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From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 11:57:56 AM

Superman42280

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How fast was it for you all from first meeting or chatting online to collaring and obeying regarding your Masters/Doms ? Did you obey the first time you met? Was it like dating...coffee and good conversation the first couple times...then a kiss....then the collar?

Just curious how it usually goes on for y'all.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 12:30:34 PM

Phoenixandnika

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How do you have total power exchange with a total stranger?
How is the trust there?
How is that safe or sain?

We knew each other for along time before meeting. He was my best friend.Our first meeting in person was as friends, although He was a dominate and I was a slave we meet with no expectations other than 2 friends.

Although on our trip across country that did change. When we arrived in Maryland, he had descided he would give notice at his job in New York and move to Maryland with me.

Did I obey the 1st time we meet? Well I followed basic protocal simply because its second nature when interacting with a dominate on any level. You have to understand to me my Master was my Master before I was actually collared. So did I obey? Yes, although at the time of our meeting he did not presume the role of my Owner. I am not sure if that makes sense.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 12:30:58 PM

littleone35

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It is different for every couple. First was a meeting we talked for 4 hours ( my late Master and i) at the end i we were on the same page i knew i wanted his collar but i had no training so he put a training collar on me . 6 months later i got my real collar i obeyed him as soon as i had my training collar.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 12:38:53 PM

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I'd been chatting and phoning with the Owner about 6 months when we met, a month seriously. He walked in the door of my apartment, caned my breasts and then handed me a dozen roses.

It was pretty much set after that.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 12:49:05 PM

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It was three years before Master and I met the first time. We had lunch, went to the movies like any typical date, sat up all night and talked, talked and talked all night. The second night, he bound me to the bed and flogged me black and blue. We met about every 3 - 5 months after that for two years before I finally moved in with him.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 3:16:54 PM

tigress31047

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Master and I began chatting online about a month before i started obeying Him totaly.. i was respectful and followed certain protocol because i feel any Dom deserves that repspect until they prove themselves unworthy of it but i did not obey His every word until the point that He said He was ofically claiming me as His Submissive. From that momenet on I have obeyed His every wish. I do not as yet have a collar. W/we have been shopping for one and when the time is right for Him to place it around my neck I will be the happiest person on earth..I am glad He chose to wait instead of just slapping one on the first time we met .. He has made me work for it and it will mean so much more in the end .

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 6:38:30 PM

Jennylu48

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Guess we are the odd ones here. Master and I enjoyes a nilla life has husband and wife for nearly 8 years before we freally both started to learn and work at this. Yes that is right .. he is my first and only Master and I am his first and only slave. We are certainly the only couple I knw atht pretty well trained each other.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 7:24:51 PM

dechala

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It's different for everyone.For me its definately very similar to vanilla dating at first but with a perverted twist thrown in.Sure, coffee,dinner, lots of conversation about likes and dislikes inside and outside of the bdsm lifestyle on the first meeting.A certain amount of trust and getting to know each other has to occur for any power exchange relationship to work.
As far as me submitting on the first meeting, i usually don't, i dont think i ever have fully submitted on the first date but that doesnt mean that i didnt feel very submissive feelings towards someone on the first date.It just depends on the person and whether we vibe or not

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 8:00:23 PM

fastlane

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C'mon.....how long was it for you and Lois Lane?
I always knew she was a kinky gal, but she should serve SpiderMan not you. Sorry if that bugs you

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/26/2005 9:53:31 PM

jocelyn

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For me, it's varied, and has been a factor of some concern. My needs to serve are so strong I've not always made wise decisions.

With this, my real Master, the process was exceptionally deliberate. He sent me a list of questions and then continued (continues) to follow the pattern of probing deeply. Neither of us are young and the definition of our needs is pretty clear.

There were many hours of phone questions and answers, a coffee meeting midway between our respective towns, a formal visit (read: no physical contact, but intense questioning about a wide range of issues) to my home for an afternoon.

Two days later I drove to His home for a return visit, and to offer myself to Him.

be well -

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/27/2005 7:38:21 AM

OsideGirl

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It was like vanilla dating for me. After all, I have to know if I even like you before I submit to you. This attitude aggravated many Doms.

To me a collar is a commitment equal to marriage and not to be done quickly or lightly. I have been in 3 BDSM D/s relationships. 8 months, 5 years and 5 years. The only time that I've been collared is to my current Master who is also my husband.

Our situation is a little different. Master and I were very close, platonic friends for almost 3 years before we dated. We dated for a month before I asked for his collar, a week later he asked me to marry him, we got married a year later.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/27/2005 8:32:41 AM

Hissweetshiv

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Master and i were never "nilla friends", exactly, since we met in a BDSM oriented chat room. We did, however, both have other commitments when we met. We spoke just as friends for about 18 months before we considered each other as a partner. During that time, there was none of the usual "impress the member of the opposite sex" thing that happens in dating so often, since we were basically just venting about our respective lives and cracking jokes. Because we lived 2000+ miles apart, there was no neutral ground first meeting either. I came to visit Him and within 30 minutes of getting to His apartment i was nude and thoroughly spanked lol. A week later we were engaged. All in all, it was about 2 years after we met that He collared me.

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RE: From Chat to Collar - 7/27/2005 10:55:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: Superman42280

How fast was it for you all from first meeting or chatting online to collaring and obeying regarding your Masters/Doms ? Did you obey the first time you met? Was it like dating...coffee and good conversation the first couple times...then a kiss....then the collar?

Just curious how it usually goes on for y'all.

We had known eachother in some way or another online for quite a few years but we had only been talking for five months when he came out to see me. It wasnt anything like dating. *chuckles*
We lived across the country from eachother and he flew in and spent a week with me. I served him while he was there as his slave though I did not get his collar until two months later. I visited him twice after that and then I packed up and moved to Vegas to be with him. Woohoo.. city of sin :)

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