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CandyLover -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 12:47:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal
I know I'm going to take some heat for this but I'm not sure what I think about this. I'm not sure I want a TS or TG male to female in a girls locker room working as a high school coach for example. To me that's still a man in a girls locker room. If I were female I don't think I want a TS or TG male to be able to walk into the women's bathroom at work because they had a dress on. To me that still a man in a woman's washroom.

The part of the bill that was dropped said "employers could not discriminate against workers on the basis of "gender identity” which his bill defined as “the gender-related identity, appearance, or mannerisms or other gender-related characteristics of an individual, with or without regard to the individual's designated sex at birth.” For most jobs I'm okay with this protection. But I do worry about jobs related to children especially. Female to male TS or TG as a girl scout leader? Female to male TS or TG as a football coach? Not that females can't teach football but coachs are more than that. They are male roll models. How can a TS/TG do that?

I'm sorry I just don't get it. Okay, now let the flaming begin. [sm=boxer.gif]


I hear about the washroom thing all the time.  I know anecdote doesn't equal data, but I've never had a single problem using the women's restroom--it's the men's that I used to have trouble with (I used to use it before the operation).  Even wearing men's clothes I still got weird looks going in there.  A lot of the time men would apologize and run out of the bathroom, reentering with a really strange expression their face when they found out they had the correct door (and sometimes hitting on me).  I imagine if women had such a problem with me using the restroom, I would have heard something about it by now.

Sure, there are things I'd rather not know about the people that are in the same restroom as me.  Would I want someone with a nasty STD to use a toilet before I did?  Probably not!  Even I wouldn't want a pre-op transgendered individual using the same toilet as me (if they used it while standing, anyway).  I'd love to be able to keep the people who don't flush out of restrooms, since they make the place stink.  Being able to keep senators out might be nice, too.  Fortunately, arbitrary likes and dislikes are generally getting tossed out of public policy.

The "peeping" issue is a bit ridiculous to me--plenty of women enjoy the appearance of other women, should we keep them out too?  Honestly, not much gets exposed for long in a women's washroom anyway.  Way more gets exposed in the men's room, really--it's just sticking out there!  And considering the near-equality of UM-bad-thing-gender-rates, I'd be far more concerned with making men's urinals blocked off from each other than having less than .1% of the population maybe getting a chance to look through a crack in a stall, if they wanted to risk it.  What would you do if you saw a man take a peek at you?  Aside from the "I'd turn myself into a cash-cow for a lawyer" thought I hear from a lot of macho macho men, you'd probably either ignore it or report it to an authority.  That's exactly what a woman could do, except it's much more likely to happen to you--not them.

Won't someone think of the men?




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 4:11:39 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal

I know I'm going to take some heat for this but I'm not sure what I think about this. I'm not sure I want a TS or TG male to female in a girls locker room working as a high school coach for example. To me that's still a man in a girls locker room. If I were female I don't think I want a TS or TG male to be able to walk into the women's bathroom at work because they had a dress on. To me that still a man in a woman's washroom.

The part of the bill that was dropped said "employers could not discriminate against workers on the basis of "gender identity” which his bill defined as “the gender-related identity, appearance, or mannerisms or other gender-related characteristics of an individual, with or without regard to the individual's designated sex at birth.” For most jobs I'm okay with this protection. But I do worry about jobs related to children especially. Female to male TS or TG as a girl scout leader? Female to male TS or TG as a football coach? Not that females can't teach football but coachs are more than that. They are male roll models. How can a TS/TG do that?

