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New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 9/30/2007 9:07:03 PM   
Training4Him


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone.  I am new on here and learning my way around.  Looking for other subs who have difficulty in certain areas.  I would love to meet other subs who share or have overcome those same issues.  They are swallowing without gagging, holding anal toys in and overcoming the pain involved in anal play.  I enjoy beting with my Master and wish to please him more.
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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/1/2007 7:54:25 PM   
liorsnava


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Status: offline 		there are some helpful hints to both of your questions ~grin~
number one for anal play is .. always always always use a good lube, and lots of it.. second most important ( if you are NOT into the pain aspect as i assume you are not ) is taking it VERY slow.. Master always goes in very slowly and each time he goes deeper He stays in that position until the muscles relax and accept enough to push further.. it helps a lot ! and very little pain.. the trick is to get the muscles to relax enough to allow insertion of (insert "toy" here )...i am not sure what to tell you on swallowing, as i have never really had a issue.. is this something that you are new at ? if it is, maybe in time you will become accustomed to the taste, and texture... i hope this has helped ~grin~

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/2/2007 8:53:42 PM   
Training4Him


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Status: offline 		Thanks liorsnava.  I have never swallowed before, but am expected to now.  I begin to gag and have not had any luck in getting around that.  Master prefers fast and hard on the anal.  Perhaps I can find a better lube than what we have used.  And will definately go for more.  Thanks again.

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/2/2007 11:41:25 PM   
lonelysub22


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Status: offline 		on the lube make absolutely sure it's water based and doesn't have spermicide in it, otherwise, baaaad >.<

other than that...i don't really have many tips on those issues...i'm into the pain a bit, so it doesn't bother me really, and gagging...i think that's just getting used to it really

hope i helped ^.^


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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/2/2007 11:46:13 PM   
trusting


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From: Virginia
Status: offline 		i have found that with becoming familiar with your mates member would help with the gagging... holding anal toys in would be easier when instructed to do so and the anal thing is simple a consistency with anal play, which will help you become more 'experienced' in this type of play. as far as lube... that would depend on your Master's preference  and your's also if allowed to make decisions? hope this helps!

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/3/2007 10:13:36 AM   
slaveelle


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Joined: 9/28/2007
From: Australia
Status: offline 		hello Training4Him,

There are a lot of products on the market these days people use to get used to anal play. These products numb your ass so it isnt as painful. Use a lot a first then gradually decrease the amount you use as you become used to it. Relaxation of the anal muscles help a great deal too.  But like the other submissives have suggested do use lots n lots of good quality lube....it does help.
About the gagging, i know it sounds a little silly but get Your Master's cock as far as you can down your throat over the gag reflex it becomes a lot easier to swallow. Hope this helps.

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/3/2007 5:48:33 PM   
newandreadygirl


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Status: offline 		hi there! im new at this but not new at going down on men lol.. and i gag too... i want to learn how not to also cuz well for me its kind of embarrassing

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/4/2007 3:24:27 AM   
MRandme


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Status: offline 		Hi!

As far as gagging goes, there are gels out there that can numb your gag reflex for quite a long time. you will get used to it, eventually.

Holding the toys in... less lube. i know, lube is good, but if there is too much they will come out. Try putting just a little on the end and make sure there is none around the base.

The toys are a good idea to get you used to penetration. I wear a butt plug for a while before going to see Master, so that i am ready for Him. It will make the pain of the initial insertion much less because you are already stretched. Make sure the plug is large enough that you truly are stretched -- wearing one smaller than He is won't help much. It can be a little uncomfortable wearing one at first. Start by having it in for about an hour, then increasing the time gradually. The plug should not hurt but you should know that it's there. *smile*

Anal play can be very enjoyable and stimulating for the one receiving it. You do need to learn to relax. If you are all tense, expecting it to hurt, it will just because you are tense.

Good luck!

angie

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RE: New Sub looking for some help from other subs - 10/4/2007 3:25:14 AM   
HollyBlue


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Joined: 9/13/2007
Status: offline 		Welcome, Training4Him!

You've gotten some really good advice here already, so I'm not going to rehash it, but I just wanted to say that I think you have a great attitude. In my experience, if you're truly motivated to overcome the things that challenge you so you can please your Master, you will do it.

Warm regards,

Holly

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