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submissive having a slave - 10/4/2007 3:33:41 PM

BBWnNC72

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Dear Masters:
i have a question and i hope that i can get some insite from some Masters. i am a submissive, i do not have a Master as of right now, i do how ever have a trainer. i have been chatting with a slave and he wants to come and serve me in my home domestically for a period of two weeks, he knows i am not owned, he also knows that i am quite new, (less then a year). It would not happen for six months or longer from now, so pleanty of time to get to know the slave and visa versa. i have talked to my trainer and He said it would be a good learning experience for me. my question is: would a Master accept a sub with a male slave or would You have that sub give up her slave if it happened that the sub and slave last longer then originally planned and became a permanent situation?
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kat

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/4/2007 4:11:24 PM

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You could find a home with your own male slave, it just narrows the search down a bit since not everyone wants that. You'd have to look for maybe poly, or a bi-monogamous person in my opinion.

I personally wouldn't do it, but this is me. I'm more one-on-one Monogamous when I finally find a relationship.

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 8:30:42 AM

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Those dynamics exist all over the place. You just have to find the one who works with the duo to make a complete triad. Robert Rubel, Ph.D. does a darn fine job of describing the intracacies in his life with his slave and their other extended "family" members....I definately suggest googling him.

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 9:05:36 AM

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It is possiable and it does narow the field a bit for you to look but here are some things to think about. Do you realise that the slave in question will probbly want you to Top him after he is there? Are you ready for that? Are you ready for a roomate? Do you want a roomate? Why does he want to move in with you? What are his underlying reasons? >to answer that question you have to search your gut feelings. Even though he says it is only two weeks are you ready to lock up all of you personal info IE: check book, wallet, cc reciepts, anything that can give him any personal info, bills? this is just a pre caution that I would take If I was going to have someone stay with me for a short amount of time Yes some bills have your personal info on it as well. Think long and hard You might have six months to know this person in what ever fashion but as you stated he will only be with you for two weeks. Here is the bigger question Why would a slave want to serve a sub instead of a Master or Mistress? There has got to be a reason. Are you wanting to learn to be a Top? If so great. But if not WHY??????????????

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 12:46:57 PM

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Right now I am being (informally for now) trained to serve, and the Master of the household's boy is being trained to be a master himself.

While there is no formal agreement as of yet, for all intents and purposes, I am the property of the boy.

This seems to work out very well. :)

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 1:55:58 PM

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There's so many male subs out there for the comparatively few dommes that I'm always suspicious when a male sub seeks to hook up with a fem/sub in the interim. Amazing how quickly they can spot your obvious "dominant" traits, such as when you discipline your 5yo child (for eg).

Two weeks of screwing with your mind this way will proabably only take two years for you to undo this tangled web and rediscover yourself.

Of course I could be wrong; that this stranger's motives aren't so outrageously selfish and deceptive etc! Sure are a lotta male subs out there but....

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 10:12:50 PM

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Phoenix is about to take a male slave now. It is not going to be a sexual relationship, but one of domestic service. Even if it had a sexual component in it, I wouldn't have a problem.

First off I want my lady to be all that she can be, and she has a domme side, so I encourage that. i don't however have a sub side, so it can't be with me. It also lets her know how hard of a job I have, and gives her a better understanding of me. Last it satisfies her in a way I can't.

So absolutly she can have any slave that does not make me think they are a killer looking for a victom.

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 10:54:47 PM

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Some doms would reject you, some doms would love you for it. WHo cares?

The issue really is why are you considering that as a problem? Why are you considering this as a legitimate offer? What can YOU bring to this relationship? What do you see for yourself long term?

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/5/2007 11:31:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: BBWnNC72

Dear Masters:
i have a question and i hope that i can get some insite from some Masters. i am a submissive, i do not have a Master as of right now, i do how ever have a trainer. i have been chatting with a slave and he wants to come and serve me in my home domestically for a period of two weeks, he knows i am not owned, he also knows that i am quite new, (less then a year). It would not happen for six months or longer from now, so pleanty of time to get to know the slave and visa versa. i have talked to my trainer and He said it would be a good learning experience for me. my question is: would a Master accept a sub with a male slave or would You have that sub give up her slave if it happened that the sub and slave last longer then originally planned and became a permanent situation?
Respectably Yours
kat

Greetings kat,

I can only answer from my perspective because only I can live in my shoes. Every couple and every person has their own idea on how their life can live. Some Doms/Dommes/Masters have a sub or slave and that sub or slave has their own sub or slave, because that is how they desire to live their life. Some do this because of work commitments, others for the domestic cleaning duties that can't be done by only one person.

I personally would only have the slave, and she would remain a slave. She will not have a slave herself, but there would be another slave if I had the means...ie money.

Be well.

Frank Ar.

< Message edited by FrankAr -- 10/5/2007 11:33:27 PM >

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RE: submissive having a slave - 10/6/2007 12:20:13 AM

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hey kat,

while not being a dominant, (and this being slightly off of what you ask) do you enjoy the sado side of things? if you do, it is definitely something to consider into you mix. the topping can be a true plus, the responsiblity of the other though...

lee

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