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new boy - 10/9/2007 11:38:46 AM

johnny7691

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i have decided to dip my toe,i am a seasoned swinger but have been recomended to try this out ,a friend said im a natural,lol,but wondered if there is a local friend who could show me the ropes ,is there a meeting place ,or is there a way to go about things ,a protocle as it were,
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RE: new boy - 10/9/2007 11:49:07 AM

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Try looking up local munches in your area. Do some of the work yourself first - read up, research etc.

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RE: new boy - 10/9/2007 12:27:37 PM

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thanks for that,i am trying to chat but it is tricky when your new to how people are on here,but im getting there,i struggle to be anythng other than polite in chat ,lol

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RE: new boy - 10/9/2007 12:47:26 PM

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Hi
I have mailed you privately as we are from the same part of town......
lucky you

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RE: new boy - 10/9/2007 12:52:30 PM

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I took a quick look at your profile and I see you have decided to identify as a switch.
That is probably a wise choice since you are not sure what you want, but you should be clear about that in your profile. And with that information tucked into My pocket, I will be honest in My assessment.
You say you are a seasoned swinger. Do you have a partner? If so, you had best be up front about that.
When you are told that you are a "natural" for this lifestyle, what does that mean? Are you simply interested in exploring more fetishes than those readily available at your local swing club? If so, that makes you a sexual bottom or top.
There is a lot more to this lifestyle than getting together for some kinky play on a regular or occasional basis. So you need to get educated as to all the aspects and then figure out what you want and how you should best present yourself. You may be all for having a lovely FemDom take you in hand and show you the ropes as far as strap-on play or lovely impact sensations. You may be all for finding a Male Dom mentor who will teach you how to properly wield a single tail or put a pair of breasts into bondage. But that is only about the play. And I am all too aware of how the swinging culture works. In fact, most of the folks I know who like private "BDSM" parties, are nothing more than what I like to call "swingers with a twist". They have no ability or desire to carry the dynamic into their everyday life. And that is fine for them. But it can cause confusion and disappointment when and if they are approached by someone who is seeking more and thinks those Dominants or submissives are open to that "more".
I came to this lifestyle from the world of swing. The biggest difference is that I joyfully embraced all that it could reperesent. I wanted much more than the sexual thrill of adding more than vanilla swapping and being wild and crazy at the club to My experience.
So just be careful about how you represent yourself. Do find local munches and speak honestly about yourself and what you are trying to learn. Don't be impatient or think it is unfair if you don't instantly find someone or someones who are looking for more than a willing student who wants only to learn more about sexual topping and bottoming. No real protocols should be necessary. Just be respectful and don't make assumptions that the attractive Lady you are chatting up wants to hear about your sexual exploits as a seasoned swinger. (Been there, done that...*Yuck*) Just cautioning here. It is easy to be misunderstood and it is easy for you to misunderstand.
Welcome to the boards.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 10/9/2007 12:58:30 PM >

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RE: new boy - 10/9/2007 1:09:46 PM

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