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BitaTruble -> Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:05:32 AM)
"I'm going upstairs for a drink. Can I bring you down something?" ::blinks:: You're going to bring me something from upstairs? That's my job, damn it! I'm the one who's supposed to trot upstairs and get you a drink, even if I don't want one myself! What the hell is wrooooong with you?? ::points to collar:: See this??? Huh? Do ya?? This is an indication that I'm supposed to serve you, not the other way around! What is it, exactly, that you don't get about being a Dominant!?! ::laughs:: I didn't feel comfortable with anyone doing anything for me, ever. My mind was so clearly set on how I was supposed to serve that it never dawned on me that my thinking was completely warped on the issue. To me, being a good submissive meant that I anticipated his needs, jumped up no matter what I was doing to be of service, to make his life easier, to do for him in whatever manner I deemed best. I mean, I've been doing this for a very long time and I know what's required and damn it, I'm going to do it whether you like it or not! Geeze.. some doms. They think they're supposed to be served the way they want service instead of how I want to serve them. Who knew? ::chuckles:: Okay, okay, so I get it now. It's all about Burger King Service. He gets to have it his way and fries on the side if that's what he wants. [8D] I believe in service with substance and what that means to me now is he determines the when and where of service.. the how, why and what. So, maybe a ton of bricks had to fall on my head before I got it, but I got it ... eventually and it doesn't make me cringe anymore to hear.."I'm going upstairs for a drink. Can I bring you down something?" Yeah.. diet Orange Sunkist, no ice. Thank you, Sir. [;)] Burger King vs No substitutions on the menu .. which is better for you and why? Does it make you cringe when your m or d offers to do stuff for you? Do you accept, graciously or turn it down even if you really do want that glass of water or sip of soda? What kind of service to you want if you're the d or m .. and what kind of service do you provide if you're one of the s types? If you're a d or m type, do you ever offer to do a little something for your s type and, if so, how do they react when you're in Burger King mode and having it your way by doing a little something for the s type in your life? Celeste

xoxi -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:10:20 AM)
I love it actually. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy and loved and cherished. Then again I don't consider myself a slave, just a submissive and traditional woman. The men I submit to are not only able to physically dominate me but also to physically protect me...and I like a man who takes that provider role. Opening doors, taking me out for dinner...even making dinner. I had a man once tell me I was his most precious possession, and that he would do everything he could to keep me in perfect condition - happy, healthy and safe. So seeing that protector/provider side come out in a man is totally heartwarming to me [:)]

charlotte12 -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:11:12 AM)
i think it would make me cranky if he offered it all the time. But as it is, i just smile and am grateful that he cares enough to take care of me sometimes, and that his dominance isn't dependent wholly on my expectations of what i think he should want from me. His charlotte

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:11:25 AM)
Well, I suppose I'm similar in this aspect. . I've seen it make some people very uncomfortable. Yes, I do enjoy when I'm being served but if I notice my sub feeling stressed, tired from whatever was being done, asked if they wanted a massage, and would give them one. Make use of these big hands of mine. :P It's not saying we don't want you to serve us, or are we trying to take away your duties, I suppose it has more to do with the timing of the day, or whatever. . Perhaps show that we respect you, and cherish you for being the one who's always taking care of us. Some people have a weird feeling of always being taken care of and not returning the favor once in awhile. Pride issue, maybe?

SixFootMaster -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:31:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PsychoticWolf Well, I suppose I'm similar in this aspect. . I've seen it make some people very uncomfortable. Yes, I do enjoy when I'm being served but if I notice my sub feeling stressed, tired from whatever was being done, asked if they wanted a massage, and would give them one. Make use of these big hands of mine. :P It's not saying we don't want you to serve us, or are we trying to take away your duties, I suppose it has more to do with the timing of the day, or whatever. . Perhaps show that we respect you, and cherish you for being the one who's always taking care of us. Some people have a weird feeling of always being taken care of and not returning the favor once in awhile. Pride issue, maybe? Or perhaps a sick and tired adn exhausted sub needs some warmth and passion back to rejuvenate, so they can continue to serve ;)

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:41:29 AM)
Yea, exactly. lol