I'm sorry I just don't get it. Okay, now let the flaming begin. [sm=boxer.gif]





no flames - but I dont think you get it!

for one, these ideas are very akin to the notion that gay men are paedophiles by nature - when its pretty much established that the two conditions have no relationship; one might be gay and a paedophile, but being gay does not indicate one is also a paedophile. In fact, it seems that paedophiles are representative of the population in general - most are heterosexuals. Most victims are family members or the children of close friends.

for two; we're talking here about people who are on treatments to change their secondary sexual characteristics as a minimum - lets be clear here, hormonal treatment and androgen suppressants have a marked effect on sexual interest, arousal and performance - both are diminished to the point of not being a factor to be concerned over. Chemical castration is exactly what it says on the packet. Its therefore very, very unlikely that anyone on such treatments is going to be interested in or capable of any form of sexual offence against women in a washroom or girls in a school setting. And on the "football coach" side - I cant imagine many like me who'd either be interested in or capable of providing such coaching!

Now as for the wording of the Bill - I agree to be honest; its very poorly worded in the excerpt you quote. Nice motivation, but poor. And the reason its poor, is that it falls into the trap of allowing any man who chooses to wear a dress to be regarded as a female - which I agree does open the possibilities of the scenarios you mentioned.

My view is that this Bill needs to be postponed. The first Bill which is required to my mind, is something along the lines of our UK Gender Recognition Act. Under this, one can obtain a full nullification of one's assigned gender, all the way back to birth, and new assignment in the new gender. To obtain this however, one must show that one meets certain criteria which confirm one's change is permanent - not necessarily SRS but thats an automatic "in".

In addition to this though, it also requires far more stringent control over diagnoses and treatments, because to be honest if one has the money it matters not whether one is a fantasist/ fetishist or the real deal - one can get what one wants. The danger with this of course, is that the real deal people can have to go without, lacking funds - and just as bad, that the fantasists can have what they want if they have the money. In each of these groups are generally found the sources for the high suicide rate in the whole transsexual category. But the worst of it is, in my opinion, that treatments such as I've mentioned above, undertaken by fantasists and fetishists can be undone by the likes of viagra - rendering what was a sexual neutrality back into male potency - I've seen this on several occasions now. To me it indicates only one thing - a man who likes dressing like a woman, not a man who should be a woman - and this of course brings up the very problems you mentioned. So really, its a case of getting the gate-keeping sorted out first, as to who such a Bill would apply to.

Its simple, all in all - if you were born male, like to dress up as a woman and love your penis, youre a crossdresser - and there's nothing wrong with that, but you need to understand youre a guy. If you were born male, need to dress up as a woman in order to be yourself and be treated for who you are because the distress of your original state is too much and this solves that distress, and are at best indifferent to your penis, youre likely a transsexual.

E




FatDomDaddy -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 6:54:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

Not very if they want to be elected,.





Why is that,fatdomdaddy?


Because it would be a massively losing issue for them.




Guilty1974 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 7:02:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Level
Many Americans know and work with a gay or lesbian person, but how many have a nodding acquaintance with a transgender person?


I've ran into TG people quite a few times, from having a TG teacher in highschool (actually going through surgery halfway the school year) to occasional play partners. But then again, I'm not American :-)




Guilty1974 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 7:08:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ChicagoSwitchMal
But I do worry about jobs related to children especially. Female to male TS or TG as a girl scout leader? Female to male TS or TG as a football coach? Not that females can't teach football but coachs are more than that. They are male roll models. How can a TS/TG do that?


The answer to me seems fairly simple: a female to male TG is a male person. They would probably have a hard time acting as a female role model, much more than as a male role model. So I don't quite see your problem. The only lasting effect on me from having a TG teacher when I was young, is some knowledge of the subject and a high level of acceptance. So no, I don't see your point, and I don't share your worries about TG's working with children.




Owner59 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 8:13:58 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

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ORIGINAL: Owner59

quote:

ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

Not very if they want to be elected,.





Why is that,fatdomdaddy?


Because it would be a massively losing issue for them.

And ,why is that so?Exactly why is it a lossing issue?




OrionTheWolf -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 10:25:44 AM)

The conservatives are going to eat me up for this, and the dems are going to say I am a hypocrit. I don't care either way, so here it goes.....

