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Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on app... - 10/4/2007 6:53:38 AM

ededwards

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I am meeting a Dom/Dom couple socially for the first time after chatting. How would I approach properly.
I think a token gift of chocolate candy for the lady and a," May I join your table?", for the hubby would be sufficient? Feed back?

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/4/2007 8:18:35 AM

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A token gift is not expected and would be foolish of you to offer. They are meeting you to get to know you better. Fallow the rules first. NEVER play on your first meeting no mater how far you traveled to meet these people. Always let someone know where you are just in case. Make sure you know where the exits are. Arive early for safety this way they dont know what kind of car you drive and leave after they do when they go to leave you go to the bathroom wash up so they have more then enough time to exit the establishment. If you want to go someplace else with them after dinner write down the address and keep it in your car with there names. Ask to see there drivers lic if you for some reason do go to there house to verify there real names. If they have given you any false info they will not give them to you and you know to walk at that point. If they ask why explain to them in a nice way you are just trying to cover your ass because your safety is more inportant then anything else. These are just some things you can do.

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/4/2007 10:14:53 AM

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Are you meeting them to get to know them better with the idea of possibly serving them? If so, a small gift of chocolates (one of those tiny 4 piece boxes) probably wouldn't hurt. Unexpected but thoughtful without going overboard. I'd probably go with the "Hi, how are you doing?" rather than the "May I join you?" thing, since you are already expected. If you are just meeting them for lunch to chat and get to know each other as friends, I wouldn't bother with any formalities.

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/4/2007 1:29:09 PM

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I agree with Aquatic: They're expecting you, so a simple "Hello, How are you?" or such would suit. A small gift shareable by them such as chocolates or other that you have reason to believe they would enjoy would not be necessary but a pleasant gesture.

Good luck with it!

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/4/2007 2:46:35 PM

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I am meeting a Dom/Dom couple socially for the first time after chatting. How would I approach properly.
I think a token gift of chocolate candy for the lady and a," May I join your table?", for the hubby would be sufficient? Feed back?

just say 'Hi', they dont own you.

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/4/2007 6:28:05 PM

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We had a sit down with a gentleman the other day for a get to you know. He was overly subby, and asked for permission for absolutely everything. He took it upon himself to try and anticipate our desires in his submission. That is very nice and all, but we have at this point still not accepted him as a slave for Phoenix. We came to get to know the person, and he was so worried about, and caught up in, what protocols he should follow, that we got a lot less information that we should have from a face to face meeting. I pointed out at the very beginning that he was interviewing us just as much as we were him. It would have been a MUCH better meeting had we sat down as equals, and when we wanted something specific told him. Had he called Phoenix by her name it would have been fine, because she had not accepted him into her service yet. If she wanted to be addressed by a title, she would have asked him to do just that. So being on the other end of this, I would say go as yourself unless you have established some rules you are to follow.

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/6/2007 5:55:29 PM

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A little gift is very nice if you wish to give one. Secondly there's no universal "rules" of what to do and not do to , just be yourself be polite, and enjoy the visit.

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/6/2007 11:10:44 PM

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gifts are always nice....what are you gonna get her?

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/8/2007 11:38:54 AM

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Just be yourself. Approach them as equals and see what happens. You are there to get to know one another. Submission/slavery is voluntary and needs to be offered and accepted. This implies there is agreement on both parties.

A gift is nice, but should be a small token. It sounds as though you are anxious to be accepted (aren't we all?). Just take a deep breath, put a smile on your face, and be relaxed.

If it goes well, great. If not, then on to the next!

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RE: Meeting D/D couple socially how to address hubby on... - 10/8/2007 12:47:00 PM

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i don't know if this is too late...but gifts can kind of lead to a faux pas if you don't know the person well...examples....chocolate - they are diabetic...they are allergic..they just don't like chocolate...or flowers - again, they are allergic....they think they are inappropriate...that particular flower reminds them of a bad memory...

i guess you could contact the husband and ask what would be appreciated, if he says its not necessary, accept it...don't argue...

if really feel the need to show your appreciation monetarily...offer to get their portion of the bill or the tip once and only once...otherwise just stick to acting like you are interviewing for a job, with a bit more interesting conversation...

good luck,
chelle

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