CuriousLord -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 12:49:55 AM)
So, Bita.. is there anything I can do for you? Perhaps, a grape soda? Or a pillow-fluffing? Or how 'bout I go pick you some flowers? Muhahaha. [:D] I guess this is more of Ask a Submissive sort of thing? But, since it's on this board, I'll give it a go anyhow. I tend to help out my slave when it's convinient. Not that it's, by any means, expected of me.. but if one's up, you know? Besides, physically, I'm a pretty strong man. She's not exactly muscle-bound. I'm not about to have her do any of the heavy lifting. Oh, and, she's hurt right now. Can't walk. (Though she can hobble, which, I must confess, I take no end of joy in teasing her about.) Still, despite teasing her, I tend to carry her when we're together. For me, M/s isn't really about her serving me in the mundane. I neither want nor would accept a babysitter. She's my property, true; a servant,.. perhaps one might coin it in this vulgar fashion. More than a hired maid, though, she's closer to being my pet. And who would want a puppy if they couldn't love up on it or take care of it a bit? I'm glad, though, that she cleans up her own messes. Darn puppies.. they're hell on a house. (Even if you tend to forget it when they give you those eyes.)

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:02:48 AM)
Very well put there CuriousLord.

Rumtiger -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:03:48 AM)
i'm hungry...

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:08:47 AM)
McDonald's is better. :D lol And that's the only fast food place I can get too. . Unless you want to include Quizno's/Subway.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:11:07 AM)
Have you ever seen Supersize Me?

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:24:39 AM)
Sounds familiar, I think I have, but I'm going to say I don't remember to be safe. lol

hisannabelle -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:36:32 AM)
greetings celeste, i can kind of sympathize, hehehe. i was not quite so indoctrinated into the "i am the only one doing the serving here" as you were...but i had a similar reaction, especially because it's something he does so often. i don't really feel comfortable in his kitchen and his cooking style is much different from mine (as in, he refuses to use a traditional oven), so when i'm with him, he does all the cooking (although i'd be very happy to do it if he'd allow it). he's something of a neat freak and likes to clean, so usually he chooses to do the dishes, too (although every now and then i get to help). occasionally i will serve him drinks, but usually it's the other way around. it's freaking weird. i've gotten used to it over time - he was alone for a long time so he's used to doing for/by himself, and he also is very set in his ways and such, so if it makes him happy, i'm happy. sometimes he can be very attentive and loving when he does it, which, as another poster mentioned, makes me feel cherished and loved in turn. and i do treasure the times when i am able to help or serve him domestically even more, because they are fewer. at this point (we have been together over 1.5 years), it's becoming second nature to me...it would change the feel of our relationship for my service to switch to being more domestically oriented...although i think it would be a fun and interesting journey if we ever do. respectfully, annabelle.

BitaTruble -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:47:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi I love it actually. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy and loved and cherished. Then again I don't consider myself a slave, just a submissive and traditional woman. The men I submit to are not only able to physically dominate me but also to physically protect me...and I like a man who takes that provider role. Opening doors, taking me out for dinner...even making dinner. I had a man once tell me I was his most precious possession, and that he would do everything he could to keep me in perfect condition - happy, healthy and safe. So seeing that protector/provider side come out in a man is totally heartwarming to me [:)] This is such a sweet post. I don't get that warm, fuzzy feeling, but at least I don't cringe anymore and I can appreciate when he wants to do things for me now. I don't know that I'll ever get used to it.. at least I haven't over the last dozen years, but, who knows. Maybe. Thanks for sharing. :) Celeste

