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LTR's - 7/26/2005 11:41:02 AM

kiyana

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Being someone who has made a relationship all the way on the other side of the world, work....Has anyone else had this same luck? I find this is more than likely the most difficult kind of relationship to work....not seeing each other nearly enough, and waiting for the day you can be together all the time. You tell youself "It will be worth it in the end" Yet is it always?

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 12:26:06 PM

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Well I've been with my Boston partner (I am in MD) for over a year now and we are pretty happy. However, we're not eachother's primary partners which helps.

The first 9 months of my relationship with the Owner was long distance.

My relationship with the boyfriend is about to become long distance for probably 5 years.

Long distances do indeed make some things harder to work with. Time gets dilated, so quality time that you get with 3 months in a short-distance relationship is more like 2 years in a long distance relationship. But, I find if you have clear relationship goals and are working towards the long distance ending (or are simply very happy with it as it is) then it can definitely work.

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 2:47:57 PM

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Master and i are in a LTR for now..He in Dc and i in GA. W/we don't get to see each other nearly as often as i would like of coursr but it is working. The quality of our time together seems much more important than the quanity. sure W/we hope it will one day go to a 24/7 live in arrangement but if it does not I for one am happy and look foward to every momenet with Him

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 2:56:00 PM

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My longest relationship so far is also the furthest distance. He lives in Florida and travels the world for work and I now live in Australia (was in Malaysia when we first met). We're heading for our fourth year. I don't tell myself it will be worth it in the end, because I don't know where it's going, but it is worth it now.

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 3:58:49 PM

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After nearly 6 years, My online sub and I finally met just this month. To say the least, it was a memorable month.

I live in Australia, while she's in Ireland, so it don't get much more LTR. lol

Seriously though, even though there's no possibility of a realtime scenario longterm, to spend that time with her was just incredible. And now, the relationship takes on a greater depth, so to speak.

Suffice to say that next year, she'll be back, but for a much longer vacation.

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 3:58:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: kiyana

Being someone who has made a relationship all the way on the other side of the world, work....Has anyone else had this same luck? I find this is more than likely the most difficult kind of relationship to work....not seeing each other nearly enough, and waiting for the day you can be together all the time. You tell youself "It will be worth it in the end" Yet is it always?

I think two people are fooling themselves if they continue a long distance relationship for years and years (and do not date other people in real life) without a plan in place. You can waste the best dating years of your life if you are on the computer and on the phone with someone who you only get to see a few days a year. It's also a false idea of how well the relationship actually would work. When you only see each other for short periods of time it's always in the "honeymoon" phase -- you don't get to see the full picture like you do when you see someone all the time. So if you do this for 5 years, do you really know the person?

It also takes a lot of trust. Are you sure the other person isn't seeing someone on the side? Are the promises of eventually being together for good real?

That said, I had a long distance relationship that lasted for 2+ years and resulted in a permanent, real life relationship. However, the majority of that time (2 years) it was more of a casual thing and didn't have an bearing on either of our outside/real life options. Once it got serious, I insisted we meet within a few months and see if it would work. I didn't want to drag it out. It took some arm twisting, but I got him to meet me, then I never let him leave (well, you know what I mean. No, it wasn't forced).

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RE: LTR's - 7/26/2005 6:34:20 PM

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i think LDRs can absolutely work.It simply depends on the patience level of both parties involved.As far as long term thing goes i think for me over time as the relationship progressed i would definately want to spend more time with my partner and that would be about the time that one of us should consider moving.i've casually dated ones in other states and it worked fine but personally i'm ecstatic to finally be in a relationship with someone local.Random sleepovers at His place,Him coming by to visit me at work( i love that one

) But then again when you find the One for you distance shouldnt be an object so i believe it can work.Good luck

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