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mnottertail -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/4/2005 6:35:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures
i had the best of intentions -- to help PREVENT abusers from latching onto submissives and slaves -- but it seems that's impossible, and the thread has done damage by somehow belittling the problem of abuse. i am ashamed and regretful and apologetic.
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Please be none of these things PP. One finds that most threads here will at some point go fundamentally awry. Its the natural progression of things on the net. You can only try, but can't be guilty because the chinese are communists.

You say what's on your mind!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You have every right to be you!!!!!!!!

Widdie, The best laid plans of mice and men gang aft aglay.........

Ron

edited for mr burns' sake



mistoferin -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/4/2005 6:44:27 AM)

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Seems i have made a serious error in judgment by beginning this thread. i had the best of intentions -- to help PREVENT abusers from latching onto submissives and slaves -- but it seems that's impossible, and the thread has done damage by somehow belittling the problem of abuse. i am ashamed and regretful and apologetic.


Not sure where this sentiment came from, I think there is alot of great info on the thread. Those who have attempted to belittle.....well I take them with a grain of salt. They have painted a picture of themselves in the dim light of insensitivity and intolerance much more clearly than I could have done for them. I don't think that belittles the problem of abuse nearly as much as it belittles themselves.



Kindred2Evil -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/4/2005 6:55:54 AM)

I think that this thread is a worthwhile venture, pink pleasures. It's quite disgusting how some come here and flame and blast on it, but so it goes. In a perfect world we wouldn't ever have to have these types of discussions because abuse would be a myth. Unfortunately, we don't live in Perfect.

I just wanted to say thank you to all those that shared their pasts, I know how hard it is to do that. It makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone and to see that others have survived the hell as well. Goddess's blessings on you all.

As a Sadist I am always careful what emotion tints my play, I never ever play angry or upset. I make damn sure to stay within the set boundries of whomever I am playing with and always always I discuss the scene afterwards with the bottem/sub/slave, just to make sure that they are okay. There is a HUGE difference between abuse and S&M. It's a pity that some can't see that. I've done edge play for years and not one time did anyone have to go to the E.R. because of anything I'd done.

Keep posting these thought provoking topics Pink, I think they are worthwhile and helpful to many out there.



smilezz -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/4/2005 7:36:30 AM)

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DomButNotForgotn -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/10/2005 4:58:13 AM)

While it's easy to nitpick and such, overall pinkpleasures has written some very good advice, and I appreciate that there can never be enough Safe Sane Consensual awareness, safe talk, and the like. As a dom, I don't have quite the concerns a female sub may have about safety, but I appreciate the necessity to keep our community safe. Thanks.



MrThorns -> RE: Is He a Sadist? An Abusive Man? Married? (8/10/2005 9:35:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DomButNotForgotn

... and I appreciate that there can never be enough Safe Sane Consensual awareness, safe talk, and the like...


Not everyone is SSC, yanno.

~Thorns



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