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Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 8:36:56 PM

roland23

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Call me old-fashioned, but I am amazed at the number of collared subs who are seeking dominant men. If they are so happy being collared why are they looking for dominant men.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 8:38:59 PM

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Because people don't think to change that setting when they're collared.

Because people don't realize that you can deactivate your profile on the other side and still access the forums.

Because they don't feel like changing it.

Because they want to drive you crazy.

Take your choice of reasons.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 8:40:24 PM

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Are you assuming they are collared and still seeking merely because they have a profile on collarme?
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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 8:54:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: roland23

Call me old-fashioned, but I am amazed at the number of collared subs who are seeking dominant men. If they are so happy being collared why are they looking for dominant men.

because i can and did with Daddy's permission finding my SO/Dom here

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 8:58:07 PM

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Reality check. This is the internet where anything is possible...even a collared sub looking for another Dominant. On the internet collared means nothing at all. So.......if you're looking for an internet relationship collared or uncollared means the same thing.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 9:35:38 PM

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Well, as someone mentioned, a profile may simply be outdated.

However, online for sure there's tons of people who play out entire fantasy dramas- and really get off on having oodles of affairs going on. It's not "real" to them in terms of real consequences- even if they claim their undying devotion as they pretend to cyber sit on their doms lap and plead so sweetly to enter a chat room after they've already entered the chat room. Behind the scenes, there's an amazing array of backstabbing, trysts and multiple collarings it's amazing they manage to stay together for 6 months before agonizing falling into the arms of the next best thing to come along.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/6/2007 9:55:29 PM

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Its just a guy who wants to keep having hng's sending him bad porno.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 7:28:28 AM

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It is also possible they have checked dominant in their profile inorder to chat with them as simply as ls friends rather than for any kind of active participation, which is what I had done, I cannot answer though for others

I had maintained my accounts while I had a dom and indicated a cyber collar in my profile and specified that that I was only interested in friendships. and have made a couple good friends who still are simply that even now when I am no longer collared I can turn to them for advice as a novice sub, just chat about weather, family or politics, etc, they have been my cyber shoulders and support when things in my personal life was not going well with my son and my health as am I doing the same for one who has now developed a serious health problem which may impact his life seriously even robbing him of his career. My dom was aware of the friendships as I would discuss with him
I am not collared at the current time , but those so called doms that had contacted me then wanting a D/s relationships despite the fact I indicated I was invovled with a cyber collar at the time and were a aware of but still wanted play sessions or wanted me to dump my dom for them became screened out of my current search because of their lack of respect for another doms property.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 7:32:15 AM

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quote:

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It is also possible they have checked dominant in their profile inorder to chat with them as simply as ls friends rather than for any kind of active participation, which is what I had done, I cannot answer though for others

I think we have a definite winner here. Just because the "seeking dominant" doesn't mean they want to be collared by them. The only way to find out the specifics is by *gasp* reading the profile.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 7:40:55 AM

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I was just about to say the same thing.

I once knew a Dom who required his slave to meet and bring home other dominant men to maintain her sexual appitite as he never had sex with his slaves. the process was rathe ridtasteful to me but it was what he did and so who was I to judge.

I have also seen a large amount of Online Owned slaves who have permission from thier Online Master to fine a Real Time Dominant Partner as long as there is no collar involved.

I perosnally don't get it, I have never done the online owner thing but to each thier own.

I also agree that it is possibly Outdated but I have seen the profiles that say that the girl is Owner in the Introduction and then under that it says loking for Dominant males only for discrete play. I think the whole thing is outside of my abilities to cope with but again to each thier own.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 8:44:44 AM

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Online collaring and D/s activities are often more fantasy based than real life.
It is often a virtual reality to many, you can also collar people that you meet
in Second Life, but is it real?

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 11:25:21 AM

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roland,
some Masters do give their girls permission to seek others out. A girl was lifted her monogamy rule, so that she may find what is out there as well.
Aside from that, there are other reasons, you know how they say the grass is always greener, there are those who before they leave what they have do search for another one as well. Very hard transition from a runaway slave girl. If she is not mistaken do Dominant men look down upon girls who "take off the collar" as opposed to "being released??"
Another reason is a positive one. There have been times Master has sent a girl out to find another dominant who is versed and experienced in particular forms of play so that he may gain more knowledge. Its a test for her as well. Finding someone knowledgeable, then using that knowledge upon her. (of course he does his own research too)....
Seeking another dominant can also give pespectives that both the sub, and current Master never had. Its a great networking, social skill. Plus in poly and swapping meets, it is a good healthy practice that everyone gets to know each other. (then again throwing your slave to the wolves of now knowing who the person is, can be another form of excitement)
Roland, there are collared subs that are out there seeking. Be grateful that they are genuine and telling you that they are collared subs. They flat out tell you they have a Master/owner/Mistress which shows a sign of trust and honesty...the question comes into play do their Master know of there actions????

wishes you well,
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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 2:03:10 PM

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Maybe, just maybe, it is because some don't read the profiles of some Doms/Masters who have stated specifically that they are seeking uncollared and unattached subs/slaves and as such, they hunt some of them down like foxes. Of course, this is just my humble opinion, but in some respects, it happens. *sigh*

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 2:37:50 PM

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For me it is always to find friends and to network and just talk to people, without any kind of BDSM activities. I like hearing about what other people are doing, how they discovered their desires. Although I am collared, I list that I am looking for dominant men, women and submissive men and women as well. It makes sense to me.

It doesn't have to mean that just because you are looking for a dom to talk to that you want them to dominate you. Its like saying that because I list as straight or whatever the case may be that I want to sleep with every man that I come across. I am a sub looking for friends, not for a dominant, just like a straight woman may look for male friends without wanting to sleep with them.

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RE: Collared subs ISO Dominant Men - 10/7/2007 3:51:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OrrisKitten

For me it is always to find friends and to network and just talk to people, without any kind of BDSM activities. I like hearing about what other people are doing, how they discovered their desires. Although I am collared, I list that I am looking for dominant men, women and submissive men and women as well. It makes sense to me.

It doesn't have to mean that just because you are looking for a dom to talk to that you want them to dominate you. Its like saying that because I list as straight or whatever the case may be that I want to sleep with every man that I come across. I am a sub looking for friends, not for a dominant, just like a straight woman may look for male friends without wanting to sleep with them.

I understand that logic, which is why it's a good idea to indicate that in your profile that you are seeking friends only. Me personally, as much as it is important to have friends, I'd like to have someone who meets the stipulations shown in my profile, but as with all other things, it takes time to find that one person to complete the other.

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