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sammiebabygirl -> sub drop (10/6/2007 7:00:02 PM)
Recently, there have been several threads on the topic of subspace in the various forums. Along with the wonderful feelings of subspace comes that awful sub drop. How do people deal with sub drop and specifically, those without a Dominant/Master/Mistress, but who play with casual play partners. How do you deal with those feelings? jen

laurell3 -> RE: sub drop (10/6/2007 7:09:01 PM)
I usually make sure any Dom I am with understands that it may happen. I tell them that contact during the day or two following intense play is important, and I find it very helpful. Overall though, I think like any mood recognizing why it's happening and knowing it's temporary goes a long way. l

mistoferin -> RE: sub drop (10/6/2007 7:25:36 PM)
Hi sbg, I have always had a problem with drop after intense scenes. The first thing I would suggest is that you make sure it is actually drop that you are talking about and not a feeling of melancholy, sadness or seperation/abandonment issue. I have seen many here who seem to confuse them. Sub drop for me occurs 24 to 72 hours after an intense, usually high pain, extended, high endurance scene. The way it feels is like I have a full blown case of the flu. I get a fever, headaches, body aches, chills, upset stomach, roller coaster emotions and an inability to really focus or concentrate. It generally lasts 1 to 2 days. Part of dealing with it for me is understanding it and realizing that it will probably happen....so when it does I am not confused by what is going on. It used to happen in my relationships and still occurs now that I play more casually. I say more casually because the few people that I do play with are people that I know very well and have known me for quite some time....so they too are very aware of my drop issue and do what they can to help. Generally, that means that they provide good aftercare and check in now and again over the next few days. Prior to scening I make sure to nourish myself well and make sure that I am in a good headspace entering the scene. After, I again make sure to nourish myself well with healthy food. Many people suggest sweets....I personally think that is a bad idea if you go for the types of sweets that are just high in simple sugars as they flood your system and cause your body to "dump" huge amounts of insulin to take care of the sugar load. This tends to result in a crash after. The one exception that I usually make is chocolate, as it does seem to help some. I try though, to stick with fruits and such. Milk is also very good because the lactose (sugar) in milk is very slow burning. I use Arnica Montana...both in pill form and cream. Take a few extra supplements. Exercise, such as walking or hiking. I keep aspirin on hand for the headaches and body aches if I need them. Take some nice long soaks in the tub. Do some reading or other things that occupy my mind. Take a nap or rest as much as I can find the extra time for. Do some stuff just for you...go shopping, rent a chick flick, have your nails done. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant. What I don't do is get caught up in or put too much importance on the emotions. I let them come and go and keep reminding myself that it will soon pass. It's nice to hear from the dominant that I scened with....that is always a pick me up. Hope some of this helps.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: sub drop (10/6/2007 7:27:28 PM)
Well you can try to play with tops who are fine with giving what aftercare you need for the time right after you play. Tops who are fine with talking on the phone for awhile the day or so after. But really, just take care of yourself- eat well, drink well, rest well, recognize that it goes away and that no one dies of subbdrop. http://www.collarchat.com/m_743958/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#744221 sub drop please help http://www.collarchat.com/m_649399/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#649697 Coming down from the glorious heights http://www.collarchat.com/m_522013/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#522021 sub drop, definitions, causes, cures, and prevention http://www.collarchat.com/m_512884/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#513003 Your insight is needed please http://www.collarchat.com/m_487853/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#488083 sub drop (2) http://www.collarchat.com/m_460639/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#460834 regaining balance after deep subspace http://www.collarchat.com/m_202168/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#202459 sub-drop what is it? http://www.collarchat.com/m_345419/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#345462 highs and lows http://www.collarchat.com/m_398653/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#399164 subdrop or what?

MaamJay -> RE: sub drop (10/6/2007 7:44:23 PM)
To Me, a responsible Dominant SHOULD be willing to be in contact in the following days to ease the sub through drop if it happens. I get very upset as a Domme when I only find out much later that a sub did drop ... and fibbed when I phoned to check on them and didn't call Me when the drop occurred. So please, do the right thing by the Dominant and let them know when it happens so they can make the responsible choice to look after you. If it's just not going to be possible for good reasons for the Dominant to be in contact, then pre-arrange a subby friend who can help you through. As LA says, no one dies of it, but it does help to have someone to talk to. Maam Jay aka violet[A]

slave4Darby3d -> RE: sub drop (10/8/2007 12:04:17 AM)
you know...i've never really recognized sub drop because I already suffer from depression. I thought it was just me and my normal cyclic drops...since my Dom and I usually play on a weekend and then he and i go back to our respective responsibiltiies during the week. so I get a drop from missing him anyway...

sammiebabygirl -> RE: sub drop (10/8/2007 2:12:59 PM)
One of the reasons I do not play intensely with casual play partners is that I do experience the drop and it is very emotional for me. I experience some of the flu like symptoms that mistoferin mentions and I think that is pretty much equal to what one goes through when detoxing from a drug. But, most of it is very emotional for me. I get teary, for what seems to be no reason. I will always make sure that I am well hydrated and nourished before and after because I am diabetic and intense scenes burn a lot of energy. I have been known to crash otherwise. However, diabetic or not, when the drop hits, there is nothing more soothing than a nice chocolate bar. [:D] jen

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