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Dublingirl38 -> do i contact him (10/6/2007 7:23:46 AM)

Hi all. I recently met and played with a Dom for the weekend, do i wait until he contacts me again or will i appear all needy if i am totally available to Him? when he stayed for the weekend he slept in the spare bedroom for both nights which i think is a tad weird.. is that normal also?



JasonF -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:33:33 AM)

I wouldn't worry about it that much. Do what feels natural to you. If he doesn't like the "natural" way you do things, then he either has to be willing to change it or deal with it if a relationship would work, anyway.



swtnsparkling -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:39:15 AM)

I wouldn't contact him.

Sleeping in the other bedroom?- I bet he doesn't want you
thinking there is a relationship between you two other than him useing you when
it suits.



sexyred1 -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:40:38 AM)

I would not contact him. It sounds strange that he was with you the entire weekend and slept in the guest room whilst still playing with you. Sounds as if he only wants casual.



crouchingtigress -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:44:36 AM)

you dont know and we dont know....so maybe just ask him where hes at with you, with play, with relationships.



MzMia -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:53:56 AM)

Hello DublinGirl!
**waving across the Atlantic Ocean**
We don't know that much background information here.
How long have you known him?
How well do you know him?
What has he said to you?
Etc.
You are a big girl now, all grown up and you trusted him enough to play
with him, AND let him sleep in your home!
You have every right to call him, tell him you enjoyed "playing" with him,
and you want to know what if any his intentions are as far as you are concerned.
Now, after you talk to him, you MUST come back and tell us what he says!
[sm=confused.gif]



chellekitty -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 9:14:42 AM)

if it were me i would send him one email, not too long, not too short, and thats all...open the lines of communication in a non-obtrustive way and let him respond in his own time, and if he does not respond let it go....calling is not the best way because it could be at a bad time and if he doesn't recognize your number, he may not call back or whatever...texting is lame out of an established relationship, romantic or friendship....



FangsNfeet -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 11:48:16 AM)

There's no wrong or right decission to make here. You just have to go with your gut feeling on this one. However, I do dectect that you would really like another weekend with him.

If you are going to contact him, keep it simple.

Example:

"Hi, I enjoyed the weekend. Let me know when you would like to come over so I can be ready for you."

If you like, you can go more into graphic detail of the things he did and you where forced to do.

Whatever happens, only leave one message. If he likes what happened, he'll come around. However, I wouldn't wait forever. 




dcnovice -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 11:53:43 AM)

Might a thank-you note be a nonthreatening way to make contact?



ehlovindom -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 3:17:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dublingirl38

Hi all. I recently met and played with a Dom for the weekend, do i wait until he contacts me again or will i appear all needy if i am totally available to Him? when he stayed for the weekend he slept in the spare bedroom for both nights which i think is a tad weird.. is that normal also?


Let's see....you recently played with a Dom (I will assume you don't mean monopoly) and it has been HOW LONG since you have spoken? If it is an hour, I would say it is best not to contact him. If it has been a week, why wouldn't you contact him. If it has been a month, I think you are going to have to find someone else to play monopoly with.

As for sleeping in the spare bedroom, how messy was your bed?



FangsNfeet -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 5:40:13 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

Might a thank-you note be a nonthreatening way to make contact?


That's what I just said.

Thank you for comming over. Thank you for making me a submissive to you. Thank you for having me bound, spanked, and swollow your cum. The suffering you had me endure gave me pleasure. Please Sir, may I have another? Your memory has me horny. Please Sir, may I have some more?

Send something along these lines, but with more detail, and see what happens.






SexyBlackMan2 -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 7:30:56 PM)

Serious red flag!



grlneedstolearn -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 7:33:33 PM)

i would not have had him sleep over for the first meeting. Somewhere public and just getting to know each other would have been my idea. i'd message him and let him know what you thought about it, honestly, and see where it goes from there. But i would never allow someone to sleep over on the first meeting.



laurell3 -> RE: do i contact him (10/6/2007 8:52:28 PM)

I dont see where it says it was the first meeting.  Maybe he lives in another location?  Maybe it was arranged as just a weekend thing?  This information is available to the poster however.  I would go with your gut, a thank you note as suggested might be a good approach if you decide to contact him.
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Lucius -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 4:18:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

Might a thank-you note be a nonthreatening way to make contact?


Sounds like a great idea.

Let Him know how appreciated He is.

Then see if He responds.

Lucius Alexander

House of the Palindromedary



swtnsparkling -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 7:43:21 AM)

quote:

Might a thank-you note be a nonthreatening way to make contact?


Might a thank you from him be in order and  polite ?concidering he stayed the weekend at her place



daddysliloneds -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 7:58:17 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Dublingirl38

Hi all. I recently met and played with a Dom for the weekend, do i wait until he contacts me again or will i appear all needy if i am totally available to Him? when he stayed for the weekend he slept in the spare bedroom for both nights which i think is a tad weird.. is that normal also?


hmmmmmm, not sure what part you're asking about being normal; you allowing a complete stranger to stay at your home for the weekend, or him being a gentleman by sleeping in the spare room ?(because perhaps he was waiting for an invitation to sleep in your room)

when i have had a good time with someone, i'm always sure to let them know it, even if it means i contact them first; it has nothing to do with neediness and everything to do with telling people how you feel when you feel it!



sundownhawk -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 8:07:43 AM)

quote:

Hi all. I recently met and played with a Dom for the weekend, do i wait until he contacts me again or will i appear all needy if i am totally available to Him? when he stayed for the weekend he slept in the spare bedroom for both nights which i think is a tad weird.. is that normal also?
ORIGINAL: Dublingirl38

Have you initiated contact in the past? Was it acceptable to him for you to initiate contact? If so then contact him, if not wait.
What type of "play" was involved? Was there sex involved? Maybe him choosing to stay in the other room at night was to avoid intimacy for some reason. Too many details missing from there for an informed opinion I feel, follow your own mind on that. Just remember to step back and consider it from several perspectives.



slaverosebeauty -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 10:29:06 AM)

This sounds like a kink version of, 'do I call or don't I call' in the vanilla world.  Call him if you want too.  If you want to see him again, call him; him sleeping in the spare room is something I have not had any experience with, since any man I meet who is not local has to stay in a  hotel, since I DO have a child and unless that man is a regular fixture in both or lives, he is NOT staying with us.
 
I have called men after they came and saw me, to say thank you for coming to see me and then leaving things in their court an I sorted out my own thoughts and we were able to talk.



Dublingirl38 -> RE: do i contact him (10/7/2007 10:34:15 PM)

Thanks for the replies folks and the words of wisdom.... first off he did travel to see me second off he had booked into a hotel but it ended up him staying here for one reason or another,, and he has contacted me again smiles* he is flying over again next weekend.. xx

Hugs and kisses all
dg 



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