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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 4:46:09 AM   
RCdc


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I would suggest that if you have to ask people how to approach and introduce yourself to someone - anyone - including a submissive or slave type, that you shouldn't be attempting to approach at all.
Deal with yourself first, sort out who you are and what you want and then go looking for that type of person and address them in the way you want and what is right and comfortable to you.
Living by others standards will only give a false sense of yourself and set you up for a fall later on.
 
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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 10:08:53 AM   
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The same goes for male subs.  Some Dommes seem to think that every submissive man is just sitting waiting for her to demand his obedience to her whims before he has ever spoken to her.

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ORIGINAL: Lucky13mn

Hi all,
I'm new here and was curious what would be the right way to introduce yourself to a sub.
Do I just start into it by saying "bitch get over here" or just start off like i'm meeting someone on the streets with "hey there nice to meet you"?
Thanks
Lucky13

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 10:20:25 AM   
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Once you get your smooth intro down, another key thing to remember is to convey some aspect of who YOU are, what makes you unique, what makes you compelling.  Unless you have a photo to send that is totally hot, it's worth the effort to give the other person a way to get to know you and to feel compelled to respond.

There is a hurdle to meeting people online in that all your charming traits are hard to convey (although annoying traits seem to come across quite easily ).  The challenge is to find a way to gets those traits across with just the written word.

But I do feel that people should be true to who they are.  If your gut tells you to use the  rough introduction, do it.  You may not get many responses, but those who do respond are probably a better match for you.











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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 11:08:51 AM   
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why is it that the Dominants seem to more often post snarky replies on the Ask a sub/slaforum and the subs/slaves seem to more often post snarky replies on the Ask a Master forum (i don't read the Ask a Mistress forum often, myself)? i don't do it on purpose...

there are many ways to approach introducing yourself to a sub...but think of it in relation to putting in job applications...if you get 1 response to every 10 emails you send out, thats about average...more than that you're doing good...if you have a good well thought out "resume" or form letter...you can get out more "applications"....if you put out the effort to customize each letter, you get a higher return rate...either way you will still get some deletes without reading and a bunch of reads without responding....and a fair number of thanks but no thanks....
things that help
1) more than one line, not your life story, about you, not a fantasy...make sense?
2) good spelling and grammar...or at least not deliberate text speak or careless typos
3) a picture...of your FACE, not your cock....

good luck...go forth my child and prosper...lol
chelle

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/2/2007 3:39:11 PM   
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Here's some pratical advice:

An email i received went "Evening eyesopened, I read your profile, actualy read it a few times and you strike me as a real down to earth kind of person, very refreshing"

This told me He'd actually read my profile and got something out of it and that He liked what i'd written.  When introducing yourself on a site like this is different than meeting someone on the street or at a bar because the profile should give you some information ahead of time about the kind of person you are approaching.

"If you don't mind a long haired, bearded, tattoo'd Dominant that rides a Harley, I'd really like to get to know you."

Add something about yourself, something you think is important for a potential sub to know.  If you state you are an executive of a large software company and drive a Bently, then you should not later whine that the females are interested in your money.  So choose wisely, but let the other person see that you are a real person not a bot or a jerk, unless you are a bot or a jerk.

"As I have seen your pic, I am enclosing mine at the bottom and look forward to speaking with you."

This is a nice touch.  It would seem that a vast majority of male Dominants do not like to include a picture in their profiles or hide their faces.  When someone is willing to attach a pic to the email it makes me see that they are sincere about meeting in person, should all go well.

Now in the above example it didn't hurt at all that He also included a pic of the Harley *grins*

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/3/2007 12:16:29 AM   
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the only advice i have is to speak to a sub like she/he is a person also... some people treat subs/slaves as they are trash and that is simple not the case, we are also people! show respect and You should go far on CM. good luck in Your search!

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/3/2007 9:48:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Here's some pratical advice:

An email i received went "Evening eyesopened, I read your profile, actualy read it a few times and you strike me as a real down to earth kind of person, very refreshing"

This told me He'd actually read my profile and got something out of it and that He liked what i'd written.  When introducing yourself on a site like this is different than meeting someone on the street or at a bar because the profile should give you some information ahead of time about the kind of person you are approaching.

"If you don't mind a long haired, bearded, tattoo'd Dominant that rides a Harley, I'd really like to get to know you."

Add something about yourself, something you think is important for a potential sub to know.  If you state you are an executive of a large software company and drive a Bently, then you should not later whine that the females are interested in your money.  So choose wisely, but let the other person see that you are a real person not a bot or a jerk, unless you are a bot or a jerk.

"As I have seen your pic, I am enclosing mine at the bottom and look forward to speaking with you."

This is a nice touch.  It would seem that a vast majority of male Dominants do not like to include a picture in their profiles or hide their faces.  When someone is willing to attach a pic to the email it makes me see that they are sincere about meeting in person, should all go well.

Now in the above example it didn't hurt at all that He also included a pic of the Harley *grins*


Only it sounds like a job application.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/3/2007 11:31:18 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SixFootMaster

quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Here's some pratical advice:

An email i received went "Evening eyesopened, I read your profile, actualy read it a few times and you strike me as a real down to earth kind of person, very refreshing"

This told me He'd actually read my profile and got something out of it and that He liked what i'd written.  When introducing yourself on a site like this is different than meeting someone on the street or at a bar because the profile should give you some information ahead of time about the kind of person you are approaching.

"If you don't mind a long haired, bearded, tattoo'd Dominant that rides a Harley, I'd really like to get to know you."

Add something about yourself, something you think is important for a potential sub to know.  If you state you are an executive of a large software company and drive a Bently, then you should not later whine that the females are interested in your money.  So choose wisely, but let the other person see that you are a real person not a bot or a jerk, unless you are a bot or a jerk.

"As I have seen your pic, I am enclosing mine at the bottom and look forward to speaking with you."

This is a nice touch.  It would seem that a vast majority of male Dominants do not like to include a picture in their profiles or hide their faces.  When someone is willing to attach a pic to the email it makes me see that they are sincere about meeting in person, should all go well.

Now in the above example it didn't hurt at all that He also included a pic of the Harley *grins*


Only it sounds like a job application.



Really? 
"Evening eyesopened, I read your profile, actualy read it a few times and you strike me as a real down to earth kind of person, very refreshing. If you don't mind a long haired, bearded, tattoo'd Dominant that rides a Harley, I'd really like to get to know you. As I have seen your pic, I am enclosing mine at the bottom and look forward to speaking with you."  Sounds like a job interview??  *shrug*

i just gave an example of what kind of approach can be successful.  Whatever it was that InkedMaster was "applying" for..... He got.  For real.  In the flesh. Body. Mind. Heart. Soul.  Now, if the OP is just looking for a blow job, "on your knees" is always a good place to start.

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/9/2007 7:13:52 PM   
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lol, i think someones been spending way too much time in yahoo chat...rolls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: How to introduce myself to a sub - 10/9/2007 7:19:06 PM   
slaveelle


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Dangit!..i'm sorry behindmirrors, that was mean for the OP. I'll work this thing out sooner or later.Doh!

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