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Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 12:48:10 PM   
hellhounde


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Status: offline 		After getting to know my mistress for a decent amount time (phone calls, emails, etc.) She's decided that she now feels comfortable enough with me to invite me to one of her play parties.

I'm very easy going and obedient yet, I'm still a great deal nervous about doing well.

Members of the forum I ask with much gratitude in advance of any tips for a first timer - meeting the mistress hoping to become a good sub but most importantly a good friend.

What usually impresses you Dommes on first encounters? (I'm planning on being myself, but I've never seen this side of myself before =)

Subs, what are some of your principals you always abide by to be the very best for your mistress?

-thank you for your time

~J
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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 2:47:16 PM   
submissiveguy69


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Status: offline 		The best advice I can give is to be polite, listen to what she says very carefully, make sure you follow directions promptly and accurately.  If she tells you that she wants to hear about you in any way or asks what you want or what you like, don't cop out and say something like "whatever you'd like Mistress". If she asks, she wants to know & she wants to hear your ability to communicate coherently what it is that you like or want.

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 3:36:26 PM   
Araven


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Status: offline 		Be polite and respectful. As the person above me posted; try to be open about your communication. Answer her quesions well. Another thing to be remindful of is that since she is inviting you, that your presence there reflects on her. So treat everybody politely and with respect. Most of all: be yourself and have fun. Enjoy her company and smile, blush, just *tries to think of the word* be true to yourself. :) 

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 3:49:56 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Bring some chocolates or a bottle of wine, nothing expensive, but don't bring Mad Dog 20/20.  Shine your shoes, wear nice clothes, not some old ratty jeans and sneaks. Put on your company manners and be attentive but not a second coat.  Enjoy yourself and relax.

Ron





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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 3:55:55 PM   
HisCompletely


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Status: offline 		I would not want my first experience to be a play party, that is just me.

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 4:04:06 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Holy cow!....there is NO way I would "play" with someone for the 1st time in public....I'm really shocked that someone would even ask that of another to be honest.

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 4:11:31 PM   
MzticStormz


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Status: offline 		I personally would not want the first meet to be at a party or even a play session for that matter...  I go into a first meeting expecting nothing but polite conversation.  Parties are good for first session just from the stand point that there might be someone there to bail you out if you need to use a safeword.... But as the poster above me said, "that is just me"

As far as subs go I look for the spark that first had me interested in them online. It might be humor or just his generaly personality. Try to be you, as that is the person she invited. All the advice the others gave in the posts above are correct, but I shall add; Since this is a play party, dress in layers. That way if you feel only comfortable taking off your shirt you can do so.. down to you underwear, fine.. down to the leather jock.. or if you choose for it to be so. it will be up to your new Domina.

Keep in mind since it is "her play party"  she is likely to be very busy and may not have a lot of time to get to know you.

Edit to add:  BE ON TIME.  I can't stress that enough.


Mz Stormz

< Message edited by MzticStormz -- 10/5/2007 4:12:34 PM >

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 4:42:04 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I am startled that this lady would invite you to a play party without a face to face screening first.  Is this a private event, or a public one?

Anyone, ASK if there is something that you can bring, or if you could offer your services for setup or cleanup.  Find out if there is some kind of dress code or protocol that you should be following.  If everyone is doing fetish or all black, you will look very out of place in chinos.

Bathe and shave.  Wear clean unnerpance.  (Auntie Strict says so!)  Don't bring flowers (allergies, yanno) or alcohol! 

Otherwise, be nice, smile, be friendly and polite.  Folks are folks, pervy or not.  Pick up after yourself, and have fun. 

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 5:00:52 PM   
wewantaslave


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Status: offline 		Definatly use manners and ettiquette, but dont let it all drain out the personallity. Dont have any expectations other than going with the flow. Oh, make sure you shave. lol  You would be suprised.

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/5/2007 5:19:40 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		The advice here has been really good.
 
Be punctual.  If you are helping with the set up/clean up, ask very specifically what time you should arrive before the other guests.
 
Be polite.  Not just to the Domme you are meeting, but to the other company as well.  As someone else mentioned, since you are Her guest, you on a reflection on Her.  If you have the opportunity, when you ask Her what type of attire is appropriate, you can also ask Her what formalities will be expected.
 
Be courtious.  Some won't agree with Me on this, but if it is a play party, it's the same as any other type of gathering when something small for the host or to share during the party itself.  Would you go to someone's house for dinner without bringing a little something?  A box of chocolate is a good idea, since there are bound to be those who could use a little something after playing.
 
Have fun and go with the flow.  Since this is your first meeting, don't expect play, but be prepared for it, if the Domme choses.

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RE: Advice for first session? - 10/6/2007 1:26:41 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		Oh yes, I was not too clear when I said SHAVE.....  So many of these boys want CBT, but who wants to wack through all those weeds?

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