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RE: I need some advice - 10/11/2007 6:36:31 PM

DiurnalVampire

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ORIGINAL: ashleyo99

Hello, I've been tryning my hand at being a domme for about a year now; my boyfriend is my sub and he used to domme over me and still does in our everyday life. So, to make a long story short when I'm domming its almost like hes still domming from the bottom. I need some helpful hints or advice to help my situation. Any good advice my relationship could depend on it. Thanks- Ash

Im a little confused as to if you mean your are Domme only in the bedroom, more like being a Top, or if you are trying to be a Domme more often. If your boyfriend is Dom in the relationship and often in the bedroom, he probably isnt sub. He might be a switch, or just a Dom that enjoys bottoming to you on occasion.
To wat extent do you want to take control?
Every time you are in the bedroom? All the time? Are you going to trade in the bedroom and does he get to Dom too?
Before you figure out how to get what you want, you have to figure out what it is you actualy want.
There are very different ways to go about getting short term control as opposed to more constant control, sexual versus mental.

DV

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