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Superman42280 -> What about you? (7/26/2005 12:03:20 PM)


Any subs had a Master/Dom where you ALWAYS rubbed/scratched their back and gave oral sex, etc... and they NEVER took the effort to please you back?

Is t hat alright with any subs/slaves? Is the pleasing enough, even if no kindness are ever returned?




tinkJH -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 12:21:23 PM)

IMO, that would depend on the sub.

I rub Master's back and feet all the time, I expect nothing in return. Same for oral. He knows if I crawl my way under his desk that I am about to ask if I can please him orally.

I have an oral fetish so I might not count. However. I never expect him to return any of my affections, nor would I want him to because he felt like he had to. He gives it to me because that is what he wants to do, to give, because he is pleased. (at least, I hope)


That said, I am a very emotionally needy person. I need Master's affection, approval, his kindness. Even if its just a little caress to my head if I curl up next to him. I am not one that can simply be in a emotionless, unattached type D/s relationship.

But, like I said. Its the sub really, some girls wouldn't mind at all the lack of emotional attachment.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 12:36:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Superman42280
Any subs had a Master/Dom where you ALWAYS rubbed/scratched their back and gave oral sex, etc... and they NEVER took the effort to please you back?

Is t hat alright with any subs/slaves? Is the pleasing enough, even if no kindness are ever returned?

Actually that's pretty much EXACTLY how it is with the Owner.

Of course it's all right with me. I am sometimes sad because I am now essentially trained NOT to become sexually excited when servicing him sexually because I know there will be no return for it, however, I certainly get plenty of sex from other sources. The Owner does encourage me to get sexual satisfaction from others. And he really loves it and gets off on denying me, so he's happy, I'm obeying, it's all good.



nonuts4thshoney -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 12:36:49 PM)

Master lovessssssssssssss it when i Scratch and rub Her back. i do it whenever She asks and i never expect anything in return. i love to do it. i do this because it helps Her to sleep better. Master does like to cuddle with me after i do this, so She is ALWAYS kind to me.



Phoenixandnika -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 12:54:44 PM)

[qoute] Is t hat alright with any subs/slaves? Is the pleasing enough, even if no kindness are ever returned?[qoute]

Well i do not think a true dominate would ignore the needs of his submissive or slave. Weither they be emotionsal or physical. That being said, sometimes its hard to determine what is a need or want. Sometimes what I see as a need my Master sees as want and vise versa.

Like tink I have an oral fetish so I do not think that counts, I love to simply give him a nice and unexpected blow job.


There are times its strictly about what he wants. Me getting off or getting what I want is not in the equation. However, those times are trully rare. Why? Simple. My Master loves to see me squirm. There are many times where he makes me cum and then simply stops, he doesnt want it to go farther than that. In the begining it made me feel very guilty. Like I was satifying him or meeting his needs. There are still times where I find myself feeling that way. He simply reminds me, " mind making you squirm is what I want." Who am I to argue?lol

I am a cuddle whore. I beg for his simple touch often. I love simply feeling him next to me, his hand in my hair, his breath on my skin. This is the itnamcy that i crave more than sexual intimacy.



I totally agree, like anything this varies from submissive / slave to dominate. Each relationship and its dynamics vary from person to person.



nika, Phoenix's deviant slave



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 3:12:26 PM)

Human beings are human beings and there is no such thing as complete altruism. There is always something gotten in return, even from the most selfless acts.

Human psychology is such that no one stays in a situation unless they are getting something out of it...even if we perceive that something to be negative or bizarre...hunt deep enough and you find the payback.

Power exchange is still an exchange, even if it doesn't look like an obvious give and take. Whether you are getting enough out of an exchange to keep you in the situation is the determining factor. This goes for all aspects of human life.

Cin



fourpeas -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 4:31:16 PM)

Sometimes the pleasing is enough, sometimes it isn't.

If my EMOTIONAL needs are being met, sure, I'll please you all f*#@$ing day long. I don't care. I really enjoy sex, but only as much as my partner. And my grandma is the only person who likes to scratch my back.

I somewhat agree with Cin (although not entirely) about human beings being human beings. It depends on the person and the exchange. I can serve sexually and not be reciprocated. That's totally fine with me, because it gives my partner an outlet to be sexual and at the same time it makes me not feel guilty for not enjoying sex more than I do.

So....



siamsa24 -> RE: What about you? (7/26/2005 6:40:39 PM)

Hehe, it actually goes the other way around for me. He always scratches and rubs my back and doesn't expect anything in return. But then again, we have an unusual relationship



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