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Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 1:14:54 PM

MostSynfulSmyle

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I have recently been contacted by a man here on CM who has no real life experience, but has felt for many years that he is a Dominant. He feels he is now ready to begin exploring his dominance in real time. He has asked me to consider submitting to him and to help him lean how to be a good Dominant. His request set me to thinking- besides a natural inclination to dominance, what attributes and skills do you think a good Dominant needs to possess? What would you share with someone seeking your help to become an honourable practicing Dominant? Is is possible to "train" a Dominant if you are strictly submissive, or does this stray to far into the topping from below category?

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RE: Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 3:19:06 PM

laurell3

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This was just discussed here http://www.collarchat.com/m_1329799/tm.htm

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RE: Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 3:28:53 PM

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i like the spell that was done in Practical Magick....

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RE: Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 3:47:22 PM

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The more submissive you are and willing to please him by letting it show, you dont have to say anything. He will then be free to show his dominance. Hopefully, he will know what to do with it by following his dominant instincts. Only if you give him instructions would it be topping from the bottom, unless he asks you specifically how you wish to be treated.

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RE: Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 5:07:51 PM

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The only thing that makes dominants differ from vanillas is the desire to have authority within their personal relationships. That's it.

As far as topping from the bottom- well that's one of the BEST ways to help teach a dominant how to express themselves well.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_926661/mpage_1/key_characteristics/tm.htm#927025
most important virtues

http://www.collarchat.com/m_158262/mpage_1/key_dominant%252Ccharacteristics/tm.htm#158262
what is dominance?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_81695/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#81695
What are the signs/traits of a good dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_176730/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#176730
"real doms"

http://www.collarchat.com/m_223089/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#223089
a submissives perspective

http://www.collarchat.com/m_257771/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#257771
what I look for in a good owner

http://www.collarchat.com/m_284665/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#284665
top ten characteristics I want in a dom?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_339652/mpage_1/key_dom%252Ctraits/tm.htm#339652
nature of dominance

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RE: Building a better Dominant - 10/7/2007 5:41:15 PM

leatherette

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

As far as topping from the bottom- well that's one of the BEST ways to help teach a dominant how to express themselves well.

YeP! Lucky.
may I descibe something I saw at a club?

Newbie Domme - more experienced male sub, both mid twenties - he tied to a cross.
He told her exactly everything on how, what, even it appeared why.. things are done.

She showed little self confidence, but he reassured her and was patient and helpful.
He directed her exactly where and how to place clothes pins around his nipples.
He looked in heaven.

While I have no leaning towards topping - if I were her - though pleased with his helpful assistance - I would have slapped his smirkingly blissful face just a touch... and a as reminder. But.. then again..what do I know about topping?

Just a RL example to assist..

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