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DMFParadox -> RE: Cumming (10/8/2007 4:03:41 AM)
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ORIGINAL: BadRomeo
You should not fake. It break the trust of your Dom/Domme. He/She are your life partner, they are there to grown up and evolve with you. And as Dom/Domme, have we not make the vow to not just protect the sub but to help them to be a better person?... that include that they learn to have sexual pleasures in life... If you have to fake it all the time, it's mean that He/She have a problem or you do'nt communicate what's wrong.
Bah. Maybe it's jaded of me, but I really don't give a rat's ass if the girl peaks or not; and if she fakes it, and it's a good performance, I can appreciate that as much as the real thing. If I want sex, and we have time, then we are bloody well having sex. And if I'm not in the mood but she is, then I'll give it the old college try, but if I'm physically exhausted or oversensitized, then I'll switch to being creative and making her work for it. But I usually go through with it. I don't care if she comes or fakes, because I know that 'fake it til you make it' is more than a fortune cookie filler; it WORKS. And a girl that convinces herself she's had the best orgasm of her life... HAS had the best orgasm of her life.
Technique is only a small, small part of what gets a girl off. The majority of it happens in the push/pull of seduction. But for those of you that are missing the O-boat on a regular basis, here are some tips for the guys: 1) hold her back at some point. Hands (or arms) physically applying pressure to her back. And work it back there, a bit--keep in rhythm, make it seem as if you're just trying for a stronger grip. They LOVE that. 2) Keep a good rhythm going; and staying inside her is more important than going for the long stroke. The worst joykill in the world for a girl is falling out of her... unless it's timed right, completely intentional and aimed to tease. Then it rocks her world. 3) Doggy style, make sure you have a position where you can move really, really fast. That's the best feature of the position from her perspective (although the sensation of helplessness is appealing, too, from some reports), so make use of it. 4) Spit is the best lubricant. 5) If you're both tired but still randy, one of my exes taught me this position where you're side-by-side, she's facing away from you--kind of like spooning--but she puts her top-most leg between yours and you use it for leverage in penetrating. Hands are free to roam, and you won't slip out or get uncomfortable for a loong time. It's a fun way for you both to watch TV, read, or just have a conversation, but keep a slow rhythm going for HOURS. I highly recommend it. Experiment with positions like that; and remember girls, a lot of the time it's not about the climax for the guy either, it's about the contact. Or, in my case, the demonstration that you're my absolute property and I can do whatever the hell I want with you, for as long or as short as I want to... but yeah. It's a comfort thing. Don't worry about making him feel like he's giving you the heights of pleasure--just make sure he knows that you're getting what you actually *do* want from him. ^_^
Cheers
Edited to get the addressed audience straight. I was telling the girls to hold their own backs and the guys to not worry about making him happy.... which is fine for the non-heteros, but confusing to both me and the heterosexual audience. So, yeah. Fixed. Tired. Going to sleep.
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