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Amber22 -> RE: Sub cums too much to get Dom off Help! (10/5/2007 12:45:16 AM)
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tsatke -- he trained me to cum on command aprox. 8-10 months ago. Though his focus is typically on ample numbers or using it when we swing. I will ask if he'll use it the other way around... (except maybe for swinging. If I don't follow his instructions, punishment follows ... which isn't something other swingers necessarily want to be apart of.)
Laurell3: He's said to me twice that he wouldn't be able to cum because of it. It seemed to aggravate and irritate him at those times. I wouldn't say it's concerning to him now, but I don't want it to escalate into one either. As far as getting more, that's not a problem with either of us. But his cum is a perk. He cums on my face and in my mouth. Though he will use piss as a substitute if he chooses.
georgejames: we kinda stepped out of that though.
HollyBlue: He's brought up restrictive bondage and a gag, but hasn't tried it on me yet. I'll beg for that one.
Rohurls: I'm not a fan of slow anal. I prefer rough anal. When his balls slap my lips after orgasm from vaginal sex the hypersensitivity reignites and makes for a great blended o. He has remarked that I'm still tight after 2, 3, 4 hours so I don't think that's it. Also, he delays his cum in the beginning and then not be able to later. But as I said to tsatke, I can give delaying mine a try.
MrDiscipline44: Perhaps the conveyance is off in your message, but it seems inherently disrespectful to a dom to insinuate that they lack control of their sub. What a backwards flirt. My dom does whatever he wants to me whenever he wants and bottomline I have absolutely no control over his actions or his decisions.
AquaticSub: I've tried the grocery list thing, and it does help to an extent but I lose my focus when he gets demanding. It's like multi-tasking that can end in bruises.
Koala: That's a good tip. I'll try it.
MasterLordguru: Thanks for your perspective. The deprivation is a great idea ... I'm not ready for fisting personally but one never knows...
misoferin: To clarify the breaks -- I almost always am on top when we start. An hour in, I'm hot, sweaty, shaking uncontrollably, any tiny movement sends me back into the stratasphere and I'm begging for a drink of water. Not to mention that if I'm not facing him and he has my wrists behind my back then I've depended on the muscle in my thighs to do the work which means those are burning and sometimes will spasm. It's demanding and it's not over. I beg desperately for those breaks.
Celeste43: We could do that, but it's more mellow where he wants something more extreme. Ocassionally he will let me suck him off after he's decided I've had enough, but if that happens then he's more likely pissed and will delay his ejaculation again even moreso. That's primarily because at that point he's asserting his domination. He also knows that I really want his cum and tend to think he'll let me taste it after delaying it again and again. But it's a dom thing, so he won't necessarily give me what I want.
IamJustMe2C: I've mentioned this before, accept my dom uses it primarily to make me cum more. It's only been recently that my orgasm interfered with his. So we'll give it a go. But I was under the impression that sex itself should not be painful, especially to that extreme and it could be an indicator of some other health related problems that an OB/GYN should check out. Just an FYI. Beautiful dog, by the way ... wolf descent?
mistoferin: I've never had a painful orgasm ... not after 40, 50, or 60. When I put my ankles behind my head then I will feel discomfort in my legs after 2 orgasms.
Aubre: That takes care of birthday plans!
Annabelle: sorry, I worded that poorly. I was trying to be reserved while referring to blowing him and that specific duration. I wanted to be concise for my question, focused on intercourse, without going into a lot of unwarranted detail but I blew that a long time ago. That said, he loves to watch me play with anal plugs, DP vibrators while masturbating then has me perform oral on him, hand jobs, ocassional rim and then he switches back his focus on me... fingers, dildo, what have you, then back to oral on him. But yeah, that is stimulating me and I wonder if the best route for that would be somewhere in the middle or close to the end of intercourse? I'll try that.
leatherette: It's not actually about me cumming, it's what I do when I cum. He wouldn't care less if I cum, wherever, if I were more able to control myself. because then his focus becomes more on restraining me, you see.
NightWindWhisper: I'll ask him to read your post and tell me what he thinks. I don't think he wants a silent, still fuck, however.
Kirata: Yeah, you may do that if you don't read the entire reason for why I asked the question in the first place. It's not about the multiple orgasms, it was about the inadvertant consequence.
To close, I had no idea there were so many women who were multi-orgasmic who could give their advice to me. It was welcoming. Equally, it amazes me that so many people in general didn't seem to take into consideration what the power and intensity of multiple orgasms equate to. But I've been given so many great ideas and am excited to try most of them. For me, it seems like the most logical solution is harsh bondage if continuity is wanted; chastity would be perfect for punishment or play; more segments of foreplay during intercourse could help acheive more balance; thinking of mundane chores often results in getting slapped; and to try not allowing permission if more verbal control is desired, and overall, men love multi-o in general.
Thank you for all you help and suggestions. It means a lot to me. I hope I didn't come across as too bitchy anywhere. Also, I'm too tired to edit this post, but I don't think there are too many errors. Once again, thanks guys!
--Amber22
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