregnant without any issues but I am also sure there are many who regret doing so because something did go wrong.

Our children are 10 and 7. We both agree before anything I am a mother. They are to be my 1st priorty. Once they are tended to I tend to him, his wants and needs and not before. As far as putting the lifestyle on hold at times we are more sublte about it because we have children at times we sneak our moments of being Master and slave. It simply means we must be creative...lol

Just food for thought.

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/23/2005 10:12:36 PM

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These threads might help:

pregnancy and bdsm

discipline during pregnancy

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/24/2005 6:36:30 PM

nonuts4thshoney

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i spoke with Master about this and Master has said that we will not practice any SM and that the D/s part will be toned down a bit. Master doesn't want me to be under too much stress and do anything that could make me miscarry. We are having a donor and sperm aint cheap. LOL! So, if i will be conceiving at the end of this year, i guess i wont be receiving any beatings for a while.

but i guess it's better safe than sorry.

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RE: Pregnancy and the Lifestyle - 7/25/2005 10:08:30 PM

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yes flogging is OK. most things that you do BEFORE pregnancy you can do after you get pregnant. What i do NOT recommend is vaginal fistings, cervix stretching, or cervical play at all, hitting of the belly, pubic area. Also be aware your tits, and breast will be come ULTRA sensative, so be careful of breast play/torture...i am not a big fan of breast bondage when your tits start to produce milk. But the MOST important feature, is communication with your Master, because of hormonal changes, you may not feel up to playing, or worse you may cry all day for no reason at all. Things may start to bother you, that didn't before..but remember tell your Master what is going on, because she can't read your mind, and she has never experienced what you have either. Also, may i inquire how you plan on getting pregnant.

btw, some people will become hateful, because i went a head and posted to you...please feel free to email me for details