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RE: anal play - 10/10/2007 8:18:43 AM   
QueensWay


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My first Domme a long time ago had began to use my rectum for insertion of toys and started with a vibrating bullet and then we moved on to large toys. Before hand really clean the cavity prior to anal play with store disposable enemas.

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RE: anal play - 10/10/2007 9:28:43 AM   
solvr70


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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMaam
Here's a link with an inexpensive little bottle you could buy and try out.    M
http://www.dear-lady.com/db.cgi?sid=7100909330504&db=default&Department=Adult+Toys&view_records=GO&ww=on&Popular=Common&sb=7&sort=Price&so=ascend&Category=Oils+and+Lubricants&Features=Condom+Safe&nh=6&mh=1.

Oh yes. That link brought up ForPlay. i have tried that and it seems to be slick and long lasting. Was just looking for things that would be slicker or longer lasting while still being as slick.

many thanks.

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RE: anal play - 10/10/2007 12:19:53 PM   
solvr70


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ORIGINAL: PhoenixRed

Yes, I am sure it's safe.  I'm not talking about the pressure of a fire hose here! lol  You attach a water diverter for the hose between the showerhead and the supply pipe.  It has a regulation knob, so that you can adjust the pressure accordingly in fact, you can adjust it so that only as much water flows as would through a gravity enema. It doesn't take much.  I've used it myself.  It has a small attachment for anal cleansing and a larger one for vaginal cleansing.  Usually only takes the subs about 5 min to be squeeky clean.

BTW, I know it's probably common knowledge, but as for using the lubes, no silicone lube on cyberskin (my favorite) or silicone toys, only water-based.



the pressure does seem to be a bit dangerous from everything i have read. the only exception i have heard of, and just in passing, is when there is a prefessional colon cleansing done, that (from what i have heard) does use some pressure, but has an input (warm water flowing in) and an output (for drainage of waste) at the same time.

seems they are big with celebs, but if they were more available, and not just a celeb thing, might be a very good option for a cleansing that would keep me squeeky clean for quite a while.

i don't always have the 2 days notice to follow the protocol goddessblaze mentioned. but if i had One taking me regularlly, that sounds like an excellent idea as well

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RE: anal play - 10/10/2007 2:35:20 PM   
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Hey solvr70, without knowing your sources (i.e. what you have read, from whence the information comes, and what kind of pressure those sources are using), I really can't comment any further other than to say that I, my mate and my subs have all used it and no one's had any problems.  The attachments are stainless steel and easily cleaned and sanitized.  If you want to check it out, search eBay for Stainless Steel Shower Bidet/Enema System.  Best prices I've found are from a seller called picturebrite and you can get it for less than $40 (I recently got one for a sub from that same source so he could use it at home).  

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RE: anal play - 10/10/2007 3:10:50 PM   
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Hi all. Just wanted to let you know a few things other than strap-on or dildo use that one of my subs and I do for anal play that you might find interesting/amusing.  Maybe not.  Up to you. YMMV

1)  I have a pyrex dildo with a flanged base (can be used with a harness but I don't) and a completely straight shaft.  Have sub stand upright or bend forward (cuff him/her to furniture or something in front of them).  Lube up said pyrex dildo with silicone lube.  Damn slick at this point.  Put a cock ring, O-ring or something similar on dildo.  Attach weights to ring ( I use fishing weights).  Insert dildo into sub.  Tell sub they have to hold it in or they'll get punished.  If they can hold it for a pre-specified amount of time, praise them and then add more weight. Repeat until either they can't hold it or you get bored with it.  I'll tell ya folks, I don't care how much control they have, at some point that slicked up glass is going to slip out when you get enough weight on it.  I decrease the number of smacks with the paddle (if they lose it) as I increase weight..hey, it is harder for them! lol  To increase the degree of difficulty of this task, a) make them try to hold it during flogging, using a pinwheel, etc. or b) keep spreading their legs wider apart.  My boy's record so far with this task has been 16 oz. I'd be interested, if any of you decide to try it, how much weight your lovelies could handle.

2)  The weighted anal beads.  Gosh I like these!  4 metal, weighted spheres connected by nylon cord with a ring loop at the bottom.  Lube up well and insert into sub.  I usually have him bent over at 90 degrees when I do this.  Then I proceed to flog him, do sensation play, whatever.  I have a vibrating massage glove. Every once and a wile, pull the string taut and make all the beads vibrate.  Never fails to elicit a moan.  Ya wanna have some fun with it?  Again with the fishing weights.  I usually add an 8 oz weight to the ring at the end of the cord.  A bit harder to hold them in now, but not nearly as hard as the slicked up glass.  After attaching the weight, pull it back and make it swing like a pendulum.  Proceed again to flog, etc and occasionally vibrate the beads again.  When ready, give sub two nice slaps, one on either ass cheek, and pull out beads rapidly while doing so.  That makes that AHHHHHHH noise come out.  Loads of fun.  Can increase degree of difficulty with same methods described above for pyrex.

If you'd like to make it even more interesting, add one more sub and make it a competition! Everyone has fun.  I'm really glad my boy is so enthusiastic about my experimentation with new and different ideas!

