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MzMia -> How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 12:03:09 PM)

I am not into casual "playing", I don't knock those that are,
it is just not my cup of tea.
I was wondering how many Dominant's here are primarily
ONLY looking for casual play and casual play partners?
Where do you find them?
Are you upfront about only wanting a "casual" relationship only?
Have you had problems with submissives that grew to want a serious relationship,
when you stated up front, you only wanted to be "play partners"?
[;)]



Focus50 -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 2:18:12 PM)

I have in my profile that I'll consider a casual D/s relationship but that's only if the alternative is nothing at all. 
 
Ideally, I prefer a committed and monogamous relationship as I need to connect with my sub partner now (with D/s), just as I did in my vanilla days.
 
D/s isn't about what I do to/with just some willing "submissive meat" but totally about who I'm doing it with.  So even with casual, it wouldn't be with just anyone willing and available.
 
Focus.



YourhandMyAss -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 2:34:33 PM)

I'm not a Master, but I am here for casual play only, and I do state up front it's casual only, and no I've never yet run into someone who wanted more than casual. I have, however run into tons who won't respect the limits of play, and try to push for things they know and agreed to being offlimits.

edited to add, I find them at play parties and online through collar me and other such sites.



LordNarwhal -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 2:37:29 PM)

At this point all I am able to offer is casual play. If people dig that and are interested that's fine. If it's not their cup of tea then all they gotta do is say so. I'd rather have an honest answer and no play than the other way around.



dmarc -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 6:07:40 PM)

Well I personally am seeking only a serious relationship. For me causal play is not what I am looking for, its a simple as that.

Dmarc



MzMia -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 6:52:19 PM)

Thank you all for sharing!
It is great to see Male Dominants that are seeking
casual play AND serious, long term relationships.



obis -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 9:02:40 PM)

It's tough for me to engage in totally casual play, just because my heart is not really in it without any emotional context. That said, I can happily play casually with a real friend, someone I care about even if it isn't in a romantic context.



laurell3 -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/6/2007 9:12:29 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: obis

It's tough for me to engage in totally casual play, just because my heart is not really in it without any emotional context. That said, I can happily play casually with a real friend, someone I care about even if it isn't in a romantic context.


Yeah I'm the same way.  Let's face it, the search is frustrating and long.  However, I don't find the same depth and mental stimulation in nonltr situations.
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daddysliloneds -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 8:06:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

I was wondering how many Dominant's here are primarily
ONLY looking for casual play and casual play partners?
Where do you find them?
Are you upfront about only wanting a "casual" relationship only?
Have you had problems with submissives that grew to want a serious relationship,
when you stated up front, you only wanted to be "play partners"?
[;)]


there's plenty of them on here, and i should know because i've met and played with them. [:D]

we were very upfront and honest from the beginning to the end and everything in between, and it's not because no one wants a serious relationship, but because some of us don't have time to invest in a serious relationship.

i've seen both sides of the equation where there have been problems of one person wanting more than the other had to offer at the time,not between us, but between others they were playing.



RaynaSub -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 8:56:48 AM)

Before I met my current Master, I encountered many other
Dominant men that stated they were looking for serious relationships,
but many were not.
Many of these men would attempt to seduce me and get me to jump into
relationships, without taking the time to get to know me as a person.
I have seen many submissive women that don't seem to realize that serious
relationships, normally develop and grow slowly.
Many men around here are looking for quick thrills and only a play partner.
I am glad there are men here that are stating they seek a serious relationship.



TotalState -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 3:43:53 PM)

I was into casual play before I got serious with my sub.  It was a realization that we both had, that we got the most pleasure out of being with each other, with the possibility of playing with others together.



MzMia -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 7:40:56 PM)

Well. daddysliloneds, I understand your point.
I don't have a lot of "time" for a relationship.
I hope to be busy for the next 30 years or so.
But, IF I put any time into cultivating a relationship, I want
it to be a potentially serious one.
Most people are busy, everyone I know that is working is busy.
It's part of life, but I will not use that as an excuse for not being able
to have a "serious" relationship.
It is not always the amount of time you have to give and share, it is the
quality of time, with someone that you consider "special". 



kirii -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 7:45:39 PM)


Actually, I find it odd that so many seem to whine about their slaves/submissives becoming angry at the thought of their partner wanting ‘casual’ play partners outside the main relationship; yet… on the other side, I get mail from the dominants blasting me repeatedly for stating that I don’t want anything serious with anyone.
Quite odd and quite interesting



Dublingirl38 -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 10:26:21 PM)

Unfortunatly.... too many doms lie about what they really want... my experience has been that they say they want a LTR but in reality all they want is play.. i just wish more people where honest....



MissMagnolia -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/7/2007 10:33:47 PM)

This happens in nilla relationships too. Guys who promise undying love UNTIL they get their rocks off (usually, but not always, very young guys and yes, I know women do it too, just not as often[:D]).

We'd all love more honesty, kindness, lurve, etc, but unfortunately, that's life. You just need to have your bullshit radar going all the time. It doesn't always work, but can definitely cut down the amount of bullshit around.



Koala -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/8/2007 8:36:05 AM)

It scares me away if someone is looking for the love of their life on the internet.

I would rather just make friends, and date, and whatever happens, happens. There is nothing worse in this world than high expectations.



RRafe -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/8/2007 9:06:44 AM)

I know lots of Local tops in comitted relationships that play casually-with the full consent of thier partners. Sometimes they both play with other people at the same time. What's the big deal-so long as everyone participating is happy?




MzMia -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/8/2007 9:30:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

This happens in nilla relationships too. Guys who promise undying love UNTIL they get their rocks off (usually, but not always, very young guys and yes, I know women do it too, just not as often[:D]).

We'd all love more honesty, kindness, lurve, etc, but unfortunately, that's life. You just need to have your bullshit radar going all the time. It doesn't always work, but can definitely cut down the amount of bullshit around.


I agree with the bullshit radar, MissMagnolia.
For me, I run into the pure desperation syndrome, and I don't find
desperation and begging and throwing yourself at strangers approach
appealing, either.



chellekitty -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/9/2007 5:24:35 AM)

i fully embrace my masculine side along with my feminine side and my masculine side allows me to get my rocks off with no emotional attachement...in fact its me that is more often putting my clothes back on whether it be from sex or a scene while the guy is going "but but but, don't you want to cuddle?"....and its quite amusing,...in a sad little clown sort of way....but...i keep going...keep looking for that great fuck buddy/casual play partner who will just give me the physical benifits without the emotional ties...cause i am happy with where i am at today emotionally...i just need a sexual-physical boost....ahh well...working on it...

chelle



tulitukka -> RE: How many Masters are into casual playing? and casual play partners primarily? (10/11/2007 2:26:08 AM)

I'm also a Male Dominant and looking for both casual play and serious long term partners. I prefer the latter, but at the time cannot promise such commitments unless there is an exceptionally good relationship dynamic with the partner.

One of the reasons for wanting some casual play is that I'd like to get variety and ideas to my repertoire, as I'm currently living in my first D/s relationship.



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