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wewantaslave -> RE: When to move on (10/8/2007 9:30:24 PM)
I agree totally if the op is only doing things to get something than that is bargaining. If I was the Mistress, I would hold out longer to teach a hard lesson in submission vs bargaining. Maybe thats what is going on. :) Walking away because you dont get what you want when you want is in a way trying to dominate the Mistress and making her top you, and when she doesnt you throw a fit and leave. I really dont think thats whats the op is going to do, but realizing submission is from the heart not for the gold. Sticking it out would be more rewarding and the learning experiences would deepen as time went on. Just think, when all the others have come and gone, your left standing. What would that say about the OP then? I would dream of a slave that would do that for me. quote: ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia Can I just ask, are you with this Domme because you want to serve her and her alone, you want to submit to her, or because you think you deserve something in return for doing things for her? That sounds more like bargaining than submission.

gentlestarZR -> RE: When to move on (10/9/2007 5:49:12 AM)
sit down and talk to her.. if your not getting what you need out of the relationship talk it out ... if you are still feeling neglected then you do whats best for you ...

Siona -> RE: When to move on (10/9/2007 11:29:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gentlestarZR sit down and talk to her.. if your not getting what you need out of the relationship talk it out ... if you are still feeling neglected then you do whats best for you ... My thoughts exactly.

Kitte9 -> RE: When to move on (10/10/2007 3:11:16 PM)
quote: Can I just ask, are you with this Domme because you want to serve her and her alone, you want to submit to her, or because you think you deserve something in return for doing things for her? That sounds more like bargaining than submission. Service was never part of our agreement. I do it because we are friends as well and I was raised that it's a friendly thing to help a friend. I don't bargain for anything. And I understand that she has others, but they are not subs, only 'friends with benefits.' Supposing they were, is it not her responsibility to make sure she has time for each of them? If there are too many for her, shouldn't she refuse to take on others? She once said she was going to cut back on her playmates, but never told me that I would be cut oof. Instead she remarked that she would keep 'seven of her boys, and her Kitte.' I seem to be getting mixed messages.

subinsouth -> RE: When to move on (10/11/2007 6:54:06 AM)
I have to move on when I realize 'He is just not that into me'.

RRafe -> RE: When to move on (10/11/2007 9:44:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kitte9 At what point should I give up and move on? My Domme has many others to keep her satisfied, and though she says she is very picky about her girls, it seems to me she doesn't have the time to spend with me. For the last several months I have been painting, cleaning, running errands and any number of things you can relate to, and while she spends several nights/days each week with assorted others, I have to ask her to spend time with me. I made it clear that I wanted sex as well as companionship in the beginning, and she was agreeable, but I sense she doesn't wish to hold up her end of the bargain. Any advice? If you have brought this to her attention,and she is blowing you off........Is that not answer enough?

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