Hope at least this was amusing for you.  Would like to hear from both sides of the fence what you think of these two examples of anal play.

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RE: anal play - 11/26/2007 7:42:46 AM   
solvr70


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PhoenixRed

Hi all. Just wanted to let you know a few things other than strap-on or dildo use that one of my subs and I do for anal play that you might find interesting/amusing.  Maybe not.  Up to you. YMMV

1)  I have a pyrex dildo with a flanged base (can be used with a harness but I don't) and a completely straight shaft.  Have sub stand upright or bend forward (cuff him/her to furniture or something in front of them).  Lube up said pyrex dildo with silicone lube.  Damn slick at this point.  Put a cock ring, O-ring or something similar on dildo.  Attach weights to ring ( I use fishing weights).  Insert dildo into sub.  Tell sub they have to hold it in or they'll get punished.  If they can hold it for a pre-specified amount of time, praise them and then add more weight. Repeat until either they can't hold it or you get bored with it.  I'll tell ya folks, I don't care how much control they have, at some point that slicked up glass is going to slip out when you get enough weight on it.  I decrease the number of smacks with the paddle (if they lose it) as I increase weight..hey, it is harder for them! lol  To increase the degree of difficulty of this task, a) make them try to hold it during flogging, using a pinwheel, etc. or b) keep spreading their legs wider apart.  My boy's record so far with this task has been 16 oz. I'd be interested, if any of you decide to try it, how much weight your lovelies could handle.

2)  The weighted anal beads.  Gosh I like these!  4 metal, weighted spheres connected by nylon cord with a ring loop at the bottom.  Lube up well and insert into sub.  I usually have him bent over at 90 degrees when I do this.  Then I proceed to flog him, do sensation play, whatever.  I have a vibrating massage glove. Every once and a wile, pull the string taut and make all the beads vibrate.  Never fails to elicit a moan.  Ya wanna have some fun with it?  Again with the fishing weights.  I usually add an 8 oz weight to the ring at the end of the cord.  A bit harder to hold them in now, but not nearly as hard as the slicked up glass.  After attaching the weight, pull it back and make it swing like a pendulum.  Proceed again to flog, etc and occasionally vibrate the beads again.  When ready, give sub two nice slaps, one on either ass cheek, and pull out beads rapidly while doing so.  That makes that AHHHHHHH noise come out.  Loads of fun.  Can increase degree of difficulty with same methods described above for pyrex.

If you'd like to make it even more interesting, add one more sub and make it a competition! Everyone has fun.  I'm really glad my boy is so enthusiastic about my experimentation with new and different ideas!

Hope at least this was amusing for you.  Would like to hear from both sides of the fence what you think of these two examples of anal play.



my first thought was the pyrex would be hard as stone. not my first pick in a dildo.

however, it would be clear and that would be something that would show a gape, and quite a few other things, that no other kind of dildo could. i have to think about that one now.

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RE: anal play - 11/26/2007 2:46:55 PM   
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I'm a bit lucky in this.  My sub came pre-trained for anal play, so all I had to do was dust off the strap on and I was, in business, shall We say.  With subs prior, I've had to do the "work your way up" method.

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RE: anal play - 11/26/2007 2:50:41 PM   
unravel


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As stated above, i think the going progressively larger, making sure this is not harmful, using lots of lube, is the way to go.
unravel

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RE: anal play - 11/26/2007 6:39:20 PM   
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mistressfran,

quote:

DianeB269:
For your first few sessions, buy a thin, 5" strapon and some good lube.
Give him a enema before you do anything.
Then I would start with one finger for 5 or 10 minutes and move up to two fingers for 5 or 10 minutes.
When you are putting the strapon in him, go in very, very slow until you feel he is relaxed.
After that the rest is up to you and him...


Diane's advice is spot on.  I'll add two thoughts though as follows:

1.) Enema's are an acquired taste.  For some, enemas make the anus sore and they remove the limited, natural oils and lubrication at the opening and just inside the opening.  I like enemas quite a lot, but if your partner has never had one, this could be an abrupt starting place when you're already trying something new (anal penetration).  As an alternative, I suggest your submissive not eat anything for three to five hours prior to play and have a full bowel movement when this period has elapsed.  Then, your submissive can have a shower and wash well "down there".  This is as good a prep as any and leaves the anal opening less agitated than an enema.  Also, with this approach, you won't have the potential for "enema oopsies" - the expulsion of liquid that sometimes gets trapped in the colon (which can occur for a few hours after an enema).

2.) Regarding "go in very, very slow until you feel he is relaxed" and "after that the rest is up to you and him".  Keep in mind that the anus and anal cavity are not like a vagina in that the are not self lubricating.  Thus, once you get into the rhythm of actually fucking your partner, from time-to-time you may need to ad more lube.  Your partner can tell you when things are starting to feel "dry and sore" down there, but ideally, as you fuck, periodically you'd drip some extra lube on the dildo.  While it's a bit of a balancing act, this approach will everything go more smoothly and enjoyable for both of you. :-)

Elan.

< Message edited by ElanSubdued -- 11/26/2007 6:45:06 PM >

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RE: anal play - 11/28/2007 10:31:49 AM   
MistressZia


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My advice first and foremost is patience..

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