MaamJay -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:51:22 AM)
As a subbie i feel totally cherished and loved when Master does things for me. He's very helpful around the house anyway, but the times that mean most is when i am unwell and He takes over. For example, while making lunch the other day i got a sudden hypo (i have diabetes 2 and that day was also premenstrual so biochemically haywire!), and was almost in tears as i was shaking so much i couldn't break up the cooked chicken! Master just grabbed it from my hand, said "Go, eat some chocolate, sit down NOW!" and proceeded to finish making up and toasting the chicken wraps. No fuss, no heavy sighs that He had to do it, He just did it, brought mine in, served me. The love that floods over me at times like these is almost overwhelming. i feel so totally blessed. As a Domme I want My subs to feel equally cherished ... My subby girl has struggled a bit with this as she is here recuperating from her operation ... I found her initial resistance far more frustrating and distressing than actually having to do things for her such as wound care, lifting things for her etc. Being able to do that just makes Me feel good, satisfied that I am taking the proper care of her. Fortunately she is now settling down and accepting help ... so I am much happier! I think it's important for subs to take stock as the OP did and realise that the Dominant has the right to choose to serve ... as well as to be served. That's a pivotal realisation! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:54:57 AM)
(I’m still trying to figure out what kind of place Bita and her Master live in where you have to go upstairs for a drink, heh.) Seriously, not always allowing a slave to serve is about compartmentalizing. Just as I don’t expect slaves/submissives to always be ON, I’m not either. I know when it is important to see that she serves me. It has to accomplish something. Doing a mundane task is not necessary unless it provides the opportunity to establish something by embellishing it. For instance if I have her put the newspaper on the table for me, I may tell her to always leave it open. A small task, but it is symbolic because it is something I could easily do for myself. It has the twist that I make her open it for me which establishes my Dominance in her mind. On the other hand, I may get my own drinks because it is ordinary and doesn’t have that twist.

PsychoticWolf -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 1:55:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MaamJay I think it's important for subs to take stock as the OP did and realise that the Dominant has the right to choose to serve ... as well as to be served. That's a pivotal realisation! Maam Jay aka violet[A] Best quote ever! More subbies need to see this point of view and not taken offense by it.

RCdc -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 4:40:41 AM)
I am quite big on the what people label as 'service' - I love to serve Darcy in all ways, including the whole cook/clean/bath running/happy'housefrau' perspective. I wouldn't say I cringe when Darcy does make me breakfast, or a coffee etc - but it does take 'getting used to' is the best phrase I can muster right now. I am submisive to him, so then I do the things he desires - and that includes things I might find 'strange' to accept, like having yummy scramble cooked for me in the morning. Submission isn;t just about the selfish act of submitting to someone, it is about submitting to the stuff you might not be prepared for as well because He desires it, not me. It is all about him, from my POV. So when he does something as beautiful as make me a latte, I sit there in complete awe knowing he is that comfortable with himself, and that gives me the warm fuzzies. Not sure if that made sense. Peace the.dark.

onmykneesb4Him -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 4:47:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi I love it actually. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy and loved and cherished. Then again I don't consider myself a slave, just a submissive and traditional woman. The men I submit to are not only able to physically dominate me but also to physically protect me...and I like a man who takes that provider role. Opening doors, taking me out for dinner...even making dinner. I had a man once tell me I was his most precious possession, and that he would do everything he could to keep me in perfect condition - happy, healthy and safe. So seeing that protector/provider side come out in a man is totally heartwarming to me [:)] i really like this post, too. i love it when Sir can see i'm too overwhelmed and orders me to go lie down or take a bath. i don't get waited on often, so when i do, it feels great. Although i do have a limit- only sometimes or i start to feel uncomfortable. And for some reason when other people are around i don't want Him to wait on me at all, even if the others are not aware of our dynamic.

niveauinconnu -> RE: Burger King Service (10/2/2007 5:03:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi I love it actually. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy and loved and cherished. Then again I don't consider myself a slave, just a submissive and traditional woman. The men I submit to are not only able to physically dominate me but also to physically protect me...and I like a man who takes that provider role. Opening doors, taking me out for dinner...even making dinner. I had a man once tell me I was his most precious possession, and that he would do everything he could to keep me in perfect condition - happy, healthy and safe. So seeing that protector/provider side come out in a man is totally heartwarming to me [:)] I love this. You expressed a little of how it is between my Sir and I, and put it so well. I think of him sometimes as an equal opportunity Dom... (chuckles)... I'm jesting of course, because even though it's true that he likes to 'take turns' with mundane tasks and often ensures things are 'fair', it has absolutely no relevance to his dominance. It's that way because he wants it that way. What a terrific thread. Thanks to the OP for starting it.

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