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HelenaTroy -> Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 12:56:33 AM)
Do the terms Domme and Domina have different meanings? Personally I like hearing the word Domina because it sounds more feminine and in Latin it means: Mistress of a household; a female ruler or controller. Anyone recall the character Atia in HBO's Rome series? She was called "domina" by her household slaves. What term do you prefer and why? Helena

LadyEllen -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 2:01:00 AM)
I must confess to a dislike of "Domme" - especially when some pronounce it "domm-a" as I've heard; that latter makes me cringe! The former I accept as popular usage to discern female from male, and one has to use terms that others will understand, so I use it. "Domina" is a good one for the reasons stated in the OP - except to my mind at least, its a little close to and has associations with dominatrix, and the seedy impression that word has thanks to decades of seedy Sunday "newspapers" with their sensationalist reporting of this or that titillating non story to their simian readers. Nothing against professionals on my part - I almost am one after all! So then we're left with the likes of titles and so on - "Goddess" I find to be a little presumptious and suitable only for subjective use (ie, some may think one a Goddess, others may not). "Queen" fits the same category in many ways. "Princess", to me at least, sounds like some spoiled brat! I find similar issues with the use of noble female titles too. The best solution I think is "Lady", or occasionally the German "Herrin". It defines the person as superior without going over the top and without having connotations which the bearer might prefer to avoid. It also brings into play appropriate forms of address which are not going to sound ridiculous - "yes my Lady" and so on. And the great thing is, that for around $50-00 (I believe) one can be a Lady, quite officially, by way of title to a square foot of Scotland! E

Politesub53 -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 3:39:13 AM)
i quite like Domina as a general term and Mistress as a more personal one.... Lady E i am dubious about calling anyone a Herring. [8D]

LadyEllen -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 4:22:19 AM)
Its Herrin (hair-inn with a rolled r), not herring! It means "mistress" and also "lady", in the same way that Herr means the male equivalents. Related to the verb for to master, to dominate. I like German; its such a great language to intimidate with! E

LadyPact -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 6:03:52 AM)
The Domm-A pronounciation has the similar effect to Me as fingernails on a chalkboard. Domina I tend to tolerate better, but I do prefer the easier sounding Dom. Just because the extra letters are written out to denote a female doesn't mean they need extra phonectic emphasis. If We're talking about terms in general, and not just pronouciation, My true preference is Mistress, though I personally believe that title should only be taken by those who have lived the lifestyle and been one. (No flames there. I said it was My belief.) Queen I tend to think a bit ridiculous, since I'm not ruling over a country. Goddess does nothing for Me, since I don't control the wind.

thetammyjo -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 6:13:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy Do the terms Domme and Domina have different meanings? Personally I like hearing the word Domina because it sounds more feminine and in Latin it means: Mistress of a household; a female ruler or controller. Anyone recall the character Atia in HBO's Rome series? She was called "domina" by her household slaves. What term do you prefer and why? Helena I don't like either. I won't use either. I'm a dom or a dominant. I do not see the need to gender terms that are basically descriptions either of personality or role.

LadyEllen -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 6:22:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Goddess does nothing for Me, since I don't control the wind. sorry - cant agree that control of the wind makes one a deity. I know quite a few guys, who drink too much and eat too much curry, and not one of them is a God. E

LadyPact -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 6:29:18 AM)
[sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif] But, Lady Ellen, Dear...... Most of them don't "control" their wind, either. Thanks ever so much for the laugh!

undergroundsea -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 7:19:36 AM)
In general conversation while referring to a female dominant without addressing her directly I use domme. I think domina is an equally good term although not used as commonly--perhaps it should be. Towards direct address, Maám or Miss before the first name are what I connect with most. I mostly use mistress when I know one likes to be addressed in that manner--it is not something I am apt to suggest. I also use mistress in silly posts in a spirit of silliness because it fits the spirit best--not because of the term itself but because of how commonly it is used in scenarios that inspire the silliness. Cheers, Sea