I am going to break this into two segments:

Transgender: Much of the populace identify this with the fetishism of transvestites, and then seen as bizarre sexual behavior, when in fact that is incorrect. I look at transgender as nature getting confused somewhere, giving a person the feelings of one gender, but the plumbing of another. No insults meant by that. Someone does not "choose" to be like this, they truly feel like the opposite sex. If someone had any other type of birth defect (yeah, yeah, I am not politcally correct) they would be protected by many laws against discrimination. So I see this as an issue where the general public needs to be educated, and then maybe other things will fall in like so that they get equitable treatment.

Homosexuality: Much of the populace, for whatever reason believe this to be a choice, and a wrong choice. Here is where I will use a question a talk show host I listen to would ask those people "So when did you choose to be heterosexual? It must have been a very big decision because it has such a profound effect on the rest of your life. So come on and tell me at what age did that occur." Why would someone choose to have such problems in society that many homsexuals must overcome? Why would someone want to have the possibility of walking in the wrong area, and then having a gang of men beat you severely because of your sexual orientation? I will not even go into all the misinterpreted words that are in the bible, or misinterpreted lessons that the Christian right uses to support their claims. It is not a choice, it just is. The same way a heterosexual, just is.

Any who disagree with the above, there is alot of objective research out there on these issues. Research it again, and stay away from the Christian right sites, and the Uber Gay Agenda sites. There is alot out there from that is not from either of those extremes. If you are a religious person, look into the translation of the words that speak about homosexuality and male temple prostitutes. If nothing else you will have a more informed opinion, even if it does not change it.

Orion




popeye1250 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 10:41:13 AM)

Like I said I have no problem with anything that someone wants to do in the privacy of their own bedroom.
But, *in public* seeing a crossdresser creeps me out.
I don't know why, it must be something like some people having a "thing" about clowns or retards.
I have a friend who was a corrections officer and he's a big tough guy with a black belt in tai kwon do and he told me once that the only thing that scared him was retards. I don't know why, I'll have to ask him the next time that I talk to him.
He said, "with some people it's clowns with me it's retards." "They scare the shit out of me!"




chellekitty -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 10:52:42 AM)

this is a very interesting topic for me and i have no concrete ideas or thoughts on it yet, other than what society is trying to do is fucked up...

its become even more pertinent for me recently because i am now dating K...who self identifies as gender fucked...and sometimes changes on a minutely basis between he, she and it....K was born female...and was so happy last night when he (i had to think about that for a minute...and it's when in doubt refer to in male pronouns, will correct as needed lol) asked to be called it and me and my leather family did...silly soft butches...2 hours 10 minutes....oh, i am hopelessly in lust...btw...and ya'll have never seen me like this...and he's getting together with a friend this afternoon who he's going to convince that she's bi....*growls* but not physically so it will be ok...it will be fine....and i will be fine lol...

chelle




Guilty1974 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 11:31:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

But, *in public* seeing a crossdresser creeps me out.



But a TG is not a crossdresser. That's precisely the point.




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 11:42:28 AM)

Good post Orion.

And I'll also reiterate the point made by G1974, for the hard of understanding

TG IS NOT THE SAME AS CROSSDRESSER
THIS IS ABOUT TG PEOPLE, NOT CROSSDRESSERS

E




popeye1250 -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 12:35:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Guilty1974

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

But, *in public* seeing a crossdresser creeps me out.



But a TG is not a crossdresser. That's precisely the point.



Oh yeah, if you can't tell then no problem there.
I wouldn't have any problem with Lady Ellen or Candy Lover at all.
It's just when a guy who it is obvious is a guy dresses up in woman's clothes and smiles at you that creeps me out.
Those are "crossdressers" I guess.
Or, when a man online poses as a "women" to play games with me as has happened that creeps me out too.
Lady Ellen, wanna fuck?




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 1:06:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Oh yeah, if you can't tell then no problem there.
I wouldn't have any problem with Lady Ellen or Candy Lover at all.
It's just when a guy who it is obvious is a guy dresses up in woman's clothes and smiles at you that creeps me out.
Those are "crossdressers" I guess.
Or, when a man online poses as a "women" to play games with me as has happened that creeps me out too.
Lady Ellen, wanna fuck?


