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HottLicks -> RE: Punishments (10/8/2007 6:15:56 PM)
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ORIGINAL: julietsierra
And not ALL women have the situation happen where if they're denied for a long time, they don't want it anymore. I've gone months (back when he had things happening in his life that were more important than if I orgasmed or not) and still sat there shaking in anticipation when I finally saw him again.
juliet
It's not a matter of not having an orgasm or waiting. What I find problematic is the mind trip used as punishment and what the result might be. Denial is a tool many use, but to deny for a purpose, tease and then expect the submissive to handle it all with a certain result... might be where the problems arise.
Mentally it can all reason out if you use denial and teasing, emotionally it might not reason out as easily. Emotions can be conditioned responses. I can see a cycle of responses that come about from working this way. If it works for the people involved; cool. But something here is clearly not working or the message isn't getting across or there wouldn't be the post.
If I were to use denial as some form of lesson, I sure wouldn't be happy about my submissive complaining about it. But then, my submissive would have had far more communication in which to understand the big picture, and even in a mind phuck situation, you can communicate without giving it all.
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