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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

probably viewing my profile ...for some reason i get many male subbies/slaves perving my profile though i am a submissive myself.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Here is my take on this whole topic, as it applies to me and my life.

I just keep busy living, doing my thing. I have been amazingly lucky, fortunate, blessed.....whatever you want to call it......to have had some completely amazing people come into my life. The lovers, at the time, I loved passionately. I felt they were my soulmate at the time they were with me. I still can say I love each and every one of them.

As life goes on, times change, we change and grow, so do our needs and desires of a relationship. Some relationship weather those changes and others just change. Also, several of my loves left this life early. One was indeed a mate of my soul, jemma. So deeply did we bond. I will always love her and miss her. The reality though, is that I still have a life to live.

I think the key is to do just that, live life. Live it with joy and be open to all that it has to offer. I think that our soul mates come into our lives at the appropriate times. They enrich our lives and us theirs. Some stay forever and some drift away.

I cannot imagine ever having again what I had with Jemma, but I don't expect to. I refuse to hold her and what we had, up as an ideal or measuring point for anyone else. I have been getting to know a girl named Sarah. She is a delight in her own right, special, uniquely her. Nothing at all like either of my previous loves. I would never try to fit her into the same expectations I had of another. If we continue on any sort of relationship path it will be OUR creation. Something new and wonderful of our making. No more and no less important. There may even come a time when I would refer to her as a soulmate.......who knows.... It still would not degrade what was in the past.

I just do not believe that there is only ever one person in the world we can share that connection with. There may be many, who's souls ours can connect with. We just have to remain open to the possibility.

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ORIGINAL: Tristan

Dominalush,

What exactly are you looking for that you are not finding? 

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: Tristan

And those who  know what they want and haven;t found it are looking in the wrong places.

I am curious, what exactly do you mean by the wrong places? I know exactly what I want and I do not limit my "looking" to any particular place, unless you consider being open to meeting people everywhere I go the wrong place.

Please enlighten me here.

(in reply to Prinsexx)

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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Why do some folks believe that they have a soul-mate or will find "THE ONE" or that there is only person person for them?

Does the belief in such a special person or ideal relationship blind us to the potential happiness all around us?

tammy jo,
Believing or not believing is irrelevant. I do believe having the concept of a "ideal" mate helps. What helps more is an honest sense of self and completing an brutally honest self assessment. After that have fun and live. Enjoy yourself and engage in as many experiences as possible. Seek out challenge to your "absolute" believes and, if necessary, amend them to reflect the evolving world around you, and your evolving self. The only thing you should never do is compromise for the sake of temporary "comfort"; of lie to someone along the way to satisfy an whim.

Up till and including February 28, 2003 I never believed in the concept of 'soul mate' and thought any who did - FOOLS! On March 1st at about 12:38PM I joined the "Legion of Fools". Now it would be as foolish to deny the existence as it was to support the existence before that day.

I appreciate that the logical and pragmatic position would be on the disbelieving side. I could give many more examples of the fallacy and disappointment that comes along with wanting and desiring a 'soul-mate' than I could to support the fact that they do indeed exist. However, I would never want to go back and have that cynical mindset on the subject.

Is a soul mate necessary? NO

Having a soul mate isn't even a situation that can be valued good or better than not having one. It is very scary living with the fear of losing such a 'mate'. Actually loosing one must be a feeling far exceeds any disappointment of never finding one. When tied so close the very thought of being untied for reasons out of your control weighs heavy in your heart and spirit.

Wanting a soul mate doesn't or shouldn't "blind us to the potential happiness all around us". It does however present a goal which may be as painful to obtain as it is to fail to achieve.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Here is my take on this whole topic, as it applies to me and my life.

I just keep busy living, doing my thing. I have been amazingly lucky, fortunate, blessed.....whatever you want to call it......to have had some completely amazing people come into my life. The lovers, at the time, I loved passionately. I felt they were my soulmate at the time they were with me. I still can say I love each and every one of them.

As life goes on, times change, we change and grow, so do our needs and desires of a relationship. Some relationship weather those changes and others just change. Also, several of my loves left this life early. One was indeed a mate of my soul, jemma. So deeply did we bond. I will always love her and miss her. The reality though, is that I still have a life to live.

I think the key is to do just that, live life. Live it with joy and be open to all that it has to offer. I think that our soul mates come into our lives at the appropriate times. They enrich our lives and us theirs. Some stay forever and some drift away.

I cannot imagine ever having again what I had with Jemma, but I don't expect to. I refuse to hold her and what we had, up as an ideal or measuring point for anyone else. I have been getting to know a girl named Sarah. She is a delight in her own right, special, uniquely her. Nothing at all like either of my previous loves. I would never try to fit her into the same expectations I had of another. If we continue on any sort of relationship path it will be OUR creation. Something new and wonderful of our making. No more and no less important. There may even come a time when I would refer to her as a soulmate.......who knows.... It still would not degrade what was in the past.

I just do not believe that there is only ever one person in the world we can share that connection with. There may be many, who's souls ours can connect with. We just have to remain open to the possibility.