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Tips and tricks - 10/4/2007 5:09:42 PM

amaidiamond

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Well here goes,

I have been in the lifestyle since my late teens and up till now I have always been the submissive party, aside form a little online exploration around when I was 20/21,
A few months after a bad breakup I met a wonderful guy who is also into the lifestyle, as a submissive, so I agreed to start out as a friend, filling in so to speak..

Things developed and we work well together as a couple and he is no longer seeking a Domme, we are no longer just good friends and to all intents and purposes i seem to have aquired not only a companion, partner and lover but also a pet..

So, it might sound strange but, where do I go from here, I have been reading, researching and the like, I am already technically capable due to a liking I have always had for topping female subs during scenes, I've just never done it full time so to speak so please, any Tips/Tricks/Hints greatfully accepted.

Dia

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RE: Tips and tricks - 10/4/2007 11:34:31 PM

MaamJay

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Need more info Dia. Where do You want to go? Into 24/7 lifestyle? Into having him as a bedroom sub? Into having him as a full-time pet (puppy, kitty etc)? If You have some idea of the destination You want, perhaps We can be more helpful to You in terms of ways of getting there!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Tips and tricks - 10/5/2007 10:44:27 AM

amaidiamond

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Hmm I guess thats the difficult part, I'm not 100% sure, I know i'm enjoying what we're doing so far, I know I really like the idea of a lot of things. He really enjoys Humiliation which i am also into and he also has expressed an interest in puppy play, He is as experienced in submission as I am in Dominance so basically a little for play but not much for lifestyle, I do not want to have this just in the bedroon, just kink has never really been my thing, as a sub it was always lifestyle with a heavy amount of power exchange for me.
I guess I want a sub but one with fire, I have no interest in a doormat or a do-me type, it's important to me to have a partner/lover and friend also, in the same person, and to be able to relate on an equal level also, hell he's a cheeky little sod at times because we both have a playful side and i don't want to loose the playful friendly banter.
I guess i'm just starting out all over again in ways, I have a lot of insite as to the sub side but not much into the Domme side, eg, how do i know when i've pushed enough, i'm worried about being to harsh but also about being to soft etc, it's all confusing so to speak. I can feel that I have it in me, it's just...arranging it all so to speak

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