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Non reply - 7/26/2005 8:38:49 AM

kissmike

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Thank you for your input on this posting...

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 8:59:44 AM

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I'm not a submissive male.... and I'm not known for taking orders or following direction well either.

I want to first welcome you to the boards. In the spirit of peace keeping I wish to share with you that this particular subject has been beaten beyond recognition and many (including myself) wish it would die a quiet death.

You are not alone in your feelings that common courtesy is truly missing >>

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thus perpetuates the myth that Dommes create when stating "there are no suitable subs out there."

<< you will also hear that there are no suitible Dom/mes out there as well. The "common courtesy" is not missing from just the dominants... it's pretty wide spread in the general population. There are many that don't ever reply, as well as (stick around long enough and I'm sure you'll either hear about it or experience it) the ones that send an email consisting of less then five words... some are not even words... they are "chatspeak" .... ie: r u a Dom?.

Then there are those that are polite and respond to each email... you get an email that simply says "Hi, how are you"... you respond "I'm fine, thank you"... that is followed by another three word question from the same person... it goes on and on until the desire to be polite is out weighed by the need to loose that person.

Best advice... be persistant and patient. Good things come to those that wait.

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 9:30:12 AM

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 9:35:06 AM

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You have to accept that this is just how it is. I rarely have gotten a reply polite or not when a mistress is not interested. I would suggest you take a look at some of the mens profiles and imagine what they are writing to a woman. I would imagine after a few hundred crude one line messages the woman tend to just quickly hit the delete button. Can't blame them.

I think the message boards attmosphere toward men is also more scewed then a general belief that all men are stupid pigs. A vast majority of the posters are woman so the boards are going to reflect their views more. Society has made men bashing for woman OK to do in public let alone in a message board format where you can hide your identity. Men are never aloud to bash women in generalities in public. That is just the way it is.

Be patient and realize the boards can help you learn. Take the attitude toward men on the boards as light bantor or woman having to blow off steam for having to deal with the jerks and fakers.

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 9:47:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: kissmike

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I'm not a submissive male.... and I'm not known for taking orders or following direction well either.

Then why would you respond? This was not an order nor is it asking you to follow direction. I was quite certain I clearly verified that the forum I posted in was "Ask a submissive." I also clearly asked that ONLY submissives post. Your input was not the point of view I was looking for. It simply demonstrates that lack of courtesy I bring forth in my post when you ignore a polite request to not post. Given that, I will at least acknowledge your points you mention as very valid. I am looking simply for feedback from male submissives. Should you wish, I will post the very same theme that has been beaten to death in the "Ask a Mistress" forum, but until then I am looking for general feedback from the male sub point of view.

These forums are open to anyone, and everyone is encouraged to participate in a thread, regardless as to the section in which it is posted. Sometime one gets feedback that is useful from an avenue one wasn't expective.

Yes, you're going to get responses from individuals who -aren't- the types of people you asked. Such is the nature of a message board. Most of us here have pretty useful things to say, even if we are female, or dominant people, or transgendered or...y'know what I'm saying.

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 10:29:24 AM

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 10:46:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: kissmike

I disagree. The section is "Ask a submissive" It is clearly stated. I also ask for only for sub male responses. Your point minimizes my request for courtesy. Its like butting into a conversation between 2 people on a bus when it's not wanted. Yes a person CAN butt in, but why would they do so in such a discourteous manner? Yes, I am also aware that forums are open. I am also aware that useful input can be gleaned from others input but why is it that a simple polite request that is ignored is justified with these reasons. Yes, I find the others' reason on my posting valid, but it is not what I was looking for. Would it make those who feel they must input when not asked to, feel better if I posted my question with the statement all may post? What is it you don't get about "male sub responses only please" It's a simple request. If you want I can start another thread in hopes of saving this one before the hijacking takes it in a different direction? Please keep in mind this thread is not meant as a flame but in search of valid feedback such as posted by stjosub67. Thank you for your understanding.

Simply put, the moderators of these fora have made every part open to any individual. Please don't be upset when we take advantage of that fact to share what we feel and know regardless of the forum in which it has been placed.

Also, this subject -has- been discused fairly frequently on the boards here, as Shifted mentioned. There's a search function and if you search for...hrm...probably something like "reply courtesy" you will get more threads than you can shake a stick at.

Welcome to the boards, and I appologize for the slight hijack, and unless I have something useful to add to the thread subject, shan't post here again.

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 11:04:08 AM

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I have stopped posting on this subject because individuals like the one below simply don't get it and sadly continue to hijack the original topic.

Point proven...case closed.....end

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RE: Non reply - 7/26/2005 11:09:10 AM

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[qoute] If you want I can start another thread in hopes of saving this one before the hijacking takes it in a different direction? [qoute]

Hijacking? I find your response rather rude in its self. But that is my opinion. If you post in an open forum, do not get upset because people respond. They may not be the ones you directed your question to but does that mean their responses are any less meaningful or less helpful?If you read the rules of this forum ANYONE may respond. That is a risk you take when posting.

[qoute]Its like butting into a conversation between 2 people on a bus when it's not wanted. Yes a person CAN butt in, but why would they do so in such a discourteous manner? Yes, I am also aware that forums are open[qoute]

You are assuming that this is aprivate conversation or that you have any resonable thought of privacy. This is a public forum as is a PUBLIC bus. Yes, most react with discretion to others conversations but well others also have conversations with discretion if they do not want public input.

Perhaps your attitude is the reaons for lack of response to your emails. Perhaps its lack of patience on your part.

Either way, keep in mind when posting to a PUBLIC FORUM that that is what it is and to be rude or snippy when someone responds in a respectful manner only looks badly upon yourself.

As far as your question. Knowing I am a female slave you can take my imput or leave it , that is your choice.

Not everyone responds to every email I personally do, so does my Master.

Even if it is simply to say, " thanks but we are not interested." Many get frustrated for lack or responses. I have a profile that I no longer use or check on a normal basis. However, it states in my journal and profile that I no longer use it and use a joint profile. However, when I do rarely check it I do respond back directing them to my profile and journal. *laughs*

Many do not take the time to read profiles or journals. There are many profiles that state they want specific things in email or they will not respond. Some people simply do not check emails normally.

Sometimes we have to chock it up to a lesson in patience weither dominate or submissive / slave.

nika, Phoenix's deviant slave

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