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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 10:00:43 AM   
TotalState


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ORIGINAL: interestedfemale

i'm thinking that this person has it all wrong, and reading the posts on this thread i think i'm right.


I'll hazard the opinion that he's certainly all wrong for you, at the very least.

To me, D/s without love is pale and shallow compared to what I have now.


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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 10:06:56 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		obviously i'm not the dominant....

but to Sir i am his lil girl, his precious possession, his love, his darling girl, his queen.

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 10:35:00 AM   
interestedfemale


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Status: offline 		Oh this email was not from my Mentor, this was from another who claims to know the lifestyle of D/s and BDsM.
I'm guessing now because we both state about how true our love is for one another in our profiles.
I came in here to post only because i can see most relationship are of some form or another (people that post of course) based on respect, honesty and some sort of love.
again please correct me i'm wrong.

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 11:37:53 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		Most of us agree that a sub is property,  i disagree

Daddy considers me as His daughter, slut, pig, cunt, whore, black bitch, friend, patient, and then lastly property.  however more importantly, we are lifelong companions.

with my SO, i'm his friend, lover, fiance and submissive.

as you see - depending on which relationship i have with my two doms, i'm more than just mere property




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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 11:44:00 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		For me the answer is quite simple..........the yang to my yin.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 11:48:06 AM   
Mercnbeth


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What is your sub to you?

"sub", slave  - the label is not an issue.

My slave to me - is me; because without her I wouldn't exist.

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 11:52:57 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		You too always make me smile and think "awwwwwww" all mushy like.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 11:57:05 AM   
dawntreader


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

For me the answer is quite simple..........the yang to my yin.


And from this side of the kneel, this would be my response about a Dominant :-)

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 12:10:58 PM   
completenz


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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 2:06:32 PM   
interestedfemale


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Status: offline 		exactly what i thought!
thank you so much, again for all your posts.
D/s and/or BDsM relationships are what the partners, spouse, playmates, fuck buddies, Dom/slave.........etc
its all what we need, want and make of it.........which seems to always include a need and want for each other....
yin to yang.......gotta love how simple that is.


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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 2:34:46 PM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

You too always make me smile and think "awwwwwww" all mushy like.


TWO! TWO TWO TWO TWO!

Sorry, my brain has been on vacation today. Well, not on vacation persay. More like preoccupied with work and someone I hope becomes my veddy own yang.


< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 10/3/2007 2:36:45 PM >

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 3:00:20 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: LostMyself

Most of us agree that a sub is property, but do most doms consider a sub as a significant other as well?  My former master and mistress referred to me as their girlfriend sometimes (mostly around like strangers and stuff) but it's still a relationship between two people with emotions, thoughts, etc.  I have yet to speak to a dom who wasn't looking for a sub who is interesting, intelligent, has similar interests, etc.  Despite the D/s dynamic, if it's an ongoing monogamous (or triad, whatever) all parties are human.  I guess from reading a lot of the posts on the boards that seem so rigid in protocol, I wonder how others deal with the dynamic of more or less equal intelligence in addition to a D/s dynamic.  The dominant is still looking for a companion and such, right?



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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 4:15:49 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		To the OP...

While I cannot speak for most dominants, I can speak to what is required of me by my Lord.  Our M/s dynamic essentially defines who has the authority within the relationship and he has it all.  That does not mean that he will choose to exercise all of it, but that at any time he can choose to exercise authority in whatever manner he desires.  There are no aspects of my life that are off limits for him.

The answer to what am I to him, is that I am whatever he wants me to be within my ability.  I am slave, partner, lover, friend, confidant, servant, bottom, etc.  He even tells his mom that I am his "American Wife".  Just because he has the authority within the relationship does not limit me from being his lover if that is what he wants from me.

I actually see very few relationships on this board that are "rigid in protocol".  Just do a search and read some of the protocol threads and you will see that many say they have very few protocols within their relationship.  Our family has quite a few of them because we find great enjoyment and fulfillment in them.  But again the protocol does not prevent me from being his friend or lover; it just defines how I will interact with him.

Knight's Kyra



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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 4:38:28 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		hmmm well first off not "property" as he's a sub, not a slave.  But hopefully also my friend, confidant and love.
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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 5:59:16 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		W/we're not big on the "property" thing either, when We talk of ownership, it's of the heart ... the rest just flows. Master owns this house ... but the way He owns me is far far different! And should I come to own My girl in future ... that would be different again. Master is definitely my significant other and i am His ... even when W/we were newly together He dithered when filling in forms about marital relationships because He no longer "felt" single, but there wasn't a box for polyamorous lover (I was still married at the time!). Should things come to fruition with My trainee girl ... I would be her significant other and she would be My secondary other. And as significant others, then yes, they are partners, confidantes, lovers, friends ... all those other dynamics that other posters have mentioned!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 6:50:19 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: MaamJay

W/we're not big on the "property" thing either, 


property is not a huge term in my life either.  It really doesn't tell me alot in truth.

My "Socks" are my property......what does that tell you?

My "Slaves" are my property... what does that tell you?

They should actually tell you the exact same thing.... anything you read into the statement is actually one's own value judgements being projected into the statement.  I thimk we need more words than just Property... it doesn't really convey that much to me.


< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 10/3/2007 6:51:07 PM >

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 6:53:45 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		My pet is not my property, but he is mine.  He considers himself "owned" but not in the sense that he has lost himself or that he is an object. 
He's the person I allow in my inner circle, my personal "space"; the person with whom I am not afraid to be myself.  I consider him a part of my family, with all the rights and responsibilities that go along with the appointment, while he is with me.

~Psy

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 9:05:35 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: LostMyself
Most of us agree that a sub is property, but do most doms consider a sub as a significant other as well?

Certainly can't speak for "most" but my Master considers me (His slave) His significant other.  We plan to be married soon.
quote:

The dominant is still looking for a companion and such, right?

Mine was and He found that in me.  He has told me I'm His slave, lover, companion, confidante, best friend - everything He needs in a partner.  He is the same to me.  It's bliss....................luci

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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 9:05:59 PM   
JasonF


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Status: offline 		My girl (junecleaver) is many things to me. First and formost, she's my love, fiancee, and (eventually, we hope) the mother of my children. I never like calling her my "sub" or my "slave" or titles like that. I just feel like I have certain ways of expressing my love and she has certain ways she likes it expressed to her. It keeps us stable, and in that we end up with a symbiotic relationship.




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RE: What is your sub to you? - 10/3/2007 9:17:18 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		These days Master might say I'm a pain in the ass!...   I'm working hard to remedy that though. 

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