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COYoungDom -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/25/2005 7:06:24 PM)
I'm in the situation where i can't find any communities near me...i have found groups in the Denver area but they only accept people 21 and over and sadly I'm only 18 so there really isn't anything i can do but keep looking. Theres a community down in CO springs but i can't move because i am attending college. I couldn't move any because my lease doesn't end til next year lol.

LdyAuburn -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/25/2005 7:12:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: imtempting quote: ORIGINAL: LdyAuburn To add a little to your pet peeve, I do get annoyed with them when you have gone to the trouble of telling them about local events, func tions and organisers in their area. Some months down the track you see they are still saying they havnt found anything local Feels a little guilty... Dont assume [;)]

imtempting -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/25/2005 7:25:02 PM)
Sorry :P

sultryvoice -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/25/2005 7:36:43 PM)
Somehow, someway, people find me online and ask if there is any activity in our area. I am very active in our community so I can direct them to whatever they are looking for. I take people to the different gatherings and munches. Sometimes, I just send links. I am always available for anyone who wants to know. I was lucky in that when I first ventured into this lifestyle I had a friend who knew where to find one of the clubs. She is no longer involved but I am up to my eyeballs in it and loving every minute. It's there if you look. Respectfully, sultry

slavedesires -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/25/2005 7:42:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PrincessinLatex This isn't directed toward anyone in particular. . . and I'm just playing devil's advocate here but even if you find a lot of links for groups in a certain area. . .it doesn't meant that they are still active. Things really died down in the Atlanta area. You might still find links for PEP, KPOG, and the Sanctuary. . . .but they all shut down. Just food for thought. Princess Just like ALOT of things shut down in Chicago after the Peter Toshin incident. Things are looking up again so i hear. ~~shy

Rover -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 4:06:30 AM)
You might want to specifically look for a TNG chapter (The Next Generation) in your area. Denver is sure to have one. They cater specifically to younger lifestylers and are (generally) open to those eighteen and older. John

siamsa24 -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 6:10:28 AM)
Or shoot, start your own! When I was in school last year I couldn't find a group within a reasonable distance (I lived out in the sticks) so I started my own. It didn't really go that far because I tried to start too late in the year, but I did meet other people on campus who were interested.

perverseangelic -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 8:08:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover You might want to specifically look for a TNG chapter (The Next Generation) in your area. Denver is sure to have one. They cater specifically to younger lifestylers and are (generally) open to those eighteen and older. John You'd be surprised at how difficult, in my experience, it =is= to find something geared at younger people. They really -aren't- prevelant. (Sadly, my attempt to start one didn't fly. THe person who was helping bailed and I just don't have the time to do it solo)

COYoungDom -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 8:11:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover You might want to specifically look for a TNG chapter (The Next Generation) in your area. Denver is sure to have one. They cater specifically to younger lifestylers and are (generally) open to those eighteen and older. John Thansk Rover. I'll see if i can find find out if there is one via google lol.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 9:19:12 AM)
quote: This isn't a pet peeve or anything, but I always wonder about these guys that are wealthy and want a girl to move in with them and be their submissive or baby girl or whatever ... and that she wouldn't have to work, just clean house, cook and be a trophy girl in the evening. I wouldn't necessarily classify us as "wealthy" but we don't require a submissive to work outside the home... they would be required to "just clean house" and cook... as far as a trophy girl is concerned... well, finding one that fits in and is compatable... that's enough of a trophy for us. Jewel

COYoungDom -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 1:24:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel quote: This isn't a pet peeve or anything, but I always wonder about these guys that are wealthy and want a girl to move in with them and be their submissive or baby girl or whatever ... and that she wouldn't have to work, just clean house, cook and be a trophy girl in the evening. I wouldn't necessarily classify us as "wealthy" but we don't require a submissive to work outside the home... they would be required to "just clean house" and cook... as far as a trophy girl is concerned... well, finding one that fits in and is compatable... that's enough of a trophy for us. Jewel lol. I am far from wealthy. Im a poor college student with only 100 dollars left in my bank account lol. I haven't had a decent meal in weeks lol. Top roman and hamburgers is all i have eatten in the last 3 weeks lol. I could honestly use a house cleaner...house work ain't my specialty lol. >.> and i'm living in an apartment :S dunno how that works out lol.