LadyLynx -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 7:34:56 AM)
I don't mind the term Domme, though with being as inexperienced as I am, I don't like being called one. (in referring to myself, I usually use top and bottom, depending on the activity.) However, I love being called Lady, and when I get a sub of my own, I want them to call me My Lady. and that is also how I refer to my future Dominant. Domina is pretty, but reminds me to much of a name, instead of a title. Calling someone Mistress, seems alittle impersonal. Miss ----------- I like that as a general honorific

LadyLynx -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 7:37:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif] But, Lady Ellen, Dear...... Most of them don't "control" their wind, either. Thanks ever so much for the laugh! But they can control what they eat, and whether or not to take Gas-x before hand! I liked that too!

undergroundsea -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 7:44:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyEllen I know quite a few guys, who drink too much and eat too much curry, and not one of them is a God. [:D] Aside from the joke, I am amused by the cultural and terminology differences across the Atlantic. It's a trunk call versus a long distance call. You take a lift instead of an elevator. It's petrol and not gas. Speaking of gas, it's curry and not a burrito ;-) Cheers, Sea

MistressDolly -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 9:16:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy Do the terms Domme and Domina have different meanings? Personally I like hearing the word Domina because it sounds more feminine and in Latin it means: Mistress of a household; a female ruler or controller. Anyone recall the character Atia in HBO's Rome series? She was called "domina" by her household slaves. What term do you prefer and why? Helena To me, "domme" and "domina" wreks of fetish parlance. When I speak of an alfa Woman, I refer to her as "Mistress" or "Woman". When being addressed, I prefer more time-honored terms such as "Ma'am".

sissypet01 -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 10:57:51 AM)
Greetings All My self I have always have loved useing the term "Lady". Or if I am more aquantied with Her "MyLady" To me the sound of it brings more of a Victorian/Midevil radance to it. It just adds more elagance too me.

DivaZya -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 11:21:07 AM)
I'm of the Domina presuasion. I've always enjoyed what it means and how it sounds. Formal and Ladylike. Note on becoming a Lord or Lady due to land purchase. alas, that time has passed. " [image]http://www.landsearch.net/images/faq_bullet_b.gif[/image] Manorial Title A manorial title, or lordship of the manor, is an Incorporeal Hereditament. The Land Registration Act 2002 which came into force in October 2003 prevents the registration of further lordship titles. Manor titles before this are still recorded at the Land Registry and copies of the registers are still available."

littlesarbonn -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 12:50:04 PM)
I tend to use the term "Domme" but I don't pronounce it as others do with the "A" sound at the end. I pronounce it the same as "Dom" but I use the spelling this way to distinguish between male and female as I do a lot of writing about this subject, and it uses a more Romanized version of how to differentiate between two similar sounding words but differentiating in gender. If I'm speaking to someone, and she prefers I not call her a "Domme" but actually hears "Dom", then I will continue to address her by the appropriation she desires. I really don't give it that much thought.

DivaZya -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 12:56:59 PM)
just in case there's more options, here's a website still offering the Laird when y ou purchase their land. lochaberhighlandestates and yess, I'd do it. I have some relatives in Ccotland but only got as far as Edinbourough before I ran out of time.

rhythmboi -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 3:05:21 PM)
yeah, i always figured that 'Domme' was pronounced the same way as 'Dom' (like 'femme' is pronounced 'fem'). I agree that pronouncing it with a vowel at the end sounds awful silly and not especially befitting of a Domme.

LadyEllen -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 3:13:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DivaZya just in case there's more options, here's a website still offering the Laird when y ou purchase their land. lochaberhighlandestates and yess, I'd do it. I have some relatives in Ccotland but only got as far as Edinbourough before I ran out of time. I already did do it - the feminine version of Laird being Lady, I am paradoxically perhaps, officially more of a Lady than most LOL! E (Lady Ellen of Glencairn)

MIstrezzTanya -> RE: Domme terminology? (10/3/2007 3:18:48 PM)
I have to laugh. I thought I was alone is just generally disliking the pronunciation of Domme as Dom-may. I'm with MistressDolly. I happen to like Mistress.. unless you have a lisp.. then Ma'am is fine.. I do also like Lady or Queen. They both reek of distinction and entitlement..dontcha think?

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