Listen - we went through this already, months ago; you were all talk the last time you offered, and I'll bet all talk this time too! They say a hard man is good to find - well, hard man or not, its no good to me if youre nowhere to be found!

But I think you raise an important point here - if one looks right, then its OK. Problem with that is, there are plenty of crossdressers out there who look incredibly good - and plenty of transsexuals who dont. There is no way to accomodate "female rights" for crossdressers, but regardless of looks there must be such rights for transsexuals.

E




Alumbrado -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 1:21:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Oh yeah, if you can't tell then no problem there.
I wouldn't have any problem with Lady Ellen or Candy Lover at all.
It's just when a guy who it is obvious is a guy dresses up in woman's clothes and smiles at you that creeps me out.
Those are "crossdressers" I guess.
Or, when a man online poses as a "women" to play games with me as has happened that creeps me out too.
Lady Ellen, wanna fuck?


Listen - we went through this already, months ago...
E



Well, not exactly...

http://www.collarchat.com/m_475267/mpage_1/key_crossdresser/tm.htm#482978




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 1:35:45 PM)

sory Alumbrado - I dont get the point youre trying to make?

That thread was ages ago, and yes some of his attitudes havent shifted, but they have shifted in a lot of ways. If we go about this with a confrontational approach then all we do is encourage people to entrench - education is the way.

And anyway, to date Popeye is the only person on here who has ever offered me such a great time - and twice at that!

E




philosophy -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 1:51:09 PM)

FR

....i'd also support the right for TG's to be just as ugly as the rest of us. It's not just a right for the pretty ones.




Alumbrado -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 2:00:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

sory Alumbrado - I dont get the point youre trying to make?

That thread was ages ago, and yes some of his attitudes havent shifted, but they have shifted in a lot of ways. If we go about this with a confrontational approach then all we do is encourage people to entrench - education is the way.

And anyway, to date Popeye is the only person on here who has ever offered me such a great time - and twice at that!

E


The only thing that has changed is that Popeye realized that he was in the wrong forum to be slagging people over their characteristics and choices, so he is engaging in a bit of revisionist history about his previouly expressed CollarMe 'exclusiveness'... and I'm a firm believer in exposing bigotry to as much light and heat as possible, instead of politely condoning it.

YMMV.




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 2:09:32 PM)

hmm - but surely we could account a change in attitude to be the result of having amended it upon reflection of new information?

I know I learn stuff here which goes towards changing my views from time to time on this or that. If we come here without being open to change through what we hear in our debates, then I wonder what the point is?

E




Alumbrado -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 2:25:57 PM)

Feel free to being open to change vis a vis accepting  intolerant attitudes... for me, that's  hard limit...[;)]




LadyEllen -> RE: How far will Dems go on transgender rights? (10/5/2007 2:37:05 PM)

Thing is Alumbrado, whilst we should all expect to be respected, none of us can expect to be accepted or liked.

Popeye has obviously changed his ideas since I started posting here a year or so ago in my opinion - of course, all we can go off is what he writes. I'd agree that back then he came across as totally lacking any respect for anyone coming under the "trans" label, but to my mind at least he does now have some respect for me and a few others, so there is progress - not through confrontation but through patient education and example - I'd say he's learned that I'm TS, I dont conform to or confirm the stereotype he formerly had, and he's revised his ideas.

I'm not saying its all rosy in the view he has of trans people now, but he has changed significantly. His change and the means by which it was accomplished is the kind which is required in the US in more general terms (and other countries). That the presentation of this Bill comes across as so confrontational to established ideas and will no doubt receive a poor general response shows the danger of such approaches in my opinion. The best way to accomplish what needs to be achieved is gradually, through education and example. Show the world we are normal people, not rabid angry people, not evil deviants wanting to overturn the world, and things will go much more smoothly.

E




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