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Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 2:10:15 PM

slavedesires

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(I swiped this from a submissive board i am on)

For those of you who identify as an s-Type...

How do you decide who you will show your s-traits to.

s-traits would include any type of deference from
using titles, to deference, or elevated levels of
respect, or bottoming, submitting, thru to
surrendering or ownership.

For those of you who identify as a D-Type...

How do you decide who you will show your D-traits to.

Anyone who claims they are a D-type or an s-type ? To
include anyone online with a upper or lowercase name.

Anyone you deem to be a D-type or s-type ?

Only worthy D-types or s-types you have gotten to know
on a more personal level ?

Only someone you would consider to collar/own or be
collared/owned by ?

None of the above or something completely different ?

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 2:35:24 PM

EmeraldSlave2

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Copied from the Profound Submission group list we're both on:

> S-traits would include any type of deference from
> using titles, to deference, or elevated levels of
> respect, or bottoming, submitting, thru to
> surrendering or ownership.

In some ways, I'm not the one who decides, the Owner does.

The only places I consciously take care to not show overt signs of my
being a slave are with family, professionally, and friends who might be
sensitive to what their children see.

Otherwise, I simply just am who I am. 90% of the time I LOOK like
anyone else in the world, even with the Owner, so it doesn't much
matter.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 2:40:34 PM

slavedesires

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I am sorry.....

this is the first time i have ever heard of that site Profound Submission.

I dont think you'd like to belong to the group I am on since it is for those subs/slaves 40 and older.

~~shy

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 2:45:26 PM

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LOl then the same person must belong on the lists we belong to then. All of these topics were posted on the profound list today as well.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 3:23:30 PM

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those i respect

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 3:41:26 PM

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Only those I trust and respect.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 3:50:30 PM

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I'm careful to be "so nilla i squeak" around those who may be offended by lifestyle activities/ behaviour. For those who are in the lifestyle, whether sub or Dominant, i give respect until given a reason not to. Please note that that is respect, not obedience, not service, just the same respect i hope to be treated with. Overall, i treat people like people, and go from there.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/25/2005 4:32:46 PM

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The world knows who I am. We are still in the process of defining ourselves to a few scattered relatives.

Online, well zero people. There is absolutely no way to tell if someone online is for real let alone gaining my respect on that level. My friends I respect but that is totally different than just granting some stranger respect because they woke up this morning and decided they were a master.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 5:38:19 AM

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I do not submit to many people. I was raised with this constant mantra of "Do The Right Thing" and so if there are times when "The Right Thing" is involving submitting to another's will, then I will do it. "Doing The Right Thing" usually, to me, involves serving other people, and being a servant. So in that sense, I try to show that side of myself to everyone, because to serve a fellow human is to love another human.

Arrrrrrrrrrgggh... I find this hard to explain. So much of identifying as a "submissive/slave" for me is also wrapped up with these other concepts and so ... that's the best I can do.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 7:19:38 AM

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There is a difference in my mind on respect & common politeness.

I strive to be civil & polite to everyone I meet, but for me to respect you, that is something that is earned.

Now if I see someone doing something I want to bottom to, I ask Wolf, he decides, but that is just S&M bottoming. I do not submit to them. Hell, some days I barely submit to Wolf

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Outside of behaving like the perfect "stepford slave" at functions, I am just me. "Me" is alot of people, Wolf's slave, a mom, a daughter, a sister, friend, cousin.

Online or off.

Some feel that submissive traits are manifested in service, and sometimes, in that context I could be considered submitting, I like to see people taken care of, especially if you are a visitor in my home, or someplace that I am more familiar with than you. I do not see that as submission, I see it as courtesy.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 7:47:55 AM

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Only one family member because he is very open. He was a hippee in the 70's lol so when it comes to sexual things I can tell him anything.

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 8:41:13 AM

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quote:

For those of you who identify as an s-Type...

How do you decide who you will show your s-traits to.

whomever Master directs His slave to "show", whenever and wherever He pleases ---we were attending a vanilla business dinner with another couple and the inevitable question arose----"so, beth, what kind of job do you do?", this slave answered without hesitation---"making Him happy is my job."

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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 9:01:44 AM

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I reveal myself only to those into this lifestyle like myself. My family and vanilla friends have no clue. As for me submitting, that is for only the one I am committed. Of course, bottoming is a whole other area.

Respectfully,
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RE: Who do you decide to share your D or s traits to? - 7/26/2005 10:37:12 AM

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Anyone who knows me truly has a conversations with me relizes quickly we are not the "normal" couple or that I am simply not his "girlfirned".

My family is very aware of me being involved in the lfiestyle. Although they do not agree, to them I am not submissive. My father has stated more than once, I did not raise you to be weak. In my mind me being slave does not make me weak, after all I am strong enough to put someone elses needs , wants, desires before my own.

My Master's family, well that is different. He let his mother know about a year ago. However, she is the ONLY one is his family that he has openly told. So I make myself very aware of that fact when dealing with his family.

beth, I like your answer. *smiles*

When people ask if I am his wife, I say ," I am his period."

In the end it is up to my Master how open or private we are with others and our roles to each other.

nika, Phoenix's deviant slave

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