MstrHellsFury -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 2:50:09 PM)
whenever someone new joins our group..especally if they're female...I try to make personal contact by inviting them to coffee with either me if they're male or mine if they're female..this is done as a simple welcome to the neighborhood...this to me is a good icebreaker for those new to the area and also lets them know there is a caring group to become involved with...I can say without doubt it has helped many overcome that...well I joined a group but I don't know anyone so I won't attend the meetings sindrome... Fury

anopheles -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/26/2005 3:36:32 PM)
We attended our first RL gathering a couple of weeks ago. I would strongly encourage anyone new to do so. This wasn't a play party, just a gathering at a local bar, but even if you believe it, its very strong reassurance that you aren't alone, and there are a lot of good people in this lifestyle that are "JUST LIKE YOU". Me personally, I wouldn't dive right into play parties and stuff of that nature if you didn't have some experience.

LordTemporal -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/30/2005 11:39:58 PM)
caitlyn A statement in your post made me smile..."they tell me that half the girls they work with would learn to be proper submissives, just to get that kind of offer"...don't you think that you answer your own question with that? Being submissive, just like being dominant, is not something one learns, it is a personality trait, that is forged in a person's being by past experiences, or in some few cases, naturally occurring. It's not something that someone willfully chooses to "learn". Most Dominants that I know of seek real submissives, not some woman that would learn to play the role, like an actor on the stage, in exchange for money and comfort. I think that is why so few Dominants have much respect for so called "professional" dommes. They view the person as willing to exchange dominance, which is a very intimate act, for money...and we have a name for those that are willing to exchange intimacies for money, little one. I am afraid that what you are describing would be a "professional submissive", and that they would be viewed in the same light.

LdyAuburn -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/30/2005 11:44:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LordTemporal I think that is why so few Dominants have much respect for so called "professional" dommes. They view the person as willing to exchange dominance, which is a very intimate act, for money...and we have a name for those that are willing to exchange intimacies for money, little one. Employed?

bxmbeauty2 -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/31/2005 12:02:35 AM)
I too was nervous to go to my first local group function. I e-mailed the President of the group and conveyed this fear. Little did I know, the local group has a welcoming committee of sorts. I met up with a submissive from the local group who is the chair for the welcoming committee. We chatted over coffee. The following week I decided to attend my first munch. I have been going ever since. I would like to add, the local group is great. I look back and wonder what I was afraid of. For me, I decided I was afraid of not being accepted, of not fitting in and of being judged by others. I was the one in reality that was judging the group. I wish you the best. bxmbeauty "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away."--anonymous

bxmbeauty2 -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/31/2005 12:02:35 AM)
I too was nervous to go to my first local group function. I e-mailed the President of the group and conveyed this fear. Little did I know, the local group has a welcoming committee of sorts. I met up with a submissive from the local group who is the chair for the welcoming committee. We chatted over coffee. The following week I decided to attend my first munch. I have been going ever since. I would like to add, the local group is great. I look back and wonder what I was afraid of. For me, I decided I was afraid of not being accepted, of not fitting in and of being judged by others. I was the one in reality that was judging the group. I wish you the best. bxmbeauty "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away."--anonymous

Padriag -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/31/2005 12:15:30 AM)
Actually you ought to listen to Caitlyn, she's right. I worked the floor and door in a strip club for six years, knew all the dancers and I can tell you that probably half of them had submissive personalities, a few were active in the lifestyle. That was actually my first brush with the lifestyle, though I didn't start exploring til a few years later. If you can actually convince them you're for real, and trust me they will be very suspicious, its not a bad place to look. The other thing that can be a problem, at least it was back then, was drug use. Many of the dancers I knew ended up coke addicts, it was their way of coping. Frankly if I was actively looking I'd head back to one of the clubs I used to work at before I'd try a local munch group, the odds are better. Damn... now why am I giving away some of my best secrets... doh! [:o]

lovingmaster45 -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/31/2005 4:11:07 AM)
Princess, say hello to LC for me. Miss the Sanctuary.

sudja -> RE: Minor pet peeve about individuals looking for partners (7/31/2005 8:00:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: perverseangelic I know this is something very little and minor, but it bugs me. I wish people would simply say they don't -want- to be involved in their community, or aren't comfortable with it. God knows I'm not comfortable with the community I've met here. When I first hit IRC there was a woman who kept insisting that I "go to one of the local events" with her. She wasn't interested in me, she was just trying to "help" me. I had no interest in going. No interest at all. She accused me of "not being real." Amazingly enough, and without even looking for it, I managed to find the One without attending any events. I may never attend an "event." If I do, it will be because my Mistress wants to, and then I will do so happily. Regardless, the point is that sometimes honesty results in the type of asinine remark my "friend' made, and folks do learn from experience not to set themselves up. sudja

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