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Who knows. - 7/26/2005 11:34:22 AM

Superman42280

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In your life, friends, family, etc --

Who knows of your submission? Your D/s life?

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 11:56:49 AM

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no one, not that I have much family left, and frankly.. its none of their business anyway. :)

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 12:50:07 PM

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I would say that 99% of my family knows all about us, one of my sisters is also involved in the lifestyle, so are two of my kids. And any friend that asks why I/we have chains on our bed and eye hooks in the archway dividing our room from my dressing area generally learns more then they possibly wanted to. I'm very straightforward about wiitwd.

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 12:54:49 PM

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i am starting to tell my friends of my lifestyle, and i'm finding out that many of them are into alot of the same things that i am into. When i start talking to friends and they tell me of past experiences, my jaw drops and i say: "youuuuuuuuuuu"!? LOL!! it's so great to talk to them about things and they are so fascinated by the lifestyle anyways. i haven't told my mom yet. My mom is very cool so if i told her she'd just laugh. LOL!! She'd probably then say i should do this sort of thing with my husband. LOL!!! The rest of my family would probably cringe. Most of them don't even know i'm gay, but then again i dont speak to them that often either.

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 12:59:43 PM

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Hello There,
I proudly tell everyone except my parents about my BDSM choice I made in 2/05. The only reason I can't tell my parents is my Sister begged me not to as she's been in the life almost 5 years and is afraid if my parents know about me they'll find out about her. I respect she's in the closet and even though I know my parents would love us anyway I keep the secret for her. All my co-workers, business associates, friends, and even my 21 & 17 yr old kids know. In telling everyone the joy I've found I've converted 3 of my friends and even my Daughter into the lifestyle so far in my 5 month journey.
I look at it this way, I accept me & I love my life, so do my kids. If someone else does accept me they don't have to like me or associate with me if they are offended.
I love who I am and am proud to tell everyone what makes me happy.

I'm 41 years old, I've lived the way I thought others wanted me to act my whole life. This year I decided to find out what made me happy and start living for me. I've found even my church friends still love and accept me & like I said even some of my family and friends have joined me in my choice to be kinky.
I'm as out of the closet as I can be.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 1:23:26 PM

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suzanne -- thats wonderful.

How did you tell everyone? How did you describe it?

Your daughter is now a sub as well? Is she on here? Not that Im going to hit on her, just curious, you know?

That's fascinating what you just told me. Any more details would be great....fill in the holes for us, please....

How do you describe it? How do you describe yourself? As a slave? How do you describe the relationship? Have they ever seen you obey?

Thanks for sharing! Means a lot!

ChrisakaSuperman

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 1:43:36 PM

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suzanne -- thats wonderful.

How did you tell everyone? How did you describe it?

Your daughter is now a sub as well? Is she on here? Not that Im going to hit on her, just curious, you know?

That's fascinating what you just told me. Any more details would be great....fill in the holes for us, please....

How do you describe it? How do you describe yourself? As a slave? How do you describe the relationship? Have they ever seen you obey?

Thanks for sharing! Means a lot!

ChrisakaSuperman

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suzanne -- thats wonderful.

How did you tell everyone? How did you describe it?

Your daughter is now a sub as well? Is she on here? Not that Im going to hit on her, just curious, you know?

That's fascinating what you just told me. Any more details would be great....fill in the holes for us, please....

How do you describe it? How do you describe yourself? As a slave? How do you describe the relationship? Have they ever seen you obey?

Thanks for sharing! Means a lot!

Hello There,
I've always been pretty open with my life with my kids & friends. I think there are definately some things you don't tell little ones, but mine are older now. They tell me everything they do including any drugs they try, and my daughter even came to me two months before she lost her virginity so I could get her an appointment to get on the pill. They have about 12 friends that call me their cool other mother that talk to me about everything too. I've even posed as other kids Mom at the health clinics when they needed to get bitrh control or get tested.
Actually my Daughter is a Domme to her boyfriend & they've decided to have an open relationship. I'd told her I was kinky & what that meant to me when I satrted to play. She came to a society social and presentation with me to see what personalitites of people would be attracted to this lifestyle.. She got to see fire play. Her eyes became as big as saucers and she wanted to go home and try it. I explained it was real fire, she could burn her guy & burn the house down. I invited her to my local dungeon where she could find someone to spot her if she just had to try it. SHe's come to my society meetings and presentations ever since then. She's not online with it as she's just plain beautiful and has made more friends at the meetings than she can handle.
My son noticed my slave training collar and ask me if it was a sex collar. I explained no it's not a sex collar but one in a kinky world I was in with my Master Rick, that it meant he was my Master and we had a long conversation on why I like to be tied up, told what to do and spanked ect. He said he thought it was weird, but if it made me happy more power to me.
My friends I just started telling where I was going and what I was doing. I loaned them my books if they were interested and some of them come to my Black Rose society meetings too. My co-workers and associate office folks in my building noticed a huge change in my appearance (I was a very modest dresser before) and when they ask what had changed or if they ask about my bruises from I told them, showed them my suspension bondage photo's and even gave a few of them this web site and another I was in if they thought they wanted to persue it themselves. 4 of the neighboring office guys have come to my local dungeon to check things out so far & more say when they have time they'd like to go.

Pretty much I've lived my life as a wide open book. I accept the choices I make in my life & even if they were mistakes. I share my experiences with anyone who wants to know as I'm not ashamed of my choices I've made or the mistakes I've learned from. I think to share good and bad experiences you have with others can help them not only make better choices but can teach them views other than their own.
Who knows maybe one day I'll even convince my Sister to let my parents know so I can tell my Mom and Dad too. They are very fridgid folk, but I know they'll love and accept me anyway.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Who knows. - 7/26/2005 1:51:21 PM

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Great, thanks!

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RE: Who knows. - 7/27/2005 6:17:36 AM

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I've been living with Master in Australia for 18 months now, all His/our friends know we are kinky, His parents don't know how much though! I am originally from New Zealand and no one in my family there(mother, brother, 2 kids aged 22 and 17) know anything about our lifestyle or even that I am bi. Only a couple of my closest friends there know.

I prefer it that way, because I know my mother and brother would never understand and my kids haven't been to visit yet so there has been no need to explain anything to them. I have so much freedom to be myself here, I have been back a couple of times during my father's illness and then his death in March and I do feel very stifled even though I love my family.....

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RE: Who knows. - 7/27/2005 8:14:47 AM

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Wow does THIS sound familiar.....lol
Master's friends know, His parents know but His dad pretends not to, my friends know, even my sister knows. My mom, however, would not be okay with it AT ALL. So i don't tell her. I'm not at all ashamed of how we live our life, but quite frankly, i don't want to deal with the ensuing feud.

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RE: Who knows. - 7/27/2005 11:09:45 AM

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Lesse..... all my friends know. It was easier that way. If they couldnt accept this side of me then what was the point of friendship?

My family knows that I prefer more traditional, male dominant, relationships. Thats all they need to know.. my sex life is none of their business and they really wouldnt want details even if I was vanilla. Some things you just dont discuss with grandpa and grandma.

My boss has a clue but we've never discussed it. Some of my coworkers know and some dont. At my last job all my fellow supervisors knew as I worked at a more 'lifestyle friendly' office.

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RE: Who knows. - 7/27/2005 11:39:44 AM

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LOL! This has just recently come up with my parents, since MASter put his collar on me. My dad keeps asking what the collar is for. His first question was "Whats that pipe doing round your neck?" I told him it wasnt a pipe and some things you just really dont want to know. He laughed, and said was it a slave collar. I turned beat red, because I wasnt really ready to give them the explanation behind it. So now, he keeps bugging me about my slave collar, his words. Which...Yeah, it is. But even before the collar was put on, they could see that things were different between Master and I, than they were with nilla couples. I take care of him, get his drinks, or his food if we're eating with them. Mom kind of gives me grief, but its mostly good natured.

Sometime pretty soon, I'll sit them down and explain. But, til then, Im just gonna